WHAT DO YOU THINK? | Something about Prince William’s proposal really disturbs me… does it disturb you?

First things first…

The project we’ve been working on for what feels like an eternity is finally – FINALLY – coming to your faces, next-week-style.  That’s right; a brand new, fully remodeled The Knotty Bride is launching at the beginning of next week!  I am not kidding around.  This is like, happening.  Wow, when I write that and read it back, my heart beats a little faster (not as fast as I described in yesterday’s post, but pretty darned fast).  The site is a beaut; it’s colorful, but not too colorful, it’s still extremely user-friendly (something I know many of you love about the layout of this little guy) and it’s, *ehhem* pretty easy on the eyes if we do say so ourselves.  We hope you love it, and we can’t wait to unveil it. :)

Ok, next order of business:

If you weren’t busy yesterday waiting for the Beatles’ anthology you were trying to download from iTunes to actually download while everyone else in the world was doing the exact same thing and slowing it down to a snail’s pace, then I take it you heard about Kate Middleton’s engagement to Prince William.  We’re so happy for them, aren’t we?

It’s a been A WHILE in the making, and I have to admit, I’m a little freakin’ excited about how all of this is going to unravel.  But one aspect of this heegantay piece of news troubles me a bit…

He gave Kate – who will from now on be known as Catherine (my middle name, SUCKAS) – his mother, Princess Diana’s, 18-carat sapphire engagement ring, according to the NY Daily News.  I completely get why he did it, and I actually LOVE why he did it.  Everything about that decision, in terms of its goal to keep the late Princess Di involved in his and Kate’s life as they embark on their new life together, is a beautiful thing.  In fact, I adore his decision.

She is so adorable, isn’t she?  I just wanna squeeze those cheeks.

However.

Our beloved Princess Diana did not have a pleasant life, through and through.  Her life with Prince Charles, Will’s father, was marked by a deep sadness and despair, due in large part to his unfaithfulness.  Princess Di lived through years of pain while married to Charles, and to add insult to injury, she died a horrific, early death.

Personally, while I would be honored and think it incredibly meaningful to wear the ring of a young man’s mother, especially when that mother meant so much to him, and to the people of my country… it would trouble me a little bit that I was wearing a ring that, to me, represented hardship, sadness and pain.

Many people love rings that hold meaning and that were worn by others before them, while still others shy away from this approach, fearful of the spirit the ring may carry with it.

I’m curious – how do you feel?  Forgetting that we’re talking about the hot Mr. Wills (‘Wills’ is his nickname, fyi) here for a minute, and that Princess Di, a modern day angel if there ever was one, is involved in the decision.  Just think about it – if your fiance’s mother spent much of her life depressed and cheated on by her husband, and he gave you the engagement ring that his mother’s adulterous former husband gave her… would you think twice?

Images: NY Daily News

Weigh in below; I’d love to get a discussion going on this.  No one’s really talking about this, and it’s been on my mind ever since the story broke.

xoxo!  – Alison

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38 comments

  1. TheDemoiselle on November 17, 2010

    Kinda freaks me out BUT to each his & her own. Despite the slight creepiness, there’s no argument that ring is GORGEOUS!!!

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  2. Anonymous on November 17, 2010

    I wore my mother’s engagement ring on my right hand at my wedding. My parents divorced when I was 14 and she died of cancer when I was 23. I see nothing wrong with wearing Diana’s ring. It’s the highest honor that he finds her worthy to wear something of his mother’s.

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  3. Kristin Gast on November 17, 2010

    Honestly, I feel the same way. I don’t believe that the ring is “cursed” by any means, but it doesn’t represent happy memories or feelings. However, for a man who has paid tribute to his mother ever since her death (volunteering, taking on her causes, etc.) it could represent love for his mother, and now, Kate. Maybe?

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  4. Brit @ Landlocked Bride on November 17, 2010

    That’s an interesting point. I’d be curious to know if that was a ring that she loved and loved to wear, despite her troubled marriage.

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  5. Ariella on November 17, 2010

    OMG! I’m so happy someone FINALLY said this! I’ve been thinking the exact same thing. I really don’t know much about the life of Princess Di, but I knew enough to know that she had a hard life and that ultimately, her marriage failed. I do love that he wanted to give Kate something so special to him, but at the same time, can’t help but feel like the ring has some sort of bad energy on it. But, maybe it will prove as a daily reminder for Will to honor his mother’s memory and to treat his wife with the love and respect his mother deserved from his father.

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  6. Amma // Beyond Beyond on November 17, 2010

    I wholly concur – I was like awww he gave you his Mother’s ring, then I was like AAAAAAAAAAARGGGHHH he gave you his Mother’s ring. I just hope that the ‘curse’ is borken and that they have a beautiful future. Although the being from the UK – I am a reaching Royal Wedding overload and it is barely 24 hours.

    P.S Can’t wait to see the new site next week :)

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  7. Jaime Carter on November 17, 2010

    I struggle with this too. I love why he did it and I think its a beautiful way to honor his mom, but that ring certainly went through a lot with Lady Di and Prince Charles. I PRAY that Kate and Wills have a happy long marriage together—Wills doesn’t seem like so much of a cad as Prince Charles (no offesne!).

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  8. Jennifer on November 17, 2010

    I think it was insanely romantic of him to give her his mother’s ring. It has real meaning to him and he felt she is perfect to receive it. I do not believe in a curse on a ring because a marriage did not last. I’m pretty sure William was thinking the ring represents Diana not the marriage.

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  9. Sarah on November 17, 2010

    My grandmother died very young and my G’pa gave her ring to his next TWO wives…it’s now on my finger and my engagement ring…I wear it with pride knowing I can change it’s fate and make it a part of a long & happy marriage…Kate can do the same. It’s a wonderful gesture on Wills part.

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  10. Bret on November 17, 2010

    I think there’s something nice about it, actually – I think we can honor our parents regardless of the life they led. Rings, after all, are pieces of metal – they don’t have souls. But what they DO have are stories, history, and tremendous emotional importance – and with an object that will last as long as a ring will, you have the opportunity to add new chapters to its life. I’d like to think our little Prince felt he wanted to honor his mother and her memory, her contributions to his life and his identity, and forge the way for a new memory.

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  11. Lena at La Petite Coquin on November 17, 2010

    It was my first thought, too! After “Oooh, wedding!”, of course.

    I thought his explanation for why he chose to give her Diana’s ring was beautiful, and obviously the sentiment with which he chose to give it. BUT, I think that receiving a ring that represented a marriage as painful as Princess Di and Charles’ would feel inauspicious at best!

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  12. Ashley on November 17, 2010

    I’d choose to think of it as a way to almost right a wrong – Imprint a happy marriage over the troubled one the ring originally began life in…

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  13. Claudia on November 17, 2010

    My Mr. and I talked about this very topic last night. On one hand I wouldn’t want it- the marriage ended in divorce, she was unhappy, he cheated. On the other hand I see his reasoning for giving it to her. Diana was his mother and he wants to have a part of her with them. But in the end, I personally would not be thrilled, I’d rather have a ring from a successful marriage. Maybe she will change the fate of the ring? I hope so!

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  14. Guest on November 17, 2010

    Diana cheated on Charles, too, remember. She wasn’t a totally innocent angel in that relationship. I don’t believe in a curse on a ring, so if Kate is happy with it (and I assume that she is since they’ve obviously been talking about marriage for quite some time) then more power to her.

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  15. Postcards and pretties on November 17, 2010

    omg i thought the same thing when i heard wills gave kate his mother’s ring but i love the sentiment behind it. the wedding is going to be epic!!!

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  16. tenthoubride on November 17, 2010

    i hadn’t thought about it before now, but i’m sure they’ve talked about it…i decided against wearing my mom’s ring personally, for similar “it’s been through too much” reasons, but you know…they probably have their reasons.

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  17. Bcjennyjen on November 17, 2010

    Actually, it’s been revealed that Kate had a number of rings to choose from and that’s the one she selected….

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    • Marlon on November 30, 2012

      Thats what every fake jewerly does when you wear it to much. Daont wear it in the sheowr or wet it alot, sometimes when you sweat it leaves it to.So dont wear it everyday only when your going somewhere out, You can get the green ring off in the sheowr so dont worry to much.

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  18. Elaine on November 17, 2010

    I think it’s heartachingly sentimental but wish he’d been more original and they picked out a ring together like a modern bride…too easy but also too sweet if there is such a thing!

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  19. Doesnt Matter on November 17, 2010

    i think ya’ll are thinking too hard about it. Yes, Diana and Charles had a rough marriage – but from what her son remembers of her completely different than what, we, as by standers saw. So when he handed down his mother’s ring – it’s more than just one he could have picked out from Tiffany’s because some very very close to him wore it before. It’s touching and if Will’s anything human, would probably have his feelings hurt by people even thinking about it.

    AND you gotta keep the family jewels you know… in the family. HA!
    -jas

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  20. JD on November 17, 2010

    Although Diana worn this during her marriage, we must also remember that when this ring was chosen it was in its purest form of LOVE. She also wore the ring once her divorce was finalized as well, which says to me that the ring held some symbolic reference for her & she did not look at it as something that represents sadness.

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  21. Lori on November 17, 2010

    I don’t pretend to KNOW that William is as good as all this, but I think he may be, given the close-knit affectionate bond he did have with his mother…that he probably ASKED Kate if she would be comfortable with that or prefer something of her own. If a man did that without asking me, I agree, I may be put off. But if he asked, I think it would be so special that he wanted me to have something that belonged to his mother that he adored so implicitly.

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  22. Annie Packman on November 17, 2010

    As someone who wears an antique ring that had previously been part of a called-off engagement, here’s my take. I think it is what you make of it. It will only be troubling if they let it be, which it seems they have no intention of doing. I can relate. My ring’s “stigma” might have affected me if I’d let it, but at the end of the day I didn’t go down that troubled road. They see it as a sweet way to remember his mother and have her be apart of this, we should too. Let us also remember that Di picked out her own ring (not Charles) and William knows his fiancee’s taste and knew she would like it.

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  23. Weding Twitter on November 17, 2010

    I have no problem of using Diana’s engagement ring. We, the public, put our own thoughts and emotions on the ring and it’s symbolism. However. Diana loved that ring. She picked it out herself and still wore it after her divorce. There might be more to it that we are no privy to.
    *I* wear both my grandmother’s wedding rings… does that damn or bless me to have marriages just like theirs?

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  24. Estefy on November 17, 2010

    It really doesn’t bother me that he gave her that ring. I think it’s in homage to the kind of person she was and not representative of her life with Prince Charles. I also think that because he is giving it to Kate bc he wants to keep her memory alive in the celebration it gives it a terrific new meaning. I’m pretty sure she’s more than thrilled to have Princess Di’s ring! =)

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  25. ameralda on November 17, 2010

    Yeah… I like the idea of it being like a mark of a promise that he won’t make her so/as miserable overall…

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  26. kerry @ paper dahlia on November 18, 2010

    I think it’s sweet. He loved his mother and for all we know that could have been her favorite piece of jewelry. I think, being so close to Wills, Kate has gotten a side of the story none of us has.

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  27. Capclassique on November 18, 2010

    I totally thought the same thing, even though it was at the same time a lovely gesture to make. But, call me cynical, I think there was another factor here as well if Wills’ advisors had anything to do with it. Britain… not so happy right now. A LOT of cuts to public funding, endless talk of austerity measures, unions getting riled up, unemployment looming. Right now, a great big brand new sparkly diamond that taxpayers sponsor wouldn’t go down very well, even with those who love the whole royalty thing. They had to use an heirloom. It’s clever recycling, and doesn’t draw too much criticism from the public or media. And in terms of good will, what better than to remind everyone of the last royal wedding we fell in love with? Everyone’s a winner.

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  28. anna on November 18, 2010

    I didnt think this way at all. I thought it was incredibly sweet that he wants to have what he considers a part of his mother with his new wife. The ring doesn’t represent a failed marriage, it was given to Diana before the marriage failed, I think it represents hope and promise. Even though those promises were broken, it wasn’t the ring that caused it, it was the MAN (and his family, can you imagine having them for inlaws?????). And Wills seems to be much more like his mother than his father. Kate is a lucky woman, for many reasons. I wish them all the happiness in the world!

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  29. Megan Acosta on November 18, 2010

    I don’t think to them this was weird at all. I know Di’s life was sad from our point of view, but if he thought of her life that way, there’s no way he could move on. I’m sure all he thinks about his mother is nothing but the good and beautiful times. It is these moments I’m sure he is thinking of and sharing with Kate by giving her that ring. I also think that Di is such an icon, he had to include her somehow.

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  30. Map on November 18, 2010

    Prince William doesn’t think of Dianas unhappiness when he looks at this ring. He sees good memories of him and his mom and her wearing this ring. I think its sweet he brought his mom into the engagement annoucement kinda like a fu to the royals who all hated her so much.

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  31. Lfaith on November 19, 2010

    Isn’t it also a testament to a belief in their love though? Personally, I see it somewhat as a statement that the stigma, the history that we as the public all know of his parent’s marriage can be overcome by the love that they have and by making it right. You know they have talked about his parents and all of the nastiness that was the publicity of their marriage. To me, its William saying, my parents loved me, and in their way, they loved each other, and i want to take that love which I came from and grow it with you. To do right by my mother and be happy, which is all she wanted me to ever be.

    but then i’m just a sap too :)

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  32. Christie O. on November 19, 2010

    You might also consider that the ring was worn by a woman stronger than most and possessed of a rare inner beauty and grace. Like other readers, I too would be honored to wear such a ring. I would never have thought to tell my husband, “no thanks honey, that heirloom Tiffany solitaire that both your great grand mother and grand mother wore is inappropriate because your family has a history of …” Nope, can’t imagine

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  33. xxxx on November 20, 2010

    It would be an honor to where such a ring. It’s like a bf giving his mother or grandmother’s ring despite what happened in their lives. Diana’s past has nothing to do with the ring. She was a wonderful woman and died tragically.

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  34. Jessica on November 22, 2010

    I understand your train of thought, but I think what we all forget is that William’s (and Harry’s) relationship with Princess Di was most assuredly different than what any of us could ever know. If I were Kate, I would feel nothing but honored and delighted that he would want me to wear his mother’s ring — regardless of Di’s relationship with Prince Charles and how she lived and died.

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  35. Janet DeVito on November 23, 2010

    I followed the whole Di story from wedding to end. Parts of her life were sad, but William gave Kate the happy memory of the ring he saw on his mothers hand every day. I think that is sweet. No matter what trials she went through, he loved her. And William isnt making the same mistake his father did…he is marrying someone he truly loves (I hope!)

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  36. Lira on December 4, 2010

    I think it’s a beautiful sentiment. To the prince, the ring doesn’t represent his mother’s hard life. The ring represents a young boy’s memory of his beloved mother who died when he was still small. He didn’t know what was going on in her public life: he just knew his mother who held his hand, mussed his hair, and tucked him into bed. The ring represents all the love she gave him, and how he knows his mother would approve and love his fiancee, and how he wishes she could have met her. To me, that’s so incredibly lovely.

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  37. Hillary on December 14, 2010

    I have to side with the opinion that he is symbolizing something new and beautiful with the only physical thing he has left by which to remember his mother. All the Earth-bound memories of her hard life while she happened to be wearing that ring is not what he is giving to Kate. He is giving her the ring as the new matriarch in his life and showing her that he loves her comparably in amount, if not nature, to his mother. All this is merely speculation; the ring is just an object. People sometimes forget that rings are just to show the outside world that their heart is given happily to another forever.

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