Boudoir is a hot topic, obvs. We receive lots of questions from you guys about it, so now’s as good a time as any to devote a post to the topic and, hopefully, help you guys become a bit more comfortable with the concept.
If you’re considering doing your own shoot, then it’s likely the scariest aspect of your entire wedding planning experience (excluding mother-in-law interaction and the chair raising dance – while it is, no doubt, an immeasurable amount of fun, the thought of being propped up by intoxicated family members and friends scares the bejeezus out of me).
It’s no secret, boudoir is just a bit… frightening. And you know what? You have every right to be a little apprehensive. Getting naked in front of a stranger with a camera, ready to document every inch of your body is an intimidating concept.
For many people who aren’t very familiar with contemporary boudoir, the very word stirs up internal responses like “I’m not a trashy stripper” or “I don’t want to look like a trashy stripper” or all too common “I’m too chubby – I need to lose these last five to ten pounds before I can do my own shoot” … and that’s simply not the case. If you find the right photographer, that is. Because there really are just two ingredients to a good boudoir session: self-confidence, and a great photographer who is skilled in the art of boudoir. That’s it. And if you add a really good makeup artist and a little bubbly, well then you’re on your way to the most exhilarating photoshoot of your freaking LIFE.
Now, here’s where people like Kristen of Haute Boudoir come in. We love Kristen; she’s such a cool person, not to mention an amazing photographer, and she really knows how to capture the true beauty in a woman. You see, it’s not all about sex and skin. … Ok, it has a lot to do with skin, I won’t lie. :) But that’s not the endgame. It’s really about the experience, and if you let yourself enjoy the experience by allowing yourself to love your body and reveal that to the camera, you’re pretty much guaranteeing a great shoot – one that both your future hubby AND you will cherish for years to come.
A few words from Kristen on her approach:
My Boudoir style is inspired by fine art and fashion photography. Women spend so much time before their weddings getting into shape, and perfecting their skin and hair. Indulging in a private, intimate fashion photo shoot where you look and feel like an A-Lister or even supermodel is a great way to celebrate all that hard work! Plus, I’m sure the boudoir pictures will be the groom-to-be’s favorite! What makes me different is the overall approach. I take my inspiration from fashion magazines like Vogue, W and Vanity Fair, treating each woman like a star, complete with magazine quality retouching, and, if you want, full hair and makeup.
A lot of photographers are starting to do more boudoir, but I wanted to redefine what modern boudoir photography was for my clients. Many people think of boudoir as risque, cheesy or embarrassing, but boudoir shouldn’t necessarily be about stripping down to your underwear or birthday suit, or being made to look like a blurry, overly made up mess. Boudoir Photography should be a collaboration between the subject and the photographer, expressing and capturing the inherent beauty of the woman, which is really what defines sexy.
You don’t have to get this frisky… but who doesn’t love a nice perky butt shot, right? Am I right? I’m right. ;)
Pointer: this is one of the best positions to achieve the tushie perkiness of your dreams.
Shots depicting shyness are often the cutest ones. If you don’t feel totally confident, just go ahead and rock the shy thing you’ve got going. As evidenced below, it’s ADORBS!
Haute Boudoir is a member of Vendor Love, The Knotty Bride’s Preferred Vendor Guide.
So, ladies, I’m curious – please indulge me…
Let’s say you were considering a boudoir shoot of your own… would you feel comfortable stripping down to nothing but your birthday suit? Would you take it all the way to your skivvies but that’s where it ends? Or would you keep your tank top and boy shorts on for the entire ride?
xoxo! – Alison