REAL WEDDING | Letting your city serve as your venue. Also, a note on infidelity because I just can’t leave this alone.

There’s a network pilot sitting on my kitchen counter right now, unopened.  It’s been there for more than a few days.  Seriously, I haven’t even opened up the package.  Why?  Well, mainly because we gave away our DVD player in the move, so I actually *can’t* watch it (I know I could on my iMac, but pass).  Anyway, the other reason is that I’m one of those people who kind of has to be… honest.  And – to be honest – I believe I may have reached my last tolerant nerve when it comes to reality wedding shows.  And I’m so, so, sooo scared that this pilot is going to be of that genre.  So, bottom line is, I’m not looking forward to potentially having to tell the network I hate it.  Dumb?  Maybe.  But just because I’m into honesty, doesn’t mean I get off on delivering it every time.

Anywho, in other news… some douchey 39 yr-old named Noel Biderman launched a site some time ago – sorry, I will not be uttering the name – which facilitates adultery.  It already has 8.5 million members in 10 countries.  He expects it to become as popular as Facebook.  Sigh.  Here, listen to one of the absolute gems that have come out of his dirty mouth: “I’m not inventing infidelity… I may be trying to perfect it in my own little way.”  Here’s another – “monogamy is on its last legs.”

Undoubtedly, this is going to result in a lot of women AND men unnecessarily worrying a lot, checking blackberries, and generally doubting their partners.  But I’m not mentioning it because I want to accelerate the unrest.  No.  That would be redonkulous of me.  I’m mentioning it because I have a few thoughts, and general statements I feel compelled to share with you.

First: monogamy, Noel, is not “on its last legs.”  Monogamy is still going strong, and it’s evidenced in the relationships I see in my friends, in my elders, and in this very blog, on the daily.  Monogamy is an amazing thing that, when respected, is able to bring to those who cherish it a kind of transcendent peace you, Noel, will probably never know.  Though I certainly wish for you that you will.

Omigod this car alarm is throwing off my train of thought like NO OTHER.  Waiting.  Waiting for it to end.  Waiting.  Ok it stopped.

As I was saying… monogamy is not “on its last legs;” on the contrary.  People like Noel are trying to make that the case, to help his business thrive.  To HELP. BUSINESS.  This man is so devoid of humanity that he’s promoting infidelity on a global scale, and totally not taking one iota of blame for what he’s done.  It’s cruel, it’s morally reprehensible, and it’s extremely gross.

Second: If you have heard about this site – and you probably have, since it’s been around a while – I hope you’re not letting it get at you.  Because, while there are always exceptions, I think the absolute *worst thing* a person could start doing is to get suspicious and start to question things.  If your partner is not showing any signs of bad behavior, it pretty much makes no sense whatsoever to let a stupid site set off otherwise unsubstantiated red flags in your head.  Am I right?  Trust your honey.  S/he deserves trust.  After all, trust is the key to a good, healthy relationship.

Well… trust, and sexy time.  Obvs.

Ok, ANNNYYYYWHHOOOOO!  I’m so glad I get to share with you the BEYOND gorgeous wedding of a deeply in love couple after all of THAT nonsense. :)

Today’s wedding is a total 180 when compared to yesterday’s colorrific extravaganza.  And if you know me, you know I love 180s.  … no, I’m just kidding, but 180s are definitely cool. :)  I think you’re gonna love the below, and not just because the fabulous Sofia and André of BrancoPrata brought this baby together.   YUP!

Okeley dokeley… enjoy!

Here’s the rundown from our lovely bride:

One of the first decisions to make when we decided to marry was the city where we should do the wedding. Pedro is from Viana do Castelo and I’m from Bragança, and we both have family spread all over the country … we ended up choosing Porto where we met and have chosen to live.

Then we needed to choose the venue, we wanted something that stayed within the city limits and something that conveyed to our guests some of the city history. In this sense, the choice was Real Companhia Velha, this venue in addition to having excellent conditions for holding events, brings alive the history of the city by its association with port wine.

Although we have some ideas on what kind of party we wanted to do, Brancoprata and other blogs we find thanks to them gave us lots of inspiration and wedding vendors that truly did what we had envisioned for our wedding day. Overall we wanted to organize a party where guests feel at ease.

The choices that we did were always part of a global budget for the party, we wanted to respect our budget that is why all the stationery and paper goods were done by us with some help of our family! For instance, my mother help me with all the packaging we used for favors (a jar of honey from Parque Natural de Montesinho).

We also choose great vendors that came up with what we wanted at a very good price, a good example is Pinga Amor, who did my birdcage, belt and ring pillow.  One element that we thought stood out throughout the party was the wedding cake,made ​​by sweet Francisca Neves from Cup Cake, who gave us total freedom in choosing the cake and who demonstrated great commitment to translate into the cake, the image of the Lenços dos Namorados we used as inspiration, making a unique cake and above all … very tasty!

Being such a big day, with so many emotions involved, we cannot emphasize this or that moment, only the immense joy that we felt throughout the day … Everything went by very fast, every single moment that took us months to prepare unfold one after another very quickly!! I wouldn’t change a single thing about my wedding day!

I adore this image.  The red petals are heavenly atop the muted tones.

So, what do you think?  What’s your color scheme?  And what do you think of muted palettes?  Lastly, what do you think of Noel, aka Mr. Infidelity?  Let’s discuss. ;)

Happy Tuesday, friendlies…

xoxo!  – Alison

Sofia and André of BrancoPrata are members of Vendor Love, The Knotty Bride’s Preferred Vendor Guide.  To view this listing, click here.

Photography: BrancoPrata / Flowers and styling: BrancoPrata / Wedding Dress: Penhalta/Pronovias / Bride shoes: Haity / Birdcage, belt and ring pillow: Pinga amor / Groom’s attire: Nuno Gama / Caterer: Maria José Pinho Catering / Venue: Real Companhia Velha / Bolo dos noivos: Francisca Neves da Cupcake / Dj: Pedro Cepeda / Stationery and paper goods: Bride and her mother

Label(s): Color, Grey, White, {Real Weddings}

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  1. Denise on March 29, 2011

    I think Noel’s pathetic little website will fail. Thank you for not naming it, and therefore not giving it publicity. On the upside, I’ve read quite a few articles over the last year that show that younger generations (those in their 20s and 30s currently) are more likely to marry and more likely to take their vows seriously. That’s the future I’m hoping for. I have faith in love!

  2. Marlene on March 29, 2011

    I love this Portuguese wedding! The muted pastels are so Spanish/Portuguese – they remind me of Zara’s spring and summer clothing.

    It’s funny you mentioned that website today, I just read this:

    Love your blog! Thanks!

  3. Naomi on March 29, 2011

    Sofia & Andre are amazing! I am in love with that cake!! The photography is killer…the image of the cupcakes…BANANAS!

  4. Love this wedding and the muted colors but do NOT love Noel and his website. That is just so ridiculous. I completely agree with you that monogamy is not on its last leg. How else do we all have jobs in the wedding business?? Ooooh this just makes me angry!!

  5. Lauren Elise on March 29, 2011

    Brancoprata GOODNESS! I love the color of yesterday’s post and the muted tones of today’s post…I love it all! Especially when Brancoprata takes the pictures. Seriously, they are such a force and they always deliver the goods.

    And as for Douchey McDouche (yes, this should be his new name)…he is scum! Maybe he is unaware of the effects of infidelity but I have seen them and they aren’t pretty. They destroy families, not just the couple involved, but children and other relatives. And it doesn’t just affect people for a moment, it can affect them for their entire lives and even be carried into new relationships and new generations. So not only is he benefiting from causing pain to a single couple, but causing pain to countless others, innocent parties that maybe have no say in the fidelity and/or infidelity at all. Sadly, this is not new for humanity, people have benefited from others misfortune before and they will continue to do so. I’m so glad you didn’t mention the website and give him more unnecessary publicity…it’s one of the best ways to fight something like this.

    Also, be brutally honest about the wedding show pilot…the last thing this country needs is another wedding reality show that makes me lose even more hope for humanity.

  6. lizzie on March 29, 2011

    beautiful wedding…kill the pilot! kill the pilot, indeed! if it’s bad, that is. WOW that site…that’s disgusting. what a pig.

  7. Lark on March 29, 2011

    It’s so horrible that there are poeple out there bent on bringing such negative things into the world. People like Noel should be quarantined. I agree that monogamy is more on its way in than on its way out, and I’m glad someone’s talking about that side of it.

    Now, this wedding. It’s lovely! I haven’t seen many muted color palettes recently, and I quite like the way it’s done here.

  8. Alison on March 29, 2011

    Loving your responses, lovies.

    Naomi – I KNOW, RIGHT? That cupcakes-in-utter-darkness shot is to. die. So unique! Bravo, Andre.

    Lauren – I’m digging your nickname for him. Fits perfectly. ;)

    Lizzie – the pilot shall be given a proper burial if it needs to be shot down. However, I’m still trying to come at from an open angle. Who knows, maybe it’ll rock!! :)

  9. Cate on March 29, 2011

    Let me just say that I love the juxtapositioning in this post. Really proves that that guy’s all wrong about meaningful relationships. We wouldn’t have so many weddings and happy couples if he was right. Can’t stand people like him.

  10. Steph on March 29, 2011

    I am not surprised to hear that some people are dubious about relationships but I may have to say to them: maybe you have never really truly loved or you do not know what the word trust and respect means… Interesting…
    On a LIGHTER note: wow… This is again great work coming out of Portugal and you almost feel sad that Andre and Sofia are so far away from us… But it didn’t stop me – I flew them to New Zealand to photograph our wedding and I was a very happy bride… So yay to them and yay to Alison, you always say things the way you think them! Love you for that!

  11. Koru Kate on March 29, 2011

    I haven’t heard about Noel & his awful web site. I will take your word for it & not look into it or give it a bit of attention. Sounds AWFUL!

    I adore the cake & matching cupcakes!!!

  12. Lena on March 29, 2011

    I wish you could have heard me say, “Oh crap” as I started to scroll; this is just too good. I just can’t resist hydrangeas, or gorgeous, happily in love couples.

    And that, Mr Noel, is why you need to be reading more wedding blogs. ‘Cause you’d back up off of monogamy if you did.

  13. be u brides on March 29, 2011

    First of all. I love how you write- it feels like you are talking right to us it makes it so much more enjoyable. Great writing approach.

    Second of all. I haven’t seen this website, so I can’t bash it completely, but I will say Boo to anyone who doesn’t believe in Monogamy and promotes infidelity. Like we don’t have enough to worry about in our every day lives. I do think what Alison says about not letting it get to you is spot on. If you have any doubt in trusting your other then there is something else that is wrong and you need to figure it out not just snoop and doubt. (do I sound like a therapist? really just a wedding invitation designer that believes in LOVE)

    Third of all: LOVE this wedding. Love the understated palette with a pop of color. Seems to be on the rise of popular wedding color schemes and I like it. Love the photos too! Great contrast and emotion.

  14. Lauren @ ELD on March 29, 2011

    LOVE those table numbers- and the photography is GORGEOUS!

  15. Liz on April 3, 2011

    Love the numbered cubes on the tables. Keeping in mind for my own one day. And the message tree! Such a cute idea. Much more useful for a scrapbooked like me than a guest book.

    The website: facilitating something like that is wrong. Along the lines of being an accomplice to murder and letting the gunman take the heat. The success of the wedding business is not an indicator of the revival of love and monogamy. Getting married and having a wedding is currently trending. As a 20something who wants a wedding more than I want to get married (to the man I’ve been dating and living with for 6 years) I feel like I can say that with some confidence.
    If people weren’t looking to cheat, the site wouldn’t be popular. If fidelity is on the “rise” the sites membership will decrease. Cheating is a choice. And as that, if one chooses to cheat, chances are they will do it no matter how easy someone makes it for them.

  16. LOVE the muted colors. They made for amazingly gorgeous photos! Also, the cupcake display is so unique and the decor is beautiful!

  17. Monica on June 16, 2011

    In love with these pictures! My parents are Portuguese & Portuguese culture has played a big influence in styling my wedding. I actually used that traditional needlework design as an influence for my invites & to see it on a cake is phenomenal.


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