RUFFLES, SPARKLE, LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS | Lessons from The Bachelor | On the importance of finding your ‘best fit’ … both in love, and in your wedding dress.

↑ Barf.

Happy Tuesday, honeys!  Ok, let’s get to it.  This is so not what I wanted to start off with today, but life throws you curveballs…

I’m officially imposing a moratorium on all break-ups in NYC that involve the following components (yes, this is the SECOND BREAK-UP TO OCCUR ‘NEATH MY WINDOW SILL IN THREE DAYS):

  1. Occurring between the hours of 1am and 6am;
  2. Occurring on the street, immediately beneath my window, while I slumber;
  3. Involving unnecessary, sustained raising of the voice… because, I mean, really, that doesn’t solve anything.  It just makes everyone angrier;
  4. Being over – but not limited to – the following topics: video games and living in your mom’s apartment.

Yes, for #4 it’s just those two topics.  Because that’s what two fools were arguing about last night between the hours of 1am and 4am.  Oh, how do I know that the argument ended abruptly at 4am?  Simple.  Because that’s when I opened the window and kindly said to them, “… maaaybe it’s time for another corner?  Seriously, you guys, IT’S 4AM.”

True story.  And then I never got to sleep after that because that’s what you get when you live on an avenue in NYC.

Ok, moving on.

Y’know what I love about The Bachelor, you guys?  It just seems like such an organic process.  You know?  You get the feeling that they’re really getting to know one another.

Oy.

You guys, last night was everything I feared AND MORE.

I watched all The Bachelor episodes last night.  I think there were approx. 15 of them.  (Or maybe it just felt like sitting through 15 shows, because yaaaawn.)  Anyway, I caught them all, and so did my honey.  And, six minutes into the finale, I already had a paragraph written for this post.  Truthfully, I could write a novella today.  But I’m not going to.  Because to be honest, I am so sick of it all.  So I’m gonna talk a little about the things that REALLY PISSED ME OFF, and then I have a different direction in which I’m taking this…

Here’s a fun interaction from the finale that didn’t at all signify there would be relationship issues ahead.  Noooo, not at allNo warning signs here!

Emily: “I want to make sure, before you decide, before you potentially ask me to marry you, I don’t feel like there’s anything you don’t know.”

Brad: [blank stare... ] “I’m having a hard time breathing right now.”

Emily: “I just need to make sure you know what you’re getting into.”

Brad: [blank stare... ] “I don’t know.  Can I grab some water… I don’t know… I…”

Tip of the iceberg, folks.  Tip. of. the. friggin’. ICEBERG.

Intro level psych could tell- heck, a newborn baby could tell you that they were headed for trouble.  Because anyone who chooses a relationship with someone like Brad is headed for trouble. I don’t know where his troubles with his father end and his dbaggyness begins, but I think they’re both very much to blame for his utter lack of ability to feeeeeeeel.

(By the way, to be fair, the blank stare was a hallmark of every sentence uttered by Mr. Womack.)

On a final Bachelor note… what’s so wrong with dinner and a movie?  Huh?  Does that not measure love properly enough, Bradley?  No?  Dark water and shark attacks are your measuring stick?  I get that you’re pressured by the network to have interesting dates, but, I dunno, you seemed really into challenging these ladies to be excessively adventurous, to make sure they could handle life with you.

Thing is… last time I checked, you were SUPER. BORING.

Ok, enough.  It’s enough already.  I’m endorsing this entire season by writing so much about it.  Instead of ranting any longer, I’m going to take it in that “different direction” I mentioned earlier.

Often, we can lose sight of what we ultimately really want in life.  We can get caught up in the race to “win;” to be the best, to wear the best, to win the best (i.e.; winning The Bachelor), and so on.  Emily “won” what she thought was the man of her dreams, but, sadly, he turned out to be a very different person in real life.  Based on what was easily perceived as her strong hesitance to answer Chris’ question of whether she sees herself marrying him, we can tell that things aren’t well.  Hell, she straight up stated that things aren’t all roses in that relationship.  They both claimed it’s a “volatile relationship.”  “We have knock down drag out fights on the phone AND in person.”  WHAT?????  Not healthy.  I don’t think I need to go on about how badly this all turned out, in REAL reality.

Similarly, in choosing a wedding dress, we have to keep in mind the bigger picture; our goal for our Big Day.  Do we want to wear the latest, the best, the “Bachelor” of wedding gowns?  Or, do we want to focus on what fits our personality and our body type.  Just because it’s hot-right-now doesn’t mean it’s our ‘best-fit.’  I can tell you that I, as a tween, used to want to wear the trends, like most of us growing up.  I didn’t understand the concept of ‘best fit;’ I understood the concept of ‘what my friends will like’ and ‘what my friends won’t make fun of me for’ and that always amounted to the trendiest clothing of the month.  (This was a lot of… sigh… Abercrombie & Fitch.  I know, I know.)

Anyway, only later, in my late high school/early college years did I finally begin to understand the importance of fit and body type vs. societal fashion trends.

Changed my world, you guys.  Positively changed my world.  Changed how photogenic I was, too.

I find that Elie Saab‘s Spring Couture 2011 Collection is everything a girl could want, and more.  Elie Saab’s focus is on the feminine form, and you guys know how much I stalk designers who make that their enduring focus.  I think Elie Saab designs clothes that flatter, and bring attention to the right areas of a woman’s physique, across the spectrum of body types.  There truly is a dress for everyone.  Elie Saab’s line, as always, is not excessively trendy or extreme; on the contrary – the line is simple, fitted and lovely.  I’d sleep in it if I could.

Wait, I think that one needs a closer look ↴

This one, too ↴

For those of us with an unusually small waist and a desire to slut it up a little ↴

↑ Yup, that’s Mila Kunis’ gown.  Does she have great taste, or does she have great taste?  Eh?  Eh?

For the girl who wants a little bit o’ sexy, but a WHOLE LOTTA ruffled ↴

For the woman who’s not only fashion conscious, but also the teensiest bit self conscious, this one’s got the perfect elegant covered upper torso ↴

YESSS ↴

Want to shop the look?  Visit Elie Saab.

By the way, it’s “Brad and me” when you’re ending a sentence, not “Brad and I,” entire cast of this season of The Bachelor.  (Sorry, that one’s been bothering me for months.)

Ok, that was a lot.  We touched on reality tv, relationships, street corner breakups and DELICIOUS FASHION.

Soooo…. I guess my question is, do you think Emily and Brad are going to work out?  And if you didn’t watch The Bachelor finale, do you totally love these dresses? :)

xoxo!  – Alison

Image credits: tig / tfs

Label(s): Beige/brown, Black, Color, Pink, Red, Yellow, {Fashion}

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22 comments

  1. Aleah + Nick Valley on March 15, 2011

    Wow, what a collection of total goodness. I adore those feathery gray toned frocks – the beading is incredible!

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  2. Watched the finale last night and completely agree with what you said… they’re definitely not going to make it. They already broke up once before.

    As for those dresses, amazing! They’re so pretty. I want them all!

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  3. Anna[Nüage Mulberry] on March 15, 2011

    LOOOOVE the dresses, I really like the blush pink. As for the Bachelor, totally agree on everything you wrote. Emily obviously knows its not going to work out and she should spare herself and her daughter from a lifetime of blank stares.
    Even my husband noticed from just watching this one episode that Brad likes to put the girls on the spot but hates when the girls ask HIM questions, hence the sweating and “not being able to breathe”.

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  4. Katherine {flower & honey} on March 15, 2011

    Elie Saab is my hero. Brad can take a flying leap. I think maybe you deserve a nap today :)

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  5. Rhiannon Nicole {Hey Gorg} on March 15, 2011

    AMAZING. I love your posts, Alison. Always.

    And The Bachelor is so silly. That’s the only appropriate word I can muster out right now…

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  6. jacin {lovely little details} on March 15, 2011

    HAHAHHAHAHAAHAH. love the segway from bachelor rant to choosing a wedding dress.

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  7. Brandy on March 15, 2011

    OH man! Some one please buy me one of the gorgeous dresses and take me to a fabulous party (or I’ll be content sitting in it at home w/ a bottle of wine watching 27 Dresses – either or)…AWESOME!

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  8. gigi on March 15, 2011

    These are the most beautiful dresses I have ever seen. Truly!!! Alison, you have outdone yourself with this lineup. You deserve a nap!

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  9. Glamour and Grace on March 15, 2011

    I have been obsessed with this entire collection! Pure gorgeousness!

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  10. Marie @ Emici Bridal on March 15, 2011

    I would absolutely wear one of those dresses for a wedding. Stunning, brides should not be afraid to wear color if that is what they want. So gorgeous Alison!

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  11. Emily on March 15, 2011

    I would wear Mila’s lavender gown any day of the week, and that includes my wedding day.

    Hadn’t seen the rest of these. They’re all so pretty and perfect in their own ways. Maybe I’d have my bridal party pick from the red ones? :)

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  12. lizzie on March 15, 2011

    GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASP
    Every dress on the way down just kept me drawing for breath…completely beautiful options! Great picks!

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  13. Claire on March 15, 2011

    I LOVE the black and pink ruffly/flowery gowns. I just, AMAZING.

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  14. Lauren H. on March 15, 2011

    Love, love, love these dresses! Especially the blush pink one with the ruffles/flowers!

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  15. Sarah ( A Paper Proposal ) on March 15, 2011

    Ahaha, your posts always make me laugh a little bit, thank you!

    The gowns are gorgeous. Those red ones could seriously stop traffic!

    As for the Bachelor, I’ll be shocked if they make it through their publicity tour! Fighting, and already broke up once? Life’s too short to marry a guy you don’t get along with :) But I wish them luck!!!

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  16. Lena on March 15, 2011

    All these gorgeous, shimmering, delicious gowns were the perfect antidote to blundering Brad. And your advice about picking the right thing for you, not the most fashionable, is so on the money. I’ve been looking at so many weddings lately and thinking, “That won’t look nearly as cool as you hope it will in 20 years”. Don’t get mustache sticks ’cause everyone else had them. In fact, at this point, just don’t get mustache sticks. Save that bit of nonsense for your bachelorette party, or if you must, an after engagement party where there are few cameras. But for your wedding day, pick the stuff that’s you, and it will be timeless.

    As for Brad and Emily, that sucker is a sinking ship. I can imagine that watching your fiance date two dozen other girls on television would be a complete nightmare, and Em should have switched to NBC, but you never would have thought about that before suddenly being in that position. Obviously there’s some stuff being hashed out-hopefully in a quiet, soundproof space far away from your ave-and with any luck, they’ll both make it out ok.

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  17. Kristin @ Bonafidebride on March 15, 2011

    Thanks for your comment, it made me realize how much I miss your blog!

    And oh, HELLO, Elie Saab. I can haz?

    Brad is a diggle.

    PS – That annoys you too?! I always used to tell people to remove the ‘Brad and’ and whatever word made sense on its own (I? me?), is the word to use. Brad and… me. Over and out.

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  18. Megan on March 15, 2011

    First- Love your thoughts on the Bachelor. I think they got caught up in the fairy tale and totally underestimated what real life was going to be like. Not to mention-everything always felt so forced with them? I just don’t understand the whole thing, and frankly, am glad the season is over so I don’t have to watch anymore!
    Second-These dresses are the stuff that dreams are made of. I probably won’t be able to stop looking at this post all week. Your posts never cease to amaze me! Thanks for sharing these wonderful pictures!!

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  19. The Wedding Secret on March 16, 2011

    Oh my god, SUCH amazing dresses!

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  20. Annie @ Marry You Me on March 16, 2011

    So I am so not a bachelor fan/watcher, but the other night I was home alone and we got rid of cable to go to London so I succumbed to watching it. I tuned in right at his (kind of angry, no?) panic attack moment while she tried speaking a few gentle words to him about having a child and making sure he’s ready for that. Brad – inappropriate reactions and emotions much?? How is the 24 year old more mature than the 38 year old? Then on the after show it seemed like mo’ money mo’ problems for those two. Don’t know if they’ll make it – both super stubborn & they can’t seem to get over the past and look towards a future together.

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  21. GORGEOUS DRESSES. I WANT THEM ALL!

    Brad and Emily will SO not work. Come on.

    He only picked her because she was the cutest by far *wrong reason #1*

    and #2 being he’s somewhat of an idiot.

    ….plus I get the vibe she ain’t feelin’ it.

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  22. These dresses are incredible! SO elegant and classic… I would also sleep in them if I could!

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