BOUQUETS AND DO-OVERS | Stressing out about your wedding day? SHHH. Stop it. Not worth it. Here’s why.

This process is pretty addictive, right?  Sunshine and lollipops and moonbeams and everything.  Correct?  That how wedding planning is going for you?

I mean, of course, yes, wedding planning and all that goes with it can get a teensy weensy little bit overwhelming and hectic at times, I guess.  Wellllll maybe it’s more like *all the time* for you, and you’re totes stressing and out of control, and everyone’s all over the place, and that side of the family STILL hasn’t RSVP’d even though inherent in the acronym is the word “please” so you’re like totally being nice about it, and what are we doing, are we doing pies?  Are pies in right now?  Wait, who cares what’s in; stop that, brain!  Or wait, cake with cupcakes?  Cupcakes beneath, tiny cake on top?  Wait- wait no, I like pies.  I think.  Honey – cake?  … Honey?  Wait, that reminds me- Honey you HAVE to talk to your mom about the guest list, it’s getting down to the wire and I still don’t know where to put your uncle’s family, that is, IF they’re coming.  … No, really, the seating chart IS IMPORTANT.  And f***, my dress is in Europe and I’m stateside and I get only one fitting a couple of days before the wedding but I’m cool, I’m cool.  No big deal.  WAIT, dear BFF, didn’t I tell you to stick with purple??!!  That’s the color scheme!  Whyyyyy are you showing me a fuchsia dress????!!!!  NO, you can’t wear that.  NO, you can’t.  Wait, honey, I thought MY niece would be the flower girl… I never realized you wanted your niece to be the flower girl.  Craaaaaaap.  What do we do now.

Psssst… ↑ Does that sound a bit like wedding planning to you?  If not, OMG congratulations.  You’re having the best case scenario so far and I hope it stays that way.  Of course, the above is just a smattering of random things that can make you crazy/bog you down/make you feel concerned about whether or not your Big Huge Monumental This-Is-Only-Going-To-Happen-Once-So-NO-PIMPLES, FACE! Day is going to run as smoothly as you imagined it would when you got engaged and started dreaming about it.

They rarely, if ever, do.  But that doesn’t mean they aren’t just as perfect as you would have hoped.  It’s all about how you roll with it.  And I suggest rolling with it like an ocean-eroded stone, ebbing and flowing, giving and taking, loving and hugging, and not sweating the small stuff, DAY OF.  Oh, you’re welcomed to sweat the small stuff leading up, I’m a lover of detail-oriented brides if I’m honest… but day of?  RELAX.  Trust me.  It goes by SO.  GODFORSAKEN.  QUICKLY.

Now.  If you hire a magnificent photographer – something I will forever consider a priority – it really doesn’t matter what goes wrong with your ceremony, your seating chart or your face, because a magnificent photographer knows how to snap a wedding and get the right shots, regardless.  And your pictures?  You’ll ADORE them.  True story.  It sort of just *happens* that way, when you hire greatness.

But, for the sake of discussion – and since it’s likely a reality anyway because who doesn’t worry about these things – let’s say you’re freaked out about how you’re going to look on your Big Day, and this is causing insomnia and insanity.  <– two factors that do not go well with a good complexion and your wedding day.

Guess what?  Fuggedaboudit.  Because there’s always another shoot waiting for you.  And if you’ve still got that wedding dress in your closet, and you’ve still got that glimmer in your eye, and you’ve, ehhem, still got that man on your arm ;) well then, howsabout a “Love Recaptured” shoot, for tickles and giggles?  And, maybe, also, for AMAZING PHOTOS.  Because, hey, why not, right?

Today’s after marriage shoot was submitted by Deborah Zoe Photo and it is a DOOZY.  I mean, the pretty prettiness inherent in these photos is sort of causing a deep emotional reaction that I can’t seem to contain which makes me glad you can’t actually see me, physically.  Because these images, all together, are sort of… orgasmic.

By the way, our bride, Sarah there?  Flower-arranging ROCKSTAR, as you can clearly see.

Tulips and dusty miller, Sarah?  Are you taking tiny voyages into my brain and then creating bouquets that speak to my soul?  I believe you are, Sarah.  Which is fine, I’m down with that… just don’t litter while you’re there, k?  Thanksies!

Sarah created the two bouquets in her shoot from scratch, and I think they turned out fabulous and I want to hold them in my arms and sing sweet lullabies to them as they drift off to sleep.

Here are a few words from Deborah about this gorgeous shoot and even gorgeouser couple:

This was a styled shoot for a married couple who wanted to have their photograph taken as a treat to themselves several years after their wedding day! The bride wore her original wedding dress and created two different bouquets from scratch along with using various accessories to create different looks for the images. At the end of our shoot the snow started to gently fall, a perfect way to end this wintry themed session.

oh. mygod.  that photo.  right there. ↑  i die.

So please, I know it’s hard, but just try… a little bit… for me?… to stop stressing, because while we hope your wedding day goes as smoothly as your legs after a good waxing, it’s not a guarantee.  And while unplanned hiccups on game day are totally TOTALLY TOTALLY normal, it might piss you off just thinking about what could go wrong.  So why not just work on having a blast, and rest assured that if you don’t love the product, you can sort of have a do-over in the form of a shoot capturing your mini love story post-nuptials?

Ok, now, leaving all of that aside… what do you think of this shoot?  Eh?  Eh?  :)

xoxo!  – Alison

Photographer: Deborah Zoe Photo / Submitted via Two Bright Lights / Floral Designer: Bumblebee & Sophie – bride, Sarah Canney!

Label(s): "DEAR TKB..." Advice Column, Color, Grey, Pink, Purple, White, {Inspiration Shoot}, {M-Session}

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  1. Jessica Williams on May 18, 2011

    LOVE it. I wish I could plan my wedding again! These are gorgeous photos!! xo

  2. amber johnston on May 18, 2011 really, those pics are just…wow.

  3. Danielle Pasternak on May 18, 2011

    This very well may go down in history as the BEST advice to ever give to a bride. Said beautifully, complete with amazing photos. Brava!

  4. Alison on May 18, 2011

    Jessica – These shoots make we want to have a thousand weddings and shoots, etc. How annoying is that feeling? ;)

    Amber – Thank you so much! Deborah snaps an amazing pic, eh? :)

    Danielle – Oh my goodness. How kind are you! I really, really appreciate those words. I tend to talk a lot, so I’m glad it makes some sense. :)

  5. J (SparklyLove) on May 18, 2011

    I seriously love anything that means I get to wear my wedding dress more than once so this is skyrocketing to the top of my “things i want to do in my wedding dress” list. This is also perfect for someone who has a summer wedding but always wanted winter pictures, or vice versa. And you have more time to be yourselves and not worry about the stress of the day. So lovely <3

  6. Sandy on May 18, 2011

    These are way too gorgeous for words! And I miiiiight’ve sprayed Diet Coke all over my keyboard when I read this line:

    {Tulips and dusty miller, Sarah? Are you taking tiny voyages into my brain and then creating bouquets that speak to my soul?}

    You crack me up! :)

  7. Deborah Zoe on May 18, 2011

    aahhh, thank you so much for the feature! You are too cute and the write up is awesome:) Sarah will be so excited:)! Thank you again Alison!!!

  8. Alison on May 18, 2011

    J – Ha, right on. Who ever said a wedding dress is a one-day-wear kinda deal? Dummies. That’s who. :)

    Sandy – tee hee :) I was thinking of that movie where the guys shrink down to get inside someone to diagnose him or something or whatever? DAMMIT I’ll remember the title at some point today. I won’t be letting this go.

    Deborah – Pleasure’s seriously all mine. I’m so glad you like how it came out. Your photos, the couple, the whole nine. Too good for words :)

  9. I don’t think you could give better advice to all the Soon-to-Be brides out there. Seating charts? I say forgettaboutem! Let peeps mingle and it’s one less step for the B. But hey, not everyone listens to me. hehe! The bouquets are super gorg…tulips in the snow=amazing!

  10. Jessica Fey on May 18, 2011

    This shoot?! TO DIE FOR! I can’t get over the beauty of these images. I’ve bookmarked this, so that I can love it over and over again.

  11. Lauren Elise on May 18, 2011

    I love the tulip + dusty miller bouquet, gorgeous! So simple & lovely

  12. meena on May 18, 2011

    I. Want. These. Flowers.

  13. Lena on May 18, 2011

    I’m in sweet snowy love heaven.

    Your wedding planning description gives me hives and perfectly explains how I feel, and I’m NOT EVEN PLANNING A WEDDING. When I get an email from John’s mama about how lovely the chapel at Tixas Chrisitian University in Dallas just minutes from their home is, or how Texas is in the center of the country, making it the ideal weddin’ location, or how drunk Father Johnson is really the ideal person to marry us two crazy (agnostic) kids.

    Sweet baby Jesus, can you see the vein in my forehead throbbing?

    Thank goodness there’s snowy loveliness-I’m going to imagine sticking my head in the snow, and then appreciate these most gorgeous shots!

  14. Leanne (Bride to Mrs.) on May 18, 2011

    This is exactly what I needed to read today! I’m just over 11 weeks from walking down the aisle and I find my stomach is twisting and turning lately with nerves.

    What a beautiful after wedding shoot! I love her scarf… :)

  15. Elle on May 18, 2011

    Loved this post. BUT it needed more PUPPY!

  16. Laurel on May 18, 2011

    I’m so glad to see this post! Despite everything I read against it, I hired (due to budget) an inexperienced photographer. Our pictures are “Okay” and some of them are pretty “Neat,” but I was so tired from the preparations my face is saggy and puffy in almost all the pictures from our wedding day.

    A month after our wedding we got back in our wedding clothes and had my sister (who is a professional photographer but couldn’t shoot our wedding since she was a bridesmaid) do a lovely sunset photoshoot.

    It’s a super great idea. Especially since there just rarely is enough time on your wedding day to get enough creative shots of the bride and groom. I highly recommend it because… well, clearly, as you can see — they turn out beautiful since everyone is so relaxed!

  17. Rhiannon Nicole {Hey Gorg} on May 18, 2011

    Could these photos be any more gorgeous?

  18. Our Wedding Hub on May 18, 2011

    That’s a great location for a photoshoot. love it

  19. Sarah Canney on May 18, 2011

    Alison! Your words are so kind! Thanks so much for putting our shoot up on your blog! Debbie is truly AMAZING!

  20. Barbara Lapointe on May 18, 2011

    Wow – what a lovely write-up! I can definitely relate to the stress of planning a wedding and then thinking “Where did the whole day go, anyway?” afterwards! I wish I still fit in my wedding dress – I would LOVE to have Deborah “shoot” my husband and me again! :-)

    Also, the movie you’re thinking of is probably “Fantastic Voyage” (or its sequel!) :-)

  21. Denise on May 18, 2011

    Relax and Enjoy! You’ve hit on something big Alison! The entire point of the day is crushed beneath perfectionistic expectations sometimes. Love the idea of a wedding re-shoot. What a fantastic and yes, orgasmic expression of love was captured in these photographs! Funny girl! oxoxo D.

  22. Michelle Ellen Lee on May 19, 2011

    AAAHHH that tulip bouquet is absolute killer!!!!!! And I just canceled a “love recaptured” shoot which I now want to re-book because of this post.

  23. Madison on May 19, 2011

    The bouquets are just beautiful! And the photoshoot is gorgeous!

  24. Gloria @ I Do Venues on May 20, 2011

    This engagement shoot is breath taking. I love the styling of the bright colored floral, the neck sash, dark suit and sweater against the pure white winter backdrop- lovely- great way to start my morning- thank you

  25. Jona Blackwell on May 24, 2011

    Absolutely LOVE this !! It is so soft and romantic. Wish Texas would get some snow, so we could photograph in it!

  26. Bloomsbythebox on June 20, 2011

    I never thought I would be interested in a winter wedding like that but it is really pretty! I like the classic clean floral design! KUDOS on this post!

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