RUFFLES, LOVE & FRUSTRATION | Something I like, something I hate, and McPuppyPants does an impression. So in other words, business as usual.

Today, I’ve got to talk about something I feel pretty strongly about.  (And I’m gonna want to know if I’m alone in this feeling.)  Coupled, of course, with fashion, photography, pop culture and general wedding-related thingies.  So, a mixed bag. :)

Ok, SO.  Have you heard?  26-year-old Kris Humphries, the big baby Kim Kardashian’s been dating officially proposed to her, on bended knee, in her bedroom on May 18th.  He spelled out “Will you marry me?” in rose petals, she said yes, and he put a 20.5 carat ice cube on her finger worth approximately $2 million.

What are your thoughts on this?

Here are mine – and please note, I’m about to pull some seriousness out on your asses, rant-style: (and I’m just being honest here, not jealous… even though I realize that when people say “I’m being honest” it typically means they’re not being honest – still, trust…) I think IT IS RIDICULOSITY.  To give you an idea of what 20.5 carats means, Kate Middleton’s ring is 18 carats.  Ring purchasing has become quite the competition in wealthier circles, and it’s at its worst in Hollywood.  Who needs a 20.5 carat ring?  Who?  But-it’s-in-direct-competition-with-her-a$$ jokes aside, there is no way that that ring is anything more than a total inconvenience when easing on tight sweaters, brushing her hair 100 times every morning, and just generally moving through life.  I’m not so much frustrated as I am weirded out and disappointed in this worsening need to top the-last-big-ring-everyone’s-talking-about.  It makes me sad when I see the thing that’s supposed to represent a bond of love instead representing status and standing in society.

I get wanting a lovely ring that you like to look at; I helped my honey design my ring and it’s something I treasure and truly love putting on in the morning.  You’ll even catch me absent-mindedly sticking my arm out and staring at the thing under the subway lights (engagement rings look CRAZY AMAZING under nyc subway lights – given the surroundings, it’s an interesting juxtaposition), but, personally, I’d feel embarrassed to walk around with a ring the size of Kim’s.  I think one needs an inflated sense of self coupled with a bubble life that’s nothing if not completely unrealistic to actually consider a 20.5 carat diamond engagement ring something totally acceptable… especially in today’s world.

Ok, rant over.  Am I alone in this feeling?  I’d love to hear your thoughts.

In other news, Jenna Thomas of Red White and Green Photography submitted today’s farm engagement shoot and I am more than a little obsessed with it.  And nope, it’s not just because of the dog.  Two of my favorite things in an engagement shoot are as follows:

1) I love shoots that reveal photographic evidence of a couple’s love, and;

2) I die for great color and style choices, clothing-wise.

Which of course means that today’s shoot is a double threat in my estimation, and I hope you love it as much as I do!

First, here’s a super quick set-up from Jenna:

It took place on a whimsical, old farm just outside of Charlotte NC.  The about-to-be bride and groom are so in love with each other… and their sweet puppy who made cameo appearances in a few of the shots. :)


And now, since this session inspired the shiz outta me, here are some summery-ready dress picks in the same vein…

ASOS BLACK Fan Pleat Dress

Freaking. Out. Over this dress, y’all ↑

Lipsy Embroidered Yolk Tiered Smock Tunic Dress

Whistles Ellie Broderie Cap Sleeve Dress

Paprika Pleated Layered Chiffon Belted Dress

In closing, I present to you…

Bambino McPuppyPants doing his impression of Victoria Beckham hating on The Jennifer Lopez Experience for taking her front row seat at some random Walk of Fame ceremony for a guy named Simon Fuller I think:

Please note: it’s very tiring to scowl all day, as you can see here…

… so I advise you to refrain whenever possible.

So, lemme know if you’re in agreement with me or totes anti-my sentiments re: Kim’s mini finger dumbbell.  (Seriously, how does she even lift her hand?)

And/or lemme know what you think of this shoot/the dresses! :)

xoxo!  – Alison

Photography: Red White and Green Photography

Label(s): Color, Mr. McPuppyPants, Red, White, {Engagement}

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29 comments

  1. wedding jewellery on May 25, 2011

    Couldn’t agree more…all a ring like that says is ‘look how much money my other half earns’ not ‘look how much he loves me’ At least Kates ring was given to her because it was his mums and means a lot to him not just because it cost a fortune. My engagement ring is a ruby and diamond gypsy style ring from 1898…it wasnt expensive but because i love antique jewellery it means more to me than a 20 carat ‘blinger’

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  2. claire on May 25, 2011

    1. I love ruffles and I want to wear all of those dresses now.
    2. Little pup is cute!
    3. I couldn’t agree more. People are constantly trying to out-do ring size, esp. in Hollywood just to have the biggest, baddest ring. It’s like trying to keep up with the Joneses, engagement style. Your ring should be special, and if that means it’s 15 carats or .25, the size shouldn’t matter. Of course, as a girl, you want a super fabulous ring. But when did size become the only thing that mattered? Like, who the F cares if it’s 20 carats? What should matter is the story behind it, why it was chosen and how it makes you feel. I’m pretty sure a ring that weights 5 pounds ain’t gonna be easy to carry around. It’s just sad to see that that has become such a big focal point in weddings, when what really should matter is love :/

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  3. alittleteteatete on May 25, 2011

    hahahahaha! Love it!!!

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  4. Erin (Serephine) on May 25, 2011

    LOVE all of the dresses! The ones you picked and the ones on the adorable bride in the e-pics.

    HATE the huge, garish, tasteless, flashy rings. They are supposed to be a symbol of love, not wealth (or debt). Period.

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  5. Kailey-Michelle on May 25, 2011

    This shoot is stunning! I just love the style~ the couple is adorable and well, im partial to pups in photos :)

    Cute dresses! I have one of each, please?!

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  6. emily on May 25, 2011

    you knew I would comment. how could I not? I have long thought that the ridiculousness imparted upon the masses by the diamond industry *ahem, DeBeers* is completely unconscionable. the fact that people have continued to buy in to the farce that an overpriced, possibly ill-gotten diamond is the only appropriate symbol of a relationship is sick. and the practice of bigger, huger, more obnoxious *i could have housed two families and fed them for a year with this rock on my finger* mentality is even worse. my DH kindly respected my request for fabulous fakes. with three small children, how could we, in good conscience, spend $3-5K on a stupid rock? Spread the word, sister. You’re on the right track. It’s fun to be fancy, but not appropriate to engage in such conspicuous consumption when so much of the world lacks even the basic necessities.

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  7. Sarah on May 25, 2011

    Amen, sistah! Bambie (that is my nickname for him…hope you don’t mind) does a great Vicky face…I’m impressed!

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  8. J (SparklyLove) on May 25, 2011

    AGREE! $2 mil on a ring? Come on! I would be so embarrassed. Just thinking of all the things they could have done with $2 millions dollars that could have changed lives, but instead it paid for a stone.

    On a brighter note, love the shoot! These two are super adorbs!

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  9. Lena on May 25, 2011

    Let’s start with the good stuff, like that gorgeous shot-stunning! The light, the clothes, the settting-I’m in love! And Mr Bambino giving such good face?

    I WANT TO EAT HIM UP.

    Now, for the less good stuff. Like a 20.5 carat diamond ring. You’re absolutely right that there’s no way to live comfortably with something like that on your hand. Frankly, it’s tacky. I’m not suggesting that a big ring is a bad thing-to each their own. But this is a cocktail ring, and there’s something about it that seems to miss the point. I wish them both well and hope that they have a happy life together, but it seems silly to start it by trying to one-up other celebrity couples.

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  10. Sarah {A Paper Proposal} on May 25, 2011

    I totally agree with you on Kim’s e-ring. It’s absolutely ridiculous, and I actually thought that she was just trying to “top” everyone else’s too! And honestly…who knows what her and her fiance paid for it, but I can’t help but think about where else that money could have been spent. There are people losing their jobs left and right, without homes, unable to feed their children, get medical care, and she’s walking around with a 20.5 carat diamond on her finger??? I’m not saying that she, herself, has a responsibility to any of these people, but it just seems messed up in the grand scheme of things.

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  11. Beth on May 25, 2011

    I think we’ve discussed our mutual dislike of Kim Kardashian before lol. This does nothing to improve my opinion. It’s shallow, and if you really wanna read into it, getting married for shallow reasons will not. work. As far as I can tell the only talent she possesses is being superficial, so I’m not at all surprised. I think a ring that has meaning is so much more special. I’m divorced, (I was young and shallow ha!) but if I get married again, I want to use a family ring that was passed on to me. To me, it’s the feeling associated with the ring that matters.
    Um, on another note – your dog? I die! His stink eye is identical to Victoria’s!!! I appreciate a girl who notices something like this and points it out:)
    I want to frolic through a field of flowers in that second dress! Beautiful!

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  12. Ashley on May 25, 2011

    YES! thank you! I am 100% with you on this Kim Kardashian thing. And I also completely agree with you that there are people out there who would say “You are so jealous, and you wouldn’t say no to that.” Umm, yeah, I would. That this is begging to be stolen, broken, lost, and one day, it might drown her. What I hate most is that Hollywood makes it seem like love=expensive e-ring, when in fact, how many celebrity relationships are crumbling all around us? I can guarantee that my finace does not love me less because my e-ring is 1/20th the size of Kim Kardashian’s. And If I had $2 million dollars lying around, I can promise you I would not spend it on the diamond that finally balances out Kim Kardashian’s ass.

    I love your puppy!! please do not stop showing him off!!

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  13. Christine on May 25, 2011

    Alison, THANK YOU for that rant. As soon as I read about that stupid ring, my thoughts were as follows:

    1.) “Did he feel he needed to one-up someone?”

    2.) “Is he compensating for something?”

    3.) “Is she that greedy that she needed something that insanely big and expensive?”

    4.) “Just because she’s a celebrity (and I use that term lightly), doesn’t mean she needs to have something so over-the-top….how about a ring that represents your love, NOT your money?”

    5.) “I’m glad my fiance put his time and effort into my ring instead of throwing a bunch of money at it…thus making it more valuable than Kim’s ring!!!”

    -Okay, moving on from MY rant now. Love the photos/ruffles/colors in that shoot…more importantly, I LOVE the Golden Retriever (weakness of mine).

    -McPuppyPants = much cuter than Victoria Beckham. Would love to cuddle with him!

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  14. Ariana on May 25, 2011

    With a ring that big on my finger my biggest worry would be getting robbed. I mean, they just announced to the world that she has 2 mil on her finger. Very grotesque.

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  15. Nicole on May 25, 2011

    i literally just read about kim and her crazyring right before i clicked over to my reader and the knotty bride. what the heck? i completely agree. did she ask for something that big do you think? is she trying to one up khloe? did they go look at rings together or did he pick that out because he thought she would like it? honestly if i had that on my finger everyday it would get in the way! i agree exactly with what you said – its like its just a competition to see who has the biggest ring when really the ring should represent the commitment you are making to each other and your love for one another. stupid. and like ariana said – someone is probably going to want to steal that from her. she better be surrounded by bodyguards at all times. wow.
    i can’t wait to see what all they do for their wedding though, lol.

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  16. Ariella on May 25, 2011

    I definitely agree. And I think the issue trickles down to us normal folk. There’s always been this, my ring is bigger than your ring competition among women. And it’s not just about the ring, it’s about financial status and how much their fiance “loves” them, etc. I think most people generally agree that 20 carats is insane, but then it ups the “carat quotient” for regular girls. Suddenly a carat isn’t big enough. How are men suppose to compete?

    My ring has a .38 diamond. Yup. It’s not even half a carat, but it was cut with such craftsmanship (nearly 100 years ago) and set in such a way that personally, I think it looks better than most of my girlfriends that have bigger rings. Yeah, I said it.

    My diamond also has sentimental value as it was my fiance’s grandmother’s. But for a long time my fiance was embarrassed by it. He thought that my friends or other women would look down at me for having a small diamond. He felt they would judge him for not being a good provider because of my small and, not for nothing, free diamond.

    I’m not saying that we should all downsize our rings, that girls with huge rocks should feel bad about it and bling is bad, but it would be silly to ignore the pressure that trickles down when women are constantly trying to outdo each other.

    That all came out kinda bitchy. Hope I didn’t offend anyone.

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  17. Megan Powers on May 25, 2011

    Ew. That is so tacky. I cannot stand people with big flashy rings, especially when you think about how many people died mining the diamond that now sits on her finger. Also, how long with this marriage really last? And then what? You flaunted this tacky piece of jewelry for nothing.

    In happier news. I bought the pink ruffled dress for my rehearsal dinner. EEEE!!!! I can’t wait to try it on at home.

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  18. Kristen on May 25, 2011

    First, I have to say that I am in love with that pleated ruffle dress! As for Kim K., she’s found love and I’m happy for anyone who’s found it and seems happy. However, I do admit that her ring is nothing short of obnoxious. When you have to hire out a Brinks truck and armed security to go out to dinner because your engagement ring is a freakin’ sattelite, it’s a bit much. My bleeding liberal heart thinks of how many hungry people could be fed with the cost of that ring. In the end, it’s their money (I question whether he paid for all of it) and it’s theirs to do with what they will, but if it were me, I’d choose something WAY more modest and put the rest of that money to good use.

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  19. Kristen on May 25, 2011

    Ugh, I mispelled a word or two. Anyhoo, I think the announcement bearing how big her rock is is poorly timed. Sorry midwest, my 20 carat ring announcement trumps your tornados and flooding. I sit here waiting to hear if old family friends are okay, people have lost everything, and they are bracing for more. Did we really need to know how big that ring is? I never could have accepted it in good conscience. I can’t wait to get my engagement and wedding rings as they were my Mom’s. My dad gifted them too me a couple of weeks ago (she passed on March 30th) and I couldn’t be happier. My parents were married 47 1/2 years before her passing and those rings mean more to me than any ring that my fiancee could have purchased.

    Oh, and one more thing, Bambino just keeps getting cuter!

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  20. Dev on May 25, 2011

    I think the rush has been on since Khloe got married, particularly since the wedding didn’t seem to come that long after the breakup. Notice how the “tastes” shifted from the football player who wouldn’t marry her for nothing-to getting a basketball player like her sister. I think the “why Khloe, and not me?” attitude is more than obvious, and from this point on the competition will be fierce. No matter what she does, her sister will still have been first, and I really think her sister’s relationship will last ten times longer than ten of hers combined. (Can you tell I’m not a fan?)

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  21. Em2 on May 25, 2011

    I couldn’t agree with you more. I’m not necessarily jealous of KK, but it does seem to cheapen that whole idea of a diamond representing forever with your partner. And I agree, it would definitely get in the way of everyday activities that most normal people do. Also, let me just say that I immensely enjoy your blog and your whole take on things. You bring a breath of fresh air to wedding planning and have such a great realistic, honest, and funny outtake on this whole process. Really, coming to your site is refreshing, so thank you for providing this!

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  22. Liesl on May 25, 2011

    Loving the ruffles, in fact I’m off to check out a couple of the dresses you posed or my upcoming engagement session!

    Now, speaking of engagement, rings that is, I happen to agree with a lot of what you said…it does seem to be a bit much and should be more about the love of 2 people than how big the “rock: on your finger is!

    Oh and yes, it is amazing how much my ring sparkles under certain lights, like at CPK restaurant and the elevator of my apt. complex, I kid you not! :)

    Lovely post!

    Liesl :)

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  23. totally agree with you on this one – 20.5 carats is just crazy. crazy. but – to each their own, i suppose.

    PS – send me your blogger unveiled thing :)

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  24. Elle on May 26, 2011

    1. I was close with Kris in HS… I was pretty shocked by all this nonsense. I think there is something in the water in L.A. – it makes people CRAZY and slutty.

    2. De Beers is evil and has driven Diamond prices to a ridiculous price and given consumers the idea that they are “rare” – (which they aren’t). Regardless I’m all for big sparklies – but I think 20 ct is ridiculous.

    3. I personally requested the non-diamond route and received a 5 ct emerald, and I LOVE it! *If you are thinking about getting engaged I totally recommend colored Gems – you wouldn’t believe how many people comment on it!! I get to relive our engagement all the time!!

    4. Does anyone else remember that the only reason Kim is famous is because she made a sex tape??? She has NO talent, yet everyone seems to know her???? It’s so confusing to me.

    And Bambino… you are way cuter than Posh Spice, although arguably she has nicer gams.

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  25. Madison on May 27, 2011

    if i had something worth $2m on my finger i would be scared to step outside! My engagement ring is a black pearl and it means so much to me because it was chosen with me in mind rather than being flash. In other news i love the shoot, gorgeous!

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  26. Jessica on May 28, 2011

    SO agree about the ring. Besides the fact that it just seems so dang impractical and of course highly ethically questionable, I’d be terrified to have it in the house let alone actually wear the thing in public – it seems it would make you a major target for robbery.

    And of course, think of what you would do with $20 Million – college loan payoffs, buy a house out right, donate to charity, travel the world, start your own business, the list goes on.

    Ps. your puppy is too cute. Can’t wait to get a frenchie of my own once I’m not living overseas.

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  27. Michelle Denton on May 31, 2011

    I agree! I have a generously sized ring (IMHO)it’s a little over a carat. Well I just got my wedding band which is a diamond eternity style and it’s like pretty diamond overload! I wore it for the day at work and honestly felt show-offy. Because even though it’s not THAT big, I can’t help being very conscious that I live in a city/world where there are great disparities in wealth and my hand looked “rich.”

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  28. Amma // Beyond Beyond on June 2, 2011

    I am loving the puppy updates sooo cute, and on Kardashian… well I saw the headline and the first thing I thought is I give it 6 months Not hating, but the shifting sands of Hollyweird living, mean that most couples are lucky if they make moving in together. Let alone surviving the ups and downs of marriage.

    A big ring doesn’t mean a big deal, it only means you have a big ring. What counts is whether the love is there or not.

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  29. Kate/MagnoliaRouge on June 13, 2011

    Love that little white dress outfit in the shoot!! Wish I could pull that off… not literally off her… you know, get away with it!!
    And Kim… sorry but it’s beyond ridiculous. As is she. Just my opinion people! She could save a small country with that ring!

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