Hi darlings! Happy afternoon to you! Ok enough of that let’s get down to business.
Those images up there are the meat and potatoes of today’s afternooner, but I’ve got to get something off my chest before we get into it.
My mom came by yesterday for our far too infrequent afternoon coffee date/dish session and with her she brought me some porn of the J.Crew/Anthropologie/Victoria’s Secret catalog variety. However, not even a cafe mocha WITH whipped cream and some fashion therapy could take my mind off of the inevitability of what today is. Especially since cafe mochas have like 1/3 the caffeine people think they have and so they don’t do s***. The More You Know *rainbow graphic*
So, you guys, I’ve been feeling like, emotionally, I could go either way today. And while yes, I will readily admit that it’s likely the PMS talking, there’s definitely another elephant in the room that isn’t helping matters any. And no I’m not talking about the elephantvahine in the room that I tweeted about yesterday ifyouknowwhatimsayin. Andifyoudont... this is what I’m sayin.
Anyway the other more relevant elephant (←that’s funny to say out loud; they are at the ZENITH of word rhyming potential) is Bambino’s surgery. I, alone, am picking him up from the vet today and of course I had to accidentally come across this an hour ago. All you really need to see is like three seconds of it to catch my drift.
Now, ignoring the fact that this person’s home video ventures dangerously close to crossing the invisible line into what seems to be amateur puppy porn – which I certainly hope DOES NOT EXIST BUT I WILL NOT BE INVESTIGATING BECAUSE I DO NOT WANT TO CRY ALL YEAR – it also brings to light a cold, harsh reality. Bambino might look like this when I rescue him from the vet today. And my friends, I do not think that I can bear it. Because if puppies ever go through hard, life-defining times, this is surely what that looks like. Clinical depression is also what that looks like. Anyway SIIIIIIGH.
Ok, FIRST LOOKS, HERE WE GO. (Whaddya want a transition? Well you’re not getting one.)
To first look, or not to first look?
That is the question. And I’ve been on both sides of this argument; that is, before I landed safely and securely on a single side, forever. But as a disclaimer, I’m in no way trying to assert that my argument is *the right argument* – it’s simply the argument I personally support, based on personal perspective, as well as countless conversations with couples and photographers alike. Ok, it’s go time:
Instead of waxing pedantic about the reasoning that brought me to this decision, I’ma make a list. Mainly because I’ll probably go on forever. Also, lists are the best. But watch me go on forever anyway, even though I totes tried to thwart myself from doing that by proclaiming that I’d be making a list. Ok anyway here goes:
1. Many people, even the most Type A of personalities, get very nervous when the ceremony begins. And that’s to be expected, because it’s kind of a big deal. Adding to that, the fact that, depending on the size of your wedding, potentially hundreds of eyes are all on YOU and WHAT YOU’RE GONNA DO NEXT. It’s hard to ignore. And, while it doesn’t happen to all couples, the overwhelming nature of a marriage ceremony can result in an involuntary tendency to keep your emotions in check.
2. Your photos will rock, and they will rock extremely HARD. (Added the ‘extremely’ because I didn’t feel good about putting ‘rock’ and ‘HARD’ up against one another. I dunno just didn’t feel going there with that sentence. I’m trying to be serious today. I’m even wearing my ‘serious hat.’) To be able to have images that capture the raw expression of exactly what you’re feeling with regards to this entire day, expressed in that one precious moment, and shared between only you two… well that’s just – that’s AMAZEBALLSNESS, folks. Ya dig?
… And now, to further prove where I’m coming from…
HERE LIES MY ARGUMENT, IN PHOTOS:
P.S. – Another favorite capture of mine is the first look between the bride and her Dad. Too special for words when you’ve got a sap (like mine). Here, behold an example, from a wedding we featured by Nessa K:
Oh, and if you’re worried that the high level of excitement, anticipation and raw emotion will be lost for the ceremony…
It won’t. In fact, you’ll be a bit more relaxed about the whole thing, so you can actually fully enjoy and be present for it, mentally. But that’s just my two cents… SO……..
Here’s what I’d love to know. Where do you stand on this issue? For first looks? For waiting ’til the ceremony? I’m totes game for discussing this issue; after all, it’s highly polarizing. I just wanna have it out, and if necessary, I am prepared for this to come to fisticuffs.
xoxo! – Alison