LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS | They are entirely what *you* make of them… and all you need is 5 minutes.

Happy day, darlings!  Ok, it’s weird that I just started out this post like that, because I have some unfortunate news, my friends.  It seems… well it seems it’s happened again.

Remember that time when I told you about that couple fighting outside at around 3am, right under our window, and how it kept the neighborhood up?  Well, 21 Break-up Street struck again.  For what is now the second time, a man and a woman collided verbally ‘neath our window sill last night and commenced break-up-fighting of the *slapping hands together in opponents face* and *screaming angrily without listening to the other party* variety.  It was a wretched night, indeed, for that couple.  Not for us, of course, because we taught Bambo to “speak!”  Aka softly bark; he doesn’t bark much at all so we’re actually TRYING to get him to talk, feels like such a weird thing to be doing with a dog.  Anyway, I’d tell you the ins and the outs of their argument, but a truck that read “JUST BAGELS” on the side went by while I was trying to listen in and it made me *need* a bagel.  Like, get up and get a bagel and eat it right away, jonesing kind of need.  Crack-addict-esque need.  Marketing is brilliant/the devil.

Anywho, whilst eating my bagel, which was delicious by the way, I thought about what I wanted to write for you guys, and all other plans got blown out the window.  This post simply *had* to take precedence, no matter what.  Half because of that unfortunate couple’s street altercation – which I believe, sadly, was over another woman if I heard correctly (I was drying off in the shower, the window was open to let in cool air, you seriously can’t blame me for listening in a bit, a’ight?) – and half because of something Honey showed me last night after dinner.

This is the beauty part of the story.

Honey asked me if I had five minutes to look at something.  Now… whenever someone asks me if I have five minutes, I immediately go into cardiac arrest of the are-you-kidding-me-five-whole-minutes?!?! persuasion.  I’m not a twiddling my thumbs kind of person with time to spare, as far as I’m concerned.  Which of course is ridiculous, if you think about it, because we all have at least five minutes here and there, no matter how busy we are.  (It’s so easy to forget how important it is to make time for the ones we love.)  Anyway, realizing this, I calmed my irrational self and, freaking APPROPRIATELY, said yup, I do.  I, of course, have five minutes, for you, Honey.  Well I didn’t say it cheesily like I just wrote it – that was more my inner dialogue – whatever you understand.

… And what he did changed my night entirely.

He asked me if I knew of a site called StoryCorps.  I said I hadn’t.  He described the mission of the site, and then brought up a certain video that was especially touching to him; one a coworker had shared with him while they were talking on Tuesday afternoon.  Here is that video.  And you know I don’t often post videos, so this is kind of a biggie.  So, if you have five minutes, I hope that you’ll sit down with a drink or a snack or just your listening hat on, and watch with me.

And, if you’d like to share, I’d love to hear your thoughts when you’re through.

By the way, people ask me sometimes how I’d personally define “amazeballs.”  I believe I’ll be pointing them to Danny and Annie’s video going forward.

Interestingly enough, a bestselling book recommended by StoryCorps is entitled “Listening Is an Act of Love.“  So yeah, I have five minutes.  And I’ll always have five minutes for you, babe.  For eternity.

And now, to lighten the mood, because I think it might need some SERIOUS LIGHTENING AT THE MOMENT, EH?  EH??  I present to you, another installment of A Day in the Life of Bambino McPuppyPants, I-got-a-brand-new-colorful-rope-from-my-Aunt-Jenny-and-I-loves-it! Edition:

Wait – is this… am I in Heaven?  This is a rope, a new one I’ve never seen before…?  OH BOY A NEW ROPE I’M ON IT…

I wonder if she can tell that I’m inching ever closer to my objective… she probably can’t ROPE ROPE ROPE ROPE I WANNIT…

… by the way, aren’t I cute?

Ok I’m ready!  I’m ready!  I’m as high up as I can get, put it in my mouth, put it, put it!  ROPE MOUTH NOW!!!!

AHHHHH YES!!!!!  MOUTHED.

Hopefully that brought us all into a sprightlier state of mind for this next part…

Ok, SO, darlings, while I’m sure you already do, I just feel compelled to say that I hope all of you are able to find five (or much more!) minutes for your loved ones.  And everyone else who shows you love, and for whom you show the same.  I’m sure you do, and I don’t mean to patronize you or anything, but it can’t hurt to be reminded, right?

Which brings us to today’s ponderings:

What do you think of Danny and Annie’s story?  Do you have a story you’d like to share?  Short, long, not even about you but people you know… whatever it is, I’d absolutely love to hear it.  You know I’m a sucker for this stuff, no matter how cheesy/campy/lovey-dovey it is.

xoxo!  – Alison

Images at top: featured wedding, by Nessa K Photography

Label(s): Mr. McPuppyPants, Real Life Issues, {Love + Relationships}

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45 comments

  1. Loe on July 13, 2011

    ohmygod. so i’m sitting at work now BAWLING. that was absolutely beautiful and so touching and i’ve never wanted to hug my fiance so much as i do right now but he’s at work too SO.

    so i am glad there are bambino pictures. he’s the cutest!

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  2. marisa on July 13, 2011

    You forgot to include a warning that watching this video will lead to crying at work! Dannie and Annie’s story is so moving and beautiful. They are a wonderful example to follow!

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  3. Abby {Super Burbs} on July 13, 2011

    Ok. Just bawled my eyes out at that video. Like ugly cry. So adorable. That is a great kind of love.

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  4. Didi on July 13, 2011

    I finished putting my makeup on, and I wanted to read your post before going to work.
    Now I’m crying my eyes out and I have to go get ready again for work!
    ~I would do it all over again~

    Thank you for sharing this with us. It’s precious.

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  5. Robbins Brothers on July 13, 2011

    I’ve seen these StoryCorps before. They are so very emotional and it always changes my mood, makes me reflect on my life and my unknown future. Amazing and I’m so very glad that you thought so too. I remember the first one I watched was this one of Danny and Annie. I was crying.. HARD. Thanks for sharing with your readers. The other videos by StoryCorps are exceptional, as well. They’re all so very touching.

    Also.. just wanted to point out that in your very last picture.. Bambs has a slight twinkle in his eye that screams.. “CRAZY” Haha! But in a good fun way. :3

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  6. Aimmey on July 13, 2011

    I love that video! Thank you so much for sharing & it’s so nice to see true love does exist…xXx

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  7. Sarah on July 13, 2011

    I am a blubbering mess at my desk! Good lord. That was one of the better 5 minutes I have viewed in a long time. Thanks so much for sharing.

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  8. Megan on July 13, 2011

    Wow. What a sweet, heartwrenching story. Thank goodness I waited to watch it on my lunch break-lots of tears!!
    I think that is the type of love that everyone is looking for. That is it.
    Thank you so much for sharing that video–I am sending to my boyfriend pronto, as I know he will enjoy it as much as I did!

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  9. Koru Kate on July 13, 2011

    I am CRYING!!! & I’m so not the crying type. Danny & Annie’s story was so sweet, so touching. Like the poster above, it makes me want to run out & hug my hubs (too bad he’s at work) & possibly every other person I love. Their story reminds me of “grow old along with me, the best is yet to be.” There aren’t enough words to express how inspiring Danny & Annie are to this newly married girl!

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  10. Brittney on July 13, 2011

    I saw Danny & Annie’s story a couple of months ago and I will never be the same again. If there is anyone doubting the love in this world, this video will change their minds. After all, what is life without love? Thanks for sharing the video. I cry every.single.time. :)

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  11. Cocroft & Delbridge on July 13, 2011

    Holy cow…well now that I can see through my tears…I sent this video to my fiance and told him to watch it in his office with the door closed because it will absolutely make him tear up.

    What a stunningly beautiful story of love. Thank you so much for sharing that. It definitely makes you realize that you are never too busy for the love of your life.

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  12. love that video, i’ve seen it on a few other blogs lately and it is just too sweet!!!

    PS – will accept NY bagels in exchange for jam?

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  13. Laura on July 13, 2011

    Alison- That video was the perfect pick me up in the midst of an exhausting week. It reminds me what we are in this industry for- to celebrate with the Danny & Annie’s.

    Thank you.

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  14. Sandy on July 13, 2011

    bawling. at. my. desk. and now everyone else in my office is watching it too because they wondered what the heck was wrong with me. omg.

    i am exactly the same when it comes to time – 5 minutes?! are you crazy?! – and especially with videos…thanks for the reminder to slow down a bit and make time!

    xox

    ps – thanks for the bambino smiles too. :)

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  15. Kristen on July 13, 2011

    Yep, I cried. My son came up to me and said, “Mommy, don’t cry. I know you miss Grandma, but she’s okay.” Of course that made me cry even more. My mom passed on March 30th due to complications of liver cancer (her third type of cancer in less than two years). She and my dad were together for 48 years and married for 47 1/2 of those years. My dad was by her side, every day in the hospital and every day when she was moved in to hospice. She passed as my dad was holding her hand, exactly how she would have wanted. It’s to my parent’s relationship I have always tried to have. I wasn’t able to do it with my first marriage, but I know I will with my upcoming wedding, which will be on what would have been my parent’s 49th wedding anniversary. Sorry, didn’t mean to write a book here :)

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  16. Laura *You Stir Me* on July 13, 2011

    would you believe it if I told ya that Danny and Annie clip was what inspired me to start my blog back in November? Yup:) It’s a simple reminder of what’s good and true in this world. I like to go back to it now and then when I need to calm down and remember what’s most important in life. I make sure to grab some tissues first.

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  17. Jenn on July 13, 2011

    Oh the tears. I can feel my heart trying to come out of my chest and my throat at the same time.

    I have 5 minutes. Everytime.

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  18. Allyson on July 13, 2011

    Alison, thank you for posting this. My parents (who were married in 1978) share a love just like one. My dad writes my mom love letters on post-it notes and dotes on her like she’s the most important person in the entire universe. It is their love that has made our business possible. They have built us as a business, and as a family, brick-by-brick, hand-in-hand for 35 years. It is because of their love that we all do what we do: work hard to make people happy. Thank you for reminding me of this with your post. Crying at my desk never felt so good.

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  19. Valerie on July 13, 2011

    sniff sniff ~ loved this to tears!

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  20. LAA - Southern Aisle on July 13, 2011

    I mean…there are just no words for how amazing that video is. A truly great love story, and you’re right a wonderful reminder to stop and take 5 minutes.

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  21. Lauren B on July 13, 2011

    I just BAWLED at my computer as I watched that video. Thank you so much for sharing it…I think I need to write my Honey a love letter right now.

    And keep Bambino coming. There will never be enough pictures. My two favorite things in one blog, weddings and puppies!!

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  22. Jenna on July 13, 2011

    wow… I needed this video without even realizing I needed this video (am I right people?).
    just wow.

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  23. Lena on July 13, 2011

    Best five minutes.

    John and I have agreed we’ll go together, a la The Notebook. Really non negotiable, because I am a blubbering mess just watching this.

    Thank goodness for that big Bambino smile-the perfect bit of light.

    xoxoxoxox, Lena

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  24. Elle on July 13, 2011

    Need perspective today. Thanks. <3

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  25. my fiance and i watched the video and it brought tears to our eyes. we loved it! we always write notes to each other so this one hit close to home :)

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  26. april on July 13, 2011

    SOMEONE please bring me a tissue! so touching and eye-opening!

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  27. LauraCYW on July 14, 2011

    That video was touching. I’m such a sucker for sentimentality… and your dog is cute too.

    I have a story. It’s about my grandparents. It’s a shorty.

    Every year on the anniversary of their first date, my grandpa would bring home a bouquet of flowers for my grandma. He did this for 56 years. My grandma said he always did sweet stuff like that. But he wouldn’t let her drink beer. She drinks beer now.

    Happy Wednesday.

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  28. JenW on July 14, 2011

    Oh my goodness… started off my morning with a few tears. I loved the video. Reminded me of my grandparents.

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  29. Jenny on July 14, 2011

    I adore that video and have already sent it off to be shared with others! A story I wanted to share is about my parents. They have been married for 30 years and while my dad is not one for grand gestures, he shows his love to my mom in other ways. Once when she had the flu, she called him to bring home chicken noodle soup on his way home. He came home with three different types just to make she he bought one she would like. I just think little things like that show such love.

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  30. Tiffany on July 14, 2011

    I’m literally crying!! this is so nice… excellent example to follow!! Small things show all the love!!! XOX Tiff

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  31. Tiffany on July 14, 2011

    I just stumbled across your blog recently and love reading what you have to say. This was the best one yet. I also am bawling at work. What a great story…if only everyone of us could be half as blassed as that in life. Thanks for sharing:)

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  32. Marie @ Emici Bridal on July 14, 2011

    I have seen that video before so I knew the heartbreak fest I was in for to watch it again. I wanted to watch it again because I also knew how touching and beautiful their story is. Love is a powerful force. Thought I could watch it again without crying. I was wrong. xo

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  33. alicia@Charitywedding on July 14, 2011

    Long lasting true and passionate love gets me every time. This is the sweetest/saddest video. Love like that reminds me why I got married in the first place!

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  34. Diana Rush on July 20, 2011

    Thanks for making me cry! I loved it!

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  35. Maria on July 22, 2011

    That was so touching and it makes you realize what love and marriage is truly about. Brought a tear to my eye! and of couse i will be sharing this with my honey!

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  36. Elizabeth on July 23, 2011

    Well, like everyone else, I am sitting here at work crying! This is beautiful.

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  37. Jess Park on October 23, 2011

    I love your post, wonderful in every way!

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  38. Stephanie {Luxe Boulevard} on October 25, 2011

    There wasn’t one thing about that that didn’t make my heart get all tight! I think I’m going to pass that along today on my own site. Oh, and give my hubs five minutes!

    Steph

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  39. Laicie on October 26, 2011

    Okay… I’m crying in my office…

    I love this.

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  40. The Match Maven on November 4, 2011

    Just tears…wow. Thanks for sharing this.

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  41. Andied on May 10, 2012

    the story reminds me of my grandparents. they’ve been married for 56 years, and grandpa still gives grandma a goodnight kiss before bedtime. here’s something i wrote about them a while back :

    A stroke ruined the part of my grandma’s brain that controls speech ability, and so she hasn’t spoken for almost 7 years. My grandpa’s hearing has failed him gradually since I don’t know when.
    One can’t speak, the other can’t hear. But their eyes always light up at the sight of each other. And it’s plain to see that for them, that’s enough.

    My grandfather was admitted to a hospital several weeks ago. My grandmother insisted to visit him every morning. As she walks into the room, he would say proudly to the nurses “Have you met my girlfriend? She’s so pretty isn’t she?”. Since grandma can’t speak, all she does when she visits is take a chair at his bedside, and hold his hands. Sometimes they hold hands while watching TV, sometimes while gazing into each others’ eyes, sometimes they even fall asleep while holding hands.
    Old people can be so stubborn, especially my grandpa in particular. He often refuses to eat, and nothing we say or do can make him eat. Then grandma comes to the rescue, just by glaring at him, or trying to feed him. Like a 5 year old, my grandpa obliges sheepishly.
    I am a skeptic when it comes to love, but they continue to prove me wrong. Now I regret that I never probed deeper about their courtship. Who made the 1st move, where did they meet, where did they go on their first date, when did they know they were in love?
    I sincerely hope I will have a love story this beautiful and longlasting…
    And for my grandparents Uti & Aung, I’m so grateful they did.

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    • Heather Chesnet on May 11, 2012

      Andied – That is one of the most beautiful love stories I have ever heard! Being younger (not young, but younger than your grandparents) I feel that kinda closeness with my husband but often fear that as we get old we will change and somehow become bitter. I pray that we can grow old together just as deeply in love after 50 years of marriage as we are now 18 years in. Our Anniversary is in a few days… May 14th. It is going to be another wonderful one! Thank you for sharing!

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  42. I have seen that video. It is honestly one of the sweetest things ever!

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  43. Nessa K on May 10, 2012

    I saw your link to this earlier today and I started the video and stopped halfway through because I wanted to watch it with my husband. He just got home and we watched it while eating dinner. We both cried and hugged annndddd thank you for sharing that video. It made our night. :)

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  44. Maire on May 12, 2012

    The part that touched me most about this story is how genuine they couple is.

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