two of my fave things are in these photos, but can you guess what the third is? it’s not revealed up there…
Hey lovies! Three – count ‘em, three! – photographer friends recently asked me to make sure I include some Bambino in their features, so I’m telling you, if you’ve been suffering without your Bam fix a bit, relax, he’s back. I do want to warn you, though, that Bambino is en fuego today in aisle 4 of the Adorable Department. He’s not performing as well in the Don’t Distract Mommy dep’t, but whatever it’s ok. He’s just all running in his sleep, cooing, totally retaining his new partnered dancing trick he learned yesterday (solo is next – we’re both a little nervous), and just generally being a kind, loving individual. Listen I’ll let the photo at the end of this post, which you’re going to scroll down to see right now, do the talking.
Ok, so today we’ve got a biggie, folks. It’s a question sent in by a reader that I happened to bring up last week on Twitter, or was it two weeks ago? Or yesterday. I give up. I have no idea, I’ve completely lost track of time. I watched in excess of two hours not including commercials so literally two hours, meaning more than two full shows of reality television yesterday, so I don’t feel like a normal human being or like I’m capable of making a positive contribution to society. My parents raised me betta than this! Get yourself together, Alison. Just because Rachel Zoe wants to hire a new assistant based on gender/looks and with no regard for experience in the field – none of that affects you, Alison. It’s her life! She can reject the qualified, deserving young woman who applied, even if it IS based on her unvoiced and invalid concerns of future betrayal on behalf of her husband and said young woman, if she wants to. Stay out of it, Alison! Let her live her life. I need to forget about Rachel Zoe and dreams of how she’ll end up dressing her baby, and focus on the stuff I really care about. Like beautiful shoots, and extremely difficult questions involving interpersonal relationships and emotions. A-like a-so…
PART I ~ QUESTION FROM A READER
Zee question in question:
Hi Alison and everyone at TKB! I’m hoping you can give me some advice, because I’m stuck for what to do. Here’s my problemo (thank you in advance!):
I’m in a frustrating situation with my fiance right now that I feel somewhat ridiculous about, but worse, don’t know how to resolve without at least one of us being completely pissed off about the outcome, come our wedding day. I can’t even begin to convey via email how frustrating this whole thing is, so I’ll spare you the depths of my emotional woes and just state the problem clearly and concisely. Because if permitted, I really could go on for days about this.
My soon to be husband is an extremely kind, friendly, welcoming person. I’d even call him a social butterfly, except that it sounds extremely weird to call my FH a butterfly, so I don’t call him that, but you catch my drift. He loves people, and he has this habit of remaining friends with everyone, which isn’t necessarily a problem. It’s one of the things I love about him. HERE’s the problem: when I say everyone, I mean practically everyone he’s ever known. And oh yes, this includes previous girlfriends. He doesn’t go out for drinks with them on a regular basis or anything – he’s a good person and knows something like that would make me uncomfortable. I don’t love that he’s still on speaking terms with his past flames though; it’s not something I get. For me breaking up with someone means not keeping them on as friends in most cases. But anyway we both have our own opinions and it’s worked just fine up until now.
He wants to invite one of his past girlfriends who he still keeps in touch with, TO OUR WEDDING.
Am I overreacting? Obviously, emotions are high, I mean we’re planning a wedding for chrissakes. And I don’t want to overreact. But I don’t like it. One bit. He and this girl are friends, and she’s nice enough, but but I can’t help but keeping thinking to myself that I deserve to feel happy and completely at ease on my wedding day, and even if he thinks I’m being irrational shouldn’t he understand at least a little bit how I’m feeling? I’m sighing out loud as I type this. I wish this wasn’t even an issue. Grrrr. But it is, and I have to face it, it just sucks having to deal with at all. I wish he just knew not to even want to invite her.
Thanks for reading. Here’s to hoping TKB can give me a push in the right direction. :)
Given your specific feelings and circumstances, you’re not overreacting. This is REDONK. An absolute no-go, she can’t come. Like you said, you deserve to be happy and comfortable on your wedding day. You deserve to feel that way on all days. But especially this day. On other days, maybe the ex can be involved on occasion, if this is something you’ve been fine with in the past. (I don’t know if I could be fine with that, or understand why it needs to happen, but that’s me.) But on your wedding day – HEELLLLLLLLL NO. Why the heck does he need this ex-girlfriend around on your wedding day? Answer is he doesn’t. And assuming they’re level-headed people, I bet he and the ex won’t mind. If they can’t understand your feelings, that’s a whole other bag of chips.
I think you just need to look at him and tell him how you feeeeel. You wouldn’t believe the steps we can take in relationships, when we just tell one another how we’re feeling.
Also, guys can’t read minds. It took me a good while to realize this. It takes everyone good while. But we all, hopefully, end up with that critical knowledge. He can’t read your mind. You really do need to spell it out for him.
… I’m turning it over to you guys…. what do you think she should do?
PART II ~ THREE FAVORITE THINGS
I like ginormous balloons. I like punctuation. I like furbabies. This shoot is my perfect designer baby.
Thanks to Sarina Love Photography for submitting this lovely engagement inspiration! Here’s the rundown before we jump in…
Lisa and Justin love their doggies Dolly and Buttons and wanted to incorporate them into their engagement session. We headed to a lovely trail inIrvine, CA with their babies and some fun and colorful balloons. With all the super styled shoots out there, it was nice to showcase an engagement session that was simple yet still showcases an array of angles, poses, and looks. It’s amazing how a few simple props like their dogs and balloons and beautiful light can really turn a simple engagement session into a really memorable and adorably cute session!!
Thanks, Sarina… hope you love, peeps!
And now, as promised, A Day in the Life of Bambino McPuppyPants…
Today’s installment: Bambino Learns to Comfort.
The more I look at my thumb in that picture the weirder it’s looking to me. I NFI why my thumb is super hella at an angle in that top photo. What is it doing?? Why the severe right angle???
Ok, SO! Friendlies, do you have any thoughts on Miss E’s situation? It’s a toughie.
And how ’bout this adorable and totally simple-rific engagement shoot situation??!!!! This session is kind of exactly what I’d want to do with Honey, for one of our gazillion engagement shoots. The puppehs, the punctuation, the colors, the connection. I die. I positively DIE, right here, in my seat. With Bambo sitting on my lap, witnessing the whole thing. Yeah, that ol’ death-by-engagement-shoot way to go. You know it. I pity Bambo, though. He’s going to have to explain to everyone what happened, seeing as he’s the last on the scene. I hope the police don’t suspect him. They always tend to do that, with the last person on the scene.
Aaaaaand I’m crazy.
xoxo! - Alison
Photography: Sarina Love Photography