DEAR TKB: “I am getting married in just over a week and am in desperate need of guidance!” | Also, Candy Shop Photo Booths = My New Favorite Photo Booths!

Can you guess where they are?  I can’t keep a secret they’re in a candy shop photo booth!

Happy Thursday evenin’, honey bunnies!  Ok SO.  I’ve switched things up today, because we received an urgent question from a reader who needs help (if you couldn’t tell by the title of this post), and I definitely need your help figuring out what she should do.  Reason?  I have nada zip zilch nowhere near the understanding or personal life experience that it’s gonna take to provide the answer she needs.  Oh, and paired up with the reader question?  The killingest APROPOS sneak peek of a stylish little candy shop shoot, that’s totally like I said apropos, and totally killingest.  I’m so excited that Session Nine Photographers submitted it so I could I bring it to your faces today style.  It simply HAD to be paired up with this question.  Enough, enough intro-ing, Alison.  They get it.  No, no they get it, they do!

Of course, before we get into all THAT…

You and I, we’re on a need-to-know basis, right?  And an everything-else-that-I-possible-could-share-with-you-via-the-limited-medium-of-the-written-word basis.  And then of course there’s the bodily-functions basis, that we’re on.  We are on a veritable smorgasbord of tasty basi.

Well.  Drunk off of the incredible mental high one gets from blogging for too many consecutive hours without water or bathroom breaks (I think, no I know, a lot of you get what I’m talking about), I wrote two blog posts in one yesterday.  Ain’t no thang.  Not uncommon.  But usually I separate them out, because if I actually left in ALL THE STORIES my fingers end up telling WordPress in one sitting, within one draft, you’d be reading for days and you’d have absolutely no time or brain power left to leave a comment.  And your comments on the blog are my most precious treasure, you see.  I heart them.  Hearing from you is a big reason why I blog.  SO.  Since yesterday was eff-up-your-process day for me, I ask that the Fantastic ninety Four people who – WITH LIGHTENING FAST SPEED – visited TKB within the first second of yesterday’s post going live, and already read this special little two paragraph anecdote about me and Honey, well… I ask that you be cool, be cool.  ’Cause I really wanted to share it today, and I just really wanted to share it, period.  Sort of to prove that I’m not the only sillyface in this relationship, and that instead of being grimaced at and scolded as I rightly should, my Honey actually encourages my crazy, but doubling down.  Arighty, here’s the story…

Honey called me up from the office yesterday and within five minutes we were engaged in a travel-size version of the P-Nis Game.  Here let me set the scene, so you get why this is a shenanigan, and not just another day on the prairie.  Me: blogging from a location where one can play the P3nis Game with relative ease and only friendlies present; Him, from his office in a real-life office, with his door open, and a bustling community of omnipresent foot-soldiers in his midst.  That, takes balls.

I let him win in the first round.  I – I just, I couldn’t do it to him.  Even though he asked to go first and actually did say the word, once, out loud.  ”Sir, I have some important papers to-” P-NISohWHAT’STHAT?  I’m sorry, what-what’s that?  Yeah, no yeah – that was nothing.  Just, my friend’s son, he’s got, something wrong, with, with his peen–umm, and he needs my help – nooooooo actually no, I didn’t mean that I know anything about problems with p — umm, mine’s fine – I’m just, trying to… important papers, you say?  WHAT of THEM?”

Ok, so see?  I’m not the only whackjob.  Welllllll… actually, reading that back, I’m THE whackjob.  Yeeesh.  Also, man how sexual is the word *whackjob* huh?  I never even thought about that, before, until I had to write it down.  That is a Full On sexual reference, y’all!  Holy moly!  I’ve been using that term loosely!  Around relatives!  In rooms adjacent to rooms where my niece and nephew sleep!  This is kind of depressing.

This is also a good time for the reader question I needed your help with.  Here we go…


Dear TKB:

I am getting married in just over one week and am in desperate need of guidance! I love your blog and you always help out the frantic bride – hope you can do the same here! I wear glasses… have worn glasses since grade four. I have tried (on several hour-long appointments) to use contacts but it just freaks me out putting something in my eye! Everyone knows me with glasses and pretty much no one recognizes me without glasses on.. plus I’m pretty sure I look weird without them on. My fiance says the typical sweet-guy line, “Whatever you want, you look great both ways” which is adorable but not helpful in any way. So my dilemma.. do I wear glasses and look like me on my wedding day? Or do I go without and see what happens? Help!!! I can’t find any photos of brides in glasses that aren’t nerdy and our wedding is DIY but not nerdy chic.

Your loyal servant,


Hey R!  As you might have been able to deduce, right around the part at the beginning when I said I don’t feel properly qualified to give you good advice on this… that I might not have any good advice on this.  But my lack of personal understanding is not a match for my intense desire to help you figure this ish out.  BUT, here’s my two cents for what it’s worth…

I’m sharing a smidgen of a shoot today, to sort of answer your question in photos… you’ll see, below.  To me, that shoot doesn’t feel *Nerd Chic* in the least, but instead, the cutest little shoot between the cutest little couple, who are just being themselves.  Trying out a bunch of looks.  You’ll see when we feature the shoot in full at a later date, that the couple mix it up, re: the glasses factor.

What I’m quite awkwardly trying to say is, you need to do what you feel comfortable doing.  If “everyone knows you” as a person who wears glasses, but you don’t want to wear them on your wedding, by no means should you just do it because you think people will drop to the ground and say you look weird.  Because they won’t.  Conversely, if you think you’re going to feel super uncomfortable wearing anything other than your trust pair of specs, then wear them.  And just take them off every once in a while during the *styled* shots your photographer takes – this depends on your photographer, but typically, photographers take a good nice chunk of styled shots – so you’ll have opportunities to wear ‘em, and not wear ‘em.  This way you’ll have a some photos with you rocking both looks.

 … I’m turning it over to you guys…. what do you think she should do?  She’s in a serious decision pickle.  Let’s help her out of that pickle, rinse her off with some industrial strength detergent to get rid of that fermented cucumber smell, and help her on her way.  Please. :)


Jessica from Session Nine Photographers submitted what essentially was in my dreams last night, in the form of a styled engagement shoot involving the darlingest couple and their lovely love but more importantly their killer taste for having fun with the camera.  I’m not throwing the entire shoot up on the blog today, but instead a taste of it, that I personally feel effectively answers our reader’s question to the best of my ability.  The rest of this supa fresh, supa killa shoot will hit your faces quite soon.  But let’s stay focused here on the issue of glasses, shall we?  WE SHALL.

Cutesie to the max, AMIRITE?  Glasses or no glasses.  But glasses are RULING MY FACE right now, as per the above!

So, friendsters…

1) what do you think about R’s predicament?  Any thoughts?  I’m sure she’ll appreciate your input, whether or not you wear specs.  I just really wanna help her right now, because I imagine this is one of those serious personal crises we’ve all experienced, in one respect or another.

2) Ahhhh!!  How stellar is this sneak peek of a stellar shoot that helped me to sort of answer our reader’s question?  So stellar, is an acceptable the answer.  But I wanna hear it, from you.  It’ll boost my shoot-judging-ego.

xoxo!  - Alison

Photography: Session Nine Photographers / Submitted via Two Bright Lights / Personal Stylist: AVE Styles / Other: Stinkweeds, Smeeks

Label(s): "DEAR TKB..." Advice Column, {Engagement}

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  1. Mindy on September 15, 2011

    GURRRRRRRRRRL! ROCK THOSE GLASSES! If they are “you,” then you should look like YOU on your wedding day, not like some weird girl who doesn’t wear glasses. I wear contacts sometimes and I am undecided if I will wear my glasses or contacts on my wedding day. But the best advice I have heard is: DON’T GO THROUGH THE DAY BLIND!!!! The day is a blur as it is; don’t let your vision make it worse.

    Besides, girls in glasses are schexxy. There, I said it.

  2. Rhian on September 15, 2011

    I say where your glasses. You don’t want to be squinting in your wedding photos. Just make sure you talk to your photographer about it. She/he should be able to give you directions for preventing glare. Also, you could always have some photos with your glasses on and some with them off (given they don’t leave marks on your face). I’d also say that you should treat yourself to a new pair of glasses! Maybe you can talk to a stylist about what type of glasses best go with your face shape, your hair style, and your veil (if you are wearing one).

  3. Rhian on September 15, 2011

    AHHH…I just reread what I wrote. I meant “wear.” WHOOOPS!!!!!!

  4. Katie aka MsProcrastin8 on September 15, 2011

    Have you seen this post by Postcard & Pretties? It’s totally meant to be! Just like Mindy said, ROCK THOSE GLASSES!!!
    ~ Katie

  5. Alison on September 15, 2011

    Mindy – Right on, excellent advice. Also, “schexxy” is officially one of my new fave words ;)

    Rhian – great advice! And the marks from glasses part – I never even thought about that! Very good points!

    Katie – So crazy. It seriously freaks me out when similar topics are blogged same day. I think the idea genie occasionally makes two stops on one idea in the same day. :) I checked out Chris’ post and it’s got great info on glasses, too – totes a great read!

  6. Aleah + Nick on September 15, 2011

    Love the look of a bride in glasses! Definitely {if you have time} dress up your tresses and play with your accessories and glasses so that they all accentuate your features and have a lovely complimentary look.

  7. The Blind Bride on September 15, 2011

    I’ve heard the advice that a bride should wear a new fragrance on her wedding day because each time she wears it after, she and her hubby will be transported back to that magical moment. I think you should use the same advice here… a new look sans glasses. Maybe when your husband sees you after that in those rare times you don’t wear glasses in public, he will think of you walking down the aisle. This of course means that you can actually see without your glasses because if not, then wear them! As long as you know you will look beautiful regardless, then you can’t go wrong.

  8. Lena on September 15, 2011

    Who else was blogging about glasses recently? Because those kids were unfairly adorable. Someone should have stopped them, but there’s no stopping cute.

    I wear contacts because for a long time I felt like a nerd in my glasses. John still taps the glass when I wear them, but he also thinks they’re adorable, and so do a lot of other people I know. That said, I can’t imagine getting married in my glasses because every time I wear them, someone says, “Who are you?” or “Do you have pinkeye?”

    So if you know you in glasses and honey knows you in glasses and every there knows you in glasses and you can’t stand sticking something in your eye, why torture yourself? Wear your glasses and get down with your bad self.

    Whackjob=vocket rocket, in my personal scale of creepy comments. So nice going.

    Love and Kisses!

  9. natalie on September 15, 2011

    omg have you seen this!?!?!

    I vote to rock the eyewear. If you feel uncomfortable without them then it will show through in your photos. Plus that is how your man knows you best and the day really is about just you two anyways! <3

  10. tina on September 15, 2011

    you know, i’m sorry, but I hate overly hipster shit. to me, it’s so cliche to do the whole photo booth-plastic glasses-moustaches thing (not that these kids are, i just have a sneaky suspicion that they WILL)

    but how about that glamour post yesterday, huh?! TO DIE FOR. I had a dream about it last night, crazyyyy!!

  11. tina on September 15, 2011

    also I guess I should follow that up with I live in Austin, TX and I’m so surrounded by “hipster culture” that I could choke.

  12. Alison on September 15, 2011

    Aleah and Nick – Great ideas, and I’m a forever fan of playing up the tresses. Does amazing things for an overall look, those played up tresses. xx!

    The Blind Bride – What an amazing perspective and way to deliver that advice! Totally love it!

    Natalie – The internet’s crazy like that :) Chris’s post was stellar, super helpful for spec-wearers!

    Lena – I keep imagining John tapping on your silly nerd frames, Lena. And of course, I haven’t met John, so I keep imagining my male stand-in, Ryan Gosling poking at your glasses.

    … but not with his finger.


  13. Katie on September 16, 2011

    I think glasses and, most importantly, the people wearing them are sexy! Always have and always will. I say ROCK’EM!! I’ve been to a wedding where both bride and groom wear glasses and they looked adorable on their big day, both with glasses in full force! Love it!
    I also love the idea of taking a few shots with them off for funsies, just because I’m curious like that :)

  14. Rebecca on September 16, 2011

    Thank you so much you guys! I really appreciate the input and I am soooo excited to be on this blog! I will ROCK MY GLASSES! …in some shots and I will try some shots without! But ceremony-wise, def need to wear them because I want to see hubby’s face when he sees me. Thanks again to everyone who commented and everyone on TKB!

  15. Chandra ~ Oh Lovely Day on September 16, 2011

    Between the submission I just received with a gorgeous glasses-wearing bride and Chris’s post today on Postcards & Pretties, I think the universe is telling this bride to wear those glasses! Be you, and if you wear glasses then wear your glasses.

    PS- The P3nis game? Spit-coke-out-of-my-mouth funny!

  16. Diana Rush on September 16, 2011

    I love a bride in glasses! And I fully support you being you! If your glasses are part of that, then wear them!

  17. Ashley on September 16, 2011

    The nerdy chic brides usually have glasses that stand out, and they make it a point to sort of overemphasize their nerdy chic glasses. R is just a woman who wears glasses. No need to over-stress it, I say just wear your glasses. Not only will you be uncomfortable in contacts, but EVERYONE will be able to identify you, everyone will look back and say you looked comfortable in your own skin. That includes you! I am the EXACT opposite, I always always wear my contacts and would never my glasses and would look weird in glasses on my wedding day… Might seem like a stretch? OK, here’s another example; I have crazy curly big hair. I had envisioned for years that I would get a sleek blowout and have some sort of fancy updo like so many other brides but my fiance was very adamant that he loved my hair curly. Ultimately, he said, it was my choice, and straight hair pulled into an updo was more refined than my big fro, but he reasoned that it would be better to look back and see ourselves the way we really are. In the end, I agreed that I am more identifiable by my gigantic hair, even though it misbehaves and will not be as polished-looking, I am being true to myself. I hope that makes sense, I see no problem whatsoever with brides in glasses, and I do not, under any circumstances, think it automatically makes the wedding nerdy chic. Good luck with your choice though!

  18. Libby {Follow the Wife} on September 16, 2011

    I wear glasses sometimes (I’m supposed to wear them all the time, but I don’t.) I did not wear them on my wedding day because there was no way possible for me to pull off the sexy librarian/bride combo. It was just not going to happen for me. But I was nervous about not seeing my husband when I walked down the aisle. It was long, and I wasn’t able to see his expression till I got half way down. Think about that first moment you’ll see each other (IDK, maybe you’ll have a first look that happens way closer,) maybe that will help you help clarify things.

  19. Annie on September 16, 2011

    Rock the glasses! If they are a part of who you are, your wedding day is definitely one of those times to embrace who you. You are embracing each other embracing yourselves…well it is a wedding, there should a lot of embracing, period! And if you are still super worried /unhappy about the way you look in them, then simply take them off for your pictures and put them back on again when you need to see.

  20. Ilana on September 16, 2011

    I am torn about the glasses thing. I’m really down with the whole plastic massive nerd glasses either. Not at all! I am, however, all over the really classic, thin frame glasses. I think the heavier frames can hide your lovely features. On the contact end of things, if you do go with contacts, all you have to do is put them in once for the day. No more fingers-in-eyeballs, just be sure to get some of the breathable ones from your optometrist – I wear Acuvue Oasys (which I can’t even spell) and they’re okay but I have dry eyes. I’m sure there are even more comfortable ones out there.

    Your wedding day is about being yourself, but being a stunningly sexy, brilliantly beautiful, fabulously frocked version and that includes glasses or no glasses. I do like the idea of new frames if you decide to go with the glasses…

    Good luck with the decision now that we’ve all thrown in conflicting advice! and Congratulations!!!

  21. Shannon on September 16, 2011

    Here’s my take as a former bride and as a photographer…Be you. You do not need to pigeonhole yourself into an idea of what you think people expect you to do, just because it’s your wedding day. I don’t understand why people grow out their hair just to have an up-do, when all their lives they’ve had shorter hair. Why change yourself for one day when you’re marrying someone who loves every single bit of who you are?

    A recent wedding I shot, the groom wore glasses. He did opt to take them off for a couple (note: not all) of the portraits and some family pictures. They were the glasses he wears every day, and he looked like him. Is it different for guys than girls? Maybe. But if you want, I’m sure you can do this during your portraits.

    If you want some inspiration, a friend of mine from high school recently got married, and she wears glasses every day, and chose to wear them. They just look natural. In all honesty, I didn’t even notice them looking at her pictures, because it was just HER, as I know her. A picture from her wedding is on this website, top row, 3rd picture over (with paper cranes):

    I hope this helps! Congratulations!

  22. Once Upon Your Day -- Julia on September 16, 2011

    I say wear the glasses! Be yourself!

  23. invitation consultants on September 16, 2011

    i was a bespeckled bride too! had glasses since i was four and never went the contact way. hubs had glasses since 14 and is the same.

    we both rocked our glasses for the big W day and nothing about it was nerd chic. BE YOU!

  24. Jay + Jess on September 17, 2011

    Alison – Thanks as always for your kind words and support of our art. We LOVE the resource (and gut-splitting humor) that you provide the modern bride & groom here on your blog! We can’t wait till you unveil the rest of the shoot. :)

    Tina – Hahaha, we laughed out loud at your comment. And we can appreciate your stance. As artists and photographers, we are constantly attempting to approach every project with a fresh, creative vision. That said, we are personal friends of Garrett & Brooke featured in the shoot, and we can tell you confidently that this is actually a PERFECT fit for who they really are. They are goofy, brilliantly nerdy, amazing people. And probably the furthest thing from “hipsters” that you can be! But man, they are the sweetest two kids on the planet.

    So the glasses, candy shop, and goofiness fit them to a T. Hahaha, we can understand how Austin, albeit a super rad town, can begin to rub that way though. :)

    R – We say, without a shadow of a doubt….GO FOR IT with the specs. Take em off. Put em back on. Now you have OPTIONS. :) You’ll look radiant on your wedding day either way.

    Jay + Jess – Session Nine

  25. Alexandra Evjen on September 17, 2011

    Well, hello there! =) Alex here, fashion stylist for this shoot.

    Thank you so much for featuring the shoot!

    R- You know I’m going to say rock the glasses. A great compromise is not wearing them for your ceremony and then throwing them on for the reception.

    Of course, the MOST important part is that you see well on your BIG day. Maybe you could even buy a special pair of glasses and dub them your “wedding glasses”?

    You NEED to feel comfortable the day of. So, do what makes you feel the most confident and comfortable. Obviously, the person you’re marrying things your hot, right? =)

  26. Marissa - After Flats on September 22, 2011

    I think you should be in the “best version” of yourself on your wedding. If glasses are really part of you, then, wear them.

  27. Liz on September 23, 2011

    I just came across this wedding and the bride is rockin’ her glasses…


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