KNOTTY BLOGGISTA WEEK! | Murphy’s Law: Wedding Day Edition. What happens when you get the stomach flu 24 hours before your wedding? A true story by Libby of Follow the Wife

Happy Tuesday to you, lovelies!  Ok, so prepare to be psyched, because we’ve got another fabutastic Bloggista to introduce today, and she’s kicking her Bloggistaship off strong-style with a seriously harrowing tale of one of THE WORST things that can go wrong as your wedding approaches.  Libby’s here to share wedding planning advice and tales from her life as a newlywed, something she does on the regular over on her blog, Follow the Wife, so we’re extremely pumped for her to share some amazing, incredibly helpful and sometimes even death-defying – as you’ll see today - stories here on TKB!  We just know you’re gonna get a kick out of her, and learn some pretty valuable information along the way that’ll help you get through your own experiences as smoothly as possible!

Okey dokey, take it away, Libby!

First off, I have to express my utter gratitude to Alison for giving me the opportunity to talk to you all today. I’ve had “wedding blogger” high on my list of dream careers since I took the SATs so this is a big deal for me. The Knotty Bride has some of the best followers on the web, and I’m not just saying that because I’m one of them. Where else can you find such love for fabulous wedding details and an amazing French Bull Dog? I don’t know. I’m just so excited to get to know everyone!

Ok, Alison invited me here to tell you a story. Let me lay the ground work: You know how a million people tell you that something will go wrong those last few days leading up to your wedding? Well, I believed them, and was thankful for their advice and I even turned it into a little mantra to help me prepare for what might go wrong that last week. I figured the programs would get lost in the mail or my dress would be too tight. All major disasters to an anxious, stressed out bride-to-be 5 days before her wedding. But in retrospect, those are all minor, minor issues compared to what really went wrong. No one prepared me (and my little mantra hardly helped at all) when my husband and I got the world’s most violent stomach flu two days before our wedding!

Ok, so if you thought this story was going to be like Say Yes to the Dress, I’m sorry. It’s going to be more like I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant. Actually, we just met and gross toilet stories are off limits on the first date. I’ll just get right to it: Here’s how my wedding turned into Contagion (starring Matt Damon) just kidding, he wasn’t there, but I thought that’d get some people to keep reading.

It’s Wednesday night and my soon-to-be husband and I just finished stuffing our out of town guest bags. We sat down on the couch with small stomach aches, but we chalked it up to being tired and went to bed. A few hours later I woke up and knew something was not right with my body. I ran to the bathroom, barfed my brains out, alerted my sleeping mate to the issue and then proceeded to pass out in the hallway. I came to a few minutes (or was it seconds?) later wondering WTF was going on. And then another wave of nausea hit me and it all came back. “This is really happening,” was all I could think (or at least the only coherent thought I remembering thinking) as I hung my head over the bowl. I wept, and then I barfed some more. My groom got sick a few hours later and we swapped turns on the toilet so gracefully you would have thought we were in Swan Lake.

This went on till about 8 am, which conveniently, was the exact time my parents and I were planning to drive into New York City to pick up my wedding dress. By that time my Nancy Kerrigan-style wails had subsided and I was able to laugh (a little) at the situation we were in. But that only lasted till I realized I wasn’t going to be able to high five Randy Fenoli as I breezed out of Kleinfeld with my AMAZING new gown. I needed Gatorade and rest, STAT, I was not going anywhere.

Our next task was finding out what the F got us so darn sick. A phone call to the MOG quickly set things straight: Our precious, cherubic, identical twin, two-year-old flower girls had brought a double dose of something wicked and had passed it on to half the wedding party. Kids these days!

And with that, we were both quarantined to the couch, no visitors in or out. Thank god my mom is the best MOB ever and my dad is the man, because they took over all the wedding related errands I had planned that day. (A final run through at our venue, proper fluffing of the gown and delivery of the gift bags.) And we began the healing process with a hot bowl of chicken broth and Minority Report on TBS.

What’s the moral of this story? Well, there are several, and I’m going to list them for you here:

  1. Avoid anyone who’s been sick in the last two weeks. Even if their feeling better, bad germ are lurkers. You should also exercise caution around young children during the days leading up to your wedding because they carry more germs than their adult counterparts. If you know those little pudding pops were sick you may want to avoid kissing them. Don’t let their cute little pouty lips fool you, because they totally got me! If you’ve got an army of flower girls à la Kate Middleton, pack some anti-bac for the rehearsal dinner, apply it liberally and repeat.
  2. Don’t leave too many tasks till the last minute. Wednesday night I was Miss. Cocky-Pants Bride, bragging to anyone who’d listen how well organized I was and how much I had done in advance to avoid being a complete stress-mess the next day. I only had a few things left…Hold on someone’s knocking on the door. Bad Karma, is that you? Come on in, why don’t ya. Needless to say, I missed out on the last few fun wedding planning moments and I was bummed about that.
  3. If you feel tired or rundown before your wedding, morph yourself into a super patient on the double. You know how your body feels when you get a cold or the flu. Well, take that and times it by 500 because that’s what your body feels like when you’re a bride-to-be with a cold or the flu. If you start to feel the sniffles call in sick, staple your butt to the couch and start popping some vitamin C. Remember those girlfriends walking down the aisle right before you? They are here-by mandated to take over any unfinished DIY projects. Tell them I said so.
  4. And one more for good luck: Anything nature can’t clear up, adrenaline will. (Besides maybe pimples, I’m not sure adrenaline works on breakouts.) I was not feeling like the best version of myself when I woke up on my wedding day. I didn’t sleep much and my stomach was still weak. I panicked, but by time hair and makeup started I forgot all about it and just enjoyed myself. Sure, I was B-E-A-T at the end of the day. But I challenge you to find me one bride who wasn’t.

Have you ever worried about suddenly being out for the count right before your wedding day?  And for the married couples out there, did anything go terribly, terribly wrong for you on or around the day of your wedding?  Can’t wait to hear everybody’s thoughts/stories!

xoxo!  - Libby, Follow the Wife

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  1. Jen @ Blush on September 20, 2011

    Oh man, I can so relate to this brides story!!

    I came down with a sinus infection about a week before our wedding. I got antibiotics from my doctor, and went about my business. I don’t know if this was a killer strand of sinus infection or what, but I got *worse* instead of better. My sniffles turned into breathing problems, and my prescribed inhaler wasn’t doing the trick for me.

    I went back to the doctors and was prescribed a double dose of something that was supposed to “knock this right out of me!” but again.. I got WORSE.

    I was getting married in two days, and F-R-E-A-K-I-N-G out. I could hardly breathe, couldn’t get out of bed, and missed an entire week of work. Another trip to the doctor confirmed that my so-called sinus infection had turned into full blown bronchitis.

    Finally, the morning of our Rehearsal Dinner, I went BACK to my doctor. I was this-close to calling off our wedding (I was SO SICK, people!!), and in a desperate attempt to feel better, I asked my doctor to give me something that’ll make me better ASAP.

    So I got a steroid shot. In my butt. and it hurt.

    I was also finally sent for chest x-rays, and found out that I had bronchitis with a “touch of pneumonia” [whatever that means].

    But let me tell you: That steroid shot made me feel like a million dollars. I was given a prescription of oral steroids, too.

    I was feeling 200% better by the time our rehearsal at the Church rolled around, and was all smiles the next morning at our wedding.

    But for real, it was the most stressful week in the world. Who gets pneumonia the week of her wedding IN AUGUST?

  2. Kristine {in love, engaged} on September 20, 2011

    Libby! The stomach flu?! Two days before your wedding?! Wow. Wow, wow, wow. Well, kudos to you for rebounding like a champ and for allowing all those helpful hands around you to take over in your time of need. {I’m such a control freak–that would have had me in shambles!}

    The worst that happened to me was the fire alarm going off in the hotel at 2:00am–beauty sleep INTERRUPTED–but at least it makes for a good story, eh? Anyway, it’s the stories that matter in the end, I suppose. And the way we tell them. Your positive, fun, laugh-it-off attitude is exemplary. Thanks for sharing! And welcome!

  3. Elizabeth on September 20, 2011

    Working with Libby throughout her wedding planning, I know how much thought, effort and attention she put into every detail. It was her fairy tale. And despite how ill she was in the days leading up to her wedding, she looked like 10-million dollars on the day, and so did her groom! You’d never know she was sick — except maybe for the glass of water she was carrying during the cocktail hour. The Libby I know wouldn’t trade champagne unless it was for a good reason!

  4. Courtney on September 20, 2011

    Oh my gosh. I hadn’t even considered the thought I could get sick! These are great tips though! Thanks for sharing.

  5. Annamarie M on September 20, 2011

    This totally happened to my cousin last year three days before her wedding!! I felt so bad for her! Needless to say, I didn’t hug her on her wedding day because I certainly did not want that bug either! Luckily her husband to be didn’t get it and come to find out she got it from her mom!!! Yikes!

  6. Jess on September 20, 2011

    I just got engaged and I’m already freaking out about this. I get sick ALL the time. I’m a regular bubble girl! Steroid shots are a great tip. That mixed with adrenaline would fix anything right? I guess I have a back up plan! Thanks for this awesome post!

  7. Tamara on September 20, 2011

    I loved this post. Great advice and I am glad Libby could turn an otherwise disastrous thing into a humorous story!

  8. Claire Martine on September 20, 2011

    Now, I’m nervous. 11 Days left.

  9. Lena on September 20, 2011

    Oh my holy crazy day before, what a story! And did everyone else make it out alive?

    I’ll have to remember to lick everything up until 2 weeks before the big day, then lick nothing.

  10. Karen on September 20, 2011

    I can so relate to this! My poor brother ended up having his appendix taken out 5 days before his wedding!! Needless to say, he didn’t dance a whole lot at the wedding but he says he still had fun. Luckily they had purchased trip insurance for their honeymoon which had to be rescheduled. And luckily for me, I had my appendix out years ago so I can safely cross this off of my list of things that WON’T happen the week before my wedding. Hopefully both my groom to be and I will stay healthy leading up to the wedding!

  11. Koru Kate on September 20, 2011

    Oh, wow. I’m so sorry this happened to you!! From your blog with your stories & photos, I know you handled this situation with grace & everything turned out beautifully. Such great advice for Brides-to-be!

  12. libby on September 20, 2011

    Oh my gosh, thank you for you kind words! I love you guys. You’re all proof that anything can happen pre-wedding. But the show must go on! Right!
    Jen- My hat goes off to you. I would not be able to get through that as graceful. That is the most insane story I’ve heard. It’s nuts how defenseless our bodies get when we’re stressed.
    Courtney, Jess and Claire- Don’t freak. Just starting hitting the vitamin C. Seriously. Maybe invest in a fashionable face mask, too… (And Congrats on your upcoming weddings!)
    Annamarie- You also make a strong case for the guests’ health! Thank you.
    Lena-You crack me up.

    Thanks again for reading and commenting. You all made my day.

  13. Alyson on September 21, 2011

    I must agree with Elizabeth – Libby was a stunning bride, and no one even knew that she was sick (except for her bridesmaids that were making sure she was eating and always had a glass of water by her side). She was like a pro that day, and didn’t let anything bother her! It was HER day, and she wasn’t going to let a little stomach bug (ok, maybe it was a big one, but still) ruin her AMAZING day!!

    For those of you that are control freaks (um, most brides are, right?), it’s hard to let go of the two things you just can’t control… the weather (which I can relate to right now… getting married on Saturday) and sickness. Sometimes you just gotta roll with the punches, and it’s pretty clear that Libby did that no problem!!!

  14. Lindsay on September 21, 2011

    Oh my! So unfortunate, glad you champed it out! Unfortunately, most brides forget that there is even a possibility that they might get sick until, wait a minute, is that a tingle in my throat I feel coming on?

    Not only does going heavy on the vit. C work, try overdosing on oil of oregano. It’s got the most horrifying taste (yes, worse than Buckleys) but it really does work.

    Take 3 drops in a mouthful of water 3 times a day – that with a combination of Bija cold stop herbal tea, should kick anything you’ve got right out of ya!

    Hope that helps :)

  15. AmyQ on September 21, 2011

    Almost a play by play of my wedding day- except ours included Phenegren- suppositories!!! Oh my god. If my hubby and I had any reservations or uncomfortable situations we were anticipating as a married couple, they flew right out the window. great story and your writing was spot on! Very entertaining:). Xooo

  16. Sarah on September 21, 2011

    L-O-V-E this blog post, and your writing style. Bride-to-be here myself and I am petrified that something God awful will go wrong on my big day. Thanks for the pep talk, you rock!

    -Sarah Torrens

  17. Robin McQuay Anderson on September 24, 2011

    I can’t even imagine! This could be one of the most dreaded illnesses to have before your wedding!


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