Happiest of evenings, pretty faces. It’s a little after 9pm in the evening here in NYC, and I’ve got some heavy stuff to share that isn’t at all what I ever wanted to share today.
First, let me say that I hope your day has gone well, complete with a delicious lunch, lots of emails answered and little to no drama/back-stabbing going on within the common areas or washrooms of your respective offices. Yes? I do hope so. Because nobody likes office drama. Totally messes with efficiency. Anyway this post is kinda heavy on the personal, emotional side. And quite low on the helpful-use-of-transitional-phrases side, as you just experienced when I jumped from workplace efficiency to Alison’s EMOTIONS. So, just a warning, if this kind of thing isn’t for you today. I’m pretty sure you guys won’t mind, but heck, you never know.
Ok so. Sometimes in life, you go through experiences that sort of, how do I say this – that sort of change your view of the world and what’s important and stuff like that. Not that you don’t already have the knowledge of what’s important in life, but it’s just not as much in the forefront of your mind as it is when you have these little (or big) experiences that bring you to your knees a bit.
We visited Honey’s grandmother today. Her name is Henny (short for Henrietta) by the way. We spent a lot of time with her this morning. It was really, really emotional, very sad, very overwhelming, but also good. You know, in that important way that things are good, even when they aren’t actually good. Anyway the important thing is we spent some more time with her.
Most likely for the last time, though.
Because Honey’s grandma is dying. And while it’s just the circle of life and hakuna matata(sp?) and all that, it just totally sucks. She’s a beautiful, kind, strong, generous, smart and caring woman, and she won’t be here with us beyond the next few days. I’m just trying to feel lucky I even got the opportunity to get to know her as much as I could, and just be in her loving presence at all.
Seeing Henny on what was likely this final occasion is, at the very least, a reminder to me of what’s most important in life. You guys already know things like this OBVS., because you guys seem to be the coolest and smartest freaking readers one could ever hope for as a blogger (thanks for being cool people, by the way)… but it feels appropriate right now to put it out there, that weddings and marriage are really mostly about two main things:
Sharing and receiving unconditional love, and having the people in your family who love you and matter to you, around you, on your wedding day, and throughout your marriage.
At least, those are the two things I personally think weddings and marriage should be about.
A few lovely visual reminders of the importance of cherishing the time you have with the people who love you.
Here’s where I work really hard at turning this super personal post around into something relevant to your lives. Because I know I’m not the only person out there who’s dealt with this and the emotions attached, and I’m wondering how such happenings in life might be affecting other people…
So, my question:
When you envision your wedding, do you see the presence of your elders/older members of your family as a very critical piece of your wedding puzzle? Are you dealing with any family problems or difficult situations that are affecting your experience planning your wedding?
I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts/experiences. One thing I love about blogging here with you guys is how none of us assume that life’s all sunshine and roses 100% of the time. Family issues are always going to make their way into our lives, in big ways and in small.
So uhhhh, I love you guys. Sorry, I think I’m understandably a bit sappy and emo today. You were warned.
xoxo - Alison
Note: the three images I included in this post are from upcoming features. I felt they best spoke the message of today’s post. I really treasure those beautiful moments. Top to bottom: Canary Grey Photography, M David Media, Jodi Miller Photography, Lauren Rae Photography