PARISIAN BOO!-DOIR + PERSONAL POST | An edgy, vintage, magical shoot that’s positively to DIE for. … Also, my thoughts on that Kardashian wedding vs. gay marriage.

Happy Halloween afternoon my little ghouls and goblins and sexified versions of normally very nonsexual, highly respected occupations on this, the only day of the year that encourages slutting it up a little and knocking on strangers doors at night asking for treats and tricks!  So safe.  It’s so safe!

So!  We have a killer (hehe) boudoir shoot submitted by the fabulous Nico Cervantes of NLC Productions to share with your eyes today, but first, I wanna know costumes.  Who’s my sexy crossing guard today?  Any sexy Target pharmacists out there?  Do I have any sexy occupational therapists in my midst?  Whatever you’re dressing up as tonight – if you’re even dressing up at all – it’s really a delight to see you guys again after such an *interesting* weekend!  What do I mean by interesting?  I mean we dressed up early for Halloween this weekend!  Seriously, the whole weekend we were dressed up as sexy bums from Antarctica!  Because we didn’t get the heat turned on until this afternoon.  I swear, I was *this close* to… being forced to wait longer and probably not really do anything drastic since I don’t like to get in people’s faces too much.  I only called the building owner 1000 times consecutively.  Nonstop.  :)

Ok stop, stop.  WAIT.  Hold up.  Listen, I didn’t wanna touch on this today.  But I’m gonna do it.  I’m gonna touch on this today.  I feel compelled.  And by *this* I mean the events of late involving one Kimmy Kardashian.  Because it pisses me off in a way that few things are capable of pissing me off.  And it has a lot to do with what government/society deems acceptable, with regard to marriage.  Kindly indulge me for a minute, before I share this amazing shoot which you’re going to LOVE…..

For some reason, society/gov’t deems appropriate a highly produced Hollywood wedding between two people who just met and hardly know one another.

Is she a woman?”  Yes.  ”Ok, is he a man?”  Yes.  ”OK, YOU’RE GOOD!

Now, one thing about me is that I really don’t like to be a Debbie Downer and expect the worst of things.  It’s not my style.   What I DO like to do, however, is passive-aggressively discuss these things, if they turn out the way most of us were expecting them to turn out.  And that E! marriage to which this blog rant is directed?  Well it ended in approximately 72 days.  That’s right, they’re reporting that Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries are no longer together.  Now, let’s rewind a little bit…

This marriage was highly celebrated while it was being planned, and brought in record-breaking numbers of viewers, including myself.  … Not that I’m proud of it or anything.  Just being straight with you.  I watched it.  How could I not?  It’s hard to turn to ESPN when you’re a wedding blogger and some girl who sucks ketchup off her thumbs and speaks exclusively in her bedroom voice for a paycheck was throwing the biggest wedding extravaganza we’ve seen in years.  This was my required reading.  It was on the Summer booklist.

And guess what?  I teared up during the walk down the aisle.  See, even hollowed out celebrities elicit from me a loving excitement and happiness on their behalf.  I was truly happy for Kim.  Seriously.  And, while I think a lot of us were suspicious of the union, I also think a lot of us were happy for her.  It’s natural to be suspicious, and hey, maybe this was the real thing, and they were happy together!  Maybe, right?  She’s been wanting this her whole life.  And according to her, she was dying, at the age of 30.  Gotta get that show on the road, right?  Gotta get those pictures taken, right?

Wrong.  From my perspective, this is a story of a young woman named Kim who (in large part due to her chosen career of presenting the “goods” in exchange for the “cash”) felt she was getting old, who found a young man who really seemed to love her, was definitely very turned on by her, was very excited to be with her, possibly did/does love her, but also was very young and allowed a massive business empire machine to thrust him into the next and quite possibly most important decision/stage of his life… and marry Kim super quick.   Because that’s what happens when you mix business opportunities with deep-seated insecurity issues.

Here’s what I believe was the catalyst for their fast-track-wedding: it was the result of a young woman of 30 years wanting good pictures of her young self, before it was too late.  Sounds like conjecture, but because I watched the season, I know it’s the truth.  Kris Humphries outed her about it to her own mother.  The rush was all in an effort to get pretty photos of her wedding day, while she still felt pretty enough for photos.  Because it’s the prettiest girls in the world, who worry the most about losing it all.**

**That, is another blog post in and of itself.  Because I’m not going to sit here and say that’s an unnatural feeling for young women to feel.  I’d be lying.  But I’ll leave that rant for another day.

But now, gay marriage?  How do the vast majority of society and gov’t feel about gay marriage?  Apparently, THAT ONE’S the travesty.  Not quickie Hollywood ones.  Apparently, GAY PEOPLE COMMITTING TO ONE ANOTHER is what’s considered insulting to the beauty and sanctity of marriage.  If you’re gay, and you want to get married, apparently you’re effectively making a mockery of one of society’s purest institutions.  By being gay.  Not by pulling a Kardashian.

Sigh.  I hope that someday really soon, I’ll have to eat my words.  I dream of that day.  No seriously, I’ll print out this page and eat it in front of you.  I’ll make a vlog about it.  My very first.  And I’ll invite all of you over to celebrate with me afterwards.  Because on that day I’ll really have something to celebrate.  I’ll finally be able to celebrate the impending marriages of all of the wonderful, kind, beautiful, loving people I know in my life and career… who want to get married, but don’t have the right.

Ok, rant over.  I’m sorry to have gotten so heavy today.  Hope it wasn’t too *ranty* or pedantic.  It just really gets to me that there are some people who think it’s ok to make marriage a televised spectacle of sorts, when there are countless others who want nothing more than to be married and to take it seriously, but are being denied the right.

MOVING RIGHT ALONG… oh, and speaking of Kim Kardashian, we have a boudoir shoot to mosey on over to!  And it’s TO DIE FOR.

I love the way Nico describes the inspiration and intent for the shoot.  Here, listen:

Our hauntingly beautiful Parisian boudoir shoot was shot on a spooky abandoned horse trail in Santa Barbara, CA.  We wanted to explore the edgy side of outdoor photography to play on the typically serene settings we see so often; trying to create a scene that was both magical and spellbinding without venturing too far into the creepy and crawly…  The scene was set with vintage furniture, glass cloche domes, and other items collected from around the shop.  Our potions and brews displayed on the vintage furniture were labeled with cryptic messages, utilizing coffee-dyed and burned paper.   

Jessica Foster from Jessica Foster Confections provided spooky treats including chocolate truffles, jack-o-lantern and skull shaped chocolate bites, and caramel candied apples.  Invitations mocked a funeral announcement and came in a hollowed out book with moss and a miniature skeleton embellishment.

Now, check it out!  It’s totally different from anything we’ve ever published.  And that’s why it’s so dang perfect for today. :)

So, my pretties…

Any thoughts?  Really, on anything.  I talked about a lot today, I know.  You can just share your Halloween costume.  But whatever you’ve got to say, no matter what it is… I’m dying to hear it.

xoxo!  - Alison

Design & Styling: Nico Cervantes, NLC Productions / Designer Asst: Kayla Cherland, NLC Productions / Photography: Danielle, Skyeblu Photography / Hair and Makeup Artists: Christin & Ashley Luna Bella Makeup Art / Stationer: Tracy Chegwin,  Lazaro Press / Confectioner: Jessica Foster, Jessica Foster Confections / Lingerie: Miss Kitty, Purrmission Lingerie / Model: Nina Lafuente

Label(s): {Holiday}, {Real Boudoir}

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36 comments

  1. Shulie [RobbinsBrothers] on October 31, 2011

    Just wanted to share this quote w/ you, Alison:

    “The dead horse that is the sanctity of marriage just got up and reached for a bat to beat itself some more while mouthing the word “sorry” to the gays.’

    Michael K of DListed.com
    http://www.dlisted.com/2011/10/31/hahahahahahahaha

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  2. Nico Cervantes on October 31, 2011

    Thank you Alison!! We love you and are sooooo thrilled to be featured on your blog!!!!

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  3. Mindy on October 31, 2011

    I agree with you regarding the ridiculousness that is the Kardash sham marriage. Aside from the gay marriage aspect (which I totally agree with you), think of how many poor families in Los Angeles that $18 million could have fed/clothed? I used to be a casual viewer of the many Kardash spin-offs but not anymore. They have moved beyond amusing dimwits to just plain pathetic in my eyes.

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  4. Claire Martine on October 31, 2011

    I’m going to play devil’s advocate on this one. I know that everyone “predicted” this would happen. Mind you, know one knew it would end in divorce because love is love and there’s no telling how things will end up. Just because she’s rich and famous doesn’t really mean she was doomed. But none the less, I think it is important to remember that Kris was in this too. As someone who knows the family and knows that, while he could have thought longer about it, his family is religious and he does being in the sanctity of marriage. Everyone is laughing and making their ridiculous comments but it was Kim who filed for divorce and made millions. There’s no proof that Kris was in on the cash cow.

    If it were the other way around would we be feeling bad for the girl because the husband already dumped her? I’m neutral on this because love can be a tricky thing and hey, I’m not out any money on the wedding so I have no personal anger or irritation. Haha. If I had forked over 7k for an ashtray I might feel differently.

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  5. Jackie P on October 31, 2011

    my friend, i am sooo happy you wrote this, because yeah – that kardashian chick is totally out of control. and the worst possible example to set for, oh, i dunno, anyone! and thank you for pointing out our national flaw in relationship to views on marriage. how barbaric are we?

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  6. Casey on October 31, 2011

    Yes yes yes. I’m with you – rant on. Also – those rose petals on a naked bod? HOT.

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  7. Lena on October 31, 2011

    I am all kinds of in love with this shoot-it’s the perfect thing to balance out how I feel about Kim K and the ridiculousness of planning a wedding to someone you meet 4 weeks ago after an intro from your PR person/agent. At least in Hollywood’s Golden Years, you had to give the arranged marriage a few years to work its self out. I guess length of marriage wasn’t part of the prenup, or what would happen to that $2 million engagement ring. Clearly I’m a bit worked up about all this as well, because really, these two people were not taking this wedding particularly seriously. To call off a marriage in 72 days might as well be 72 hours.

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  8. Josie on October 31, 2011

    So glad someone said it! if I rolled my eyes any further into the back of my head, I’m sure they’d get stuck that way. That whole marriage is an embarrassment. On a lighter yet darker halloween note, the boudoir shoot is beautiful! :)

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  9. Tom on October 31, 2011

    Love the blog and love the shoot. Sad really about Kim. Even if she is completely fake and shallow I still hate to see someone meltdown so publicly.

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  10. Janna on October 31, 2011

    I’m totally with you! I loathe people making a mockery of marriage by saying the gay community would ruin it when the straights appear to be the ones ruining it by not taking the commitment part seriously. I have 3 gay male couples in my life and I would love to see them get married to their partners of multiple years! One can dream. Also I love this photo shoot. very sexy gothic! so not me but I loved the details :-)

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  11. Koru Kate {Koru Wedding} on October 31, 2011

    I agree that this Kim mess is a slap in the face to those who aren’t allowed to marry & those who can’t afford even simple celebrations. Sad. But my Halloween-loving self loves the out-of-this-world boudoir shoot! I need some chocolate skulls.

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  12. Alicia @CharityWedding on October 31, 2011

    Um a spooky boudoir sesh?! Amazing. SO much love here. Clearly more love here than in the Kardashian house. And my friend, you nailed it. This kind of trash wedding makes a mockery of people who truly want to be together and can’t be due to some societal standards. I am confident that Kim K has plenty of photos of herself looking gorgeous. And her as a bride, with the weird hair, not even my favorite images of her. I hope they are embarrassed, I really do. And then that they fork over a big check to charity to cancel this mess out.

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  13. Kate/MagnoliaRouge on October 31, 2011

    Wow that shoot is so clever and creative!!! As for KK, I’m not sure I can even put into words how I feel about the situation without sounding incredibly scathing and angry!! Ridiculous is putting it mildly. So many people who would love to commit to another and simply can’t do so. Perhaps anyone in Hollywood getting married needs to undertake a marriage guidance course for a good year before they say their vows!! (not sure it would help, but might make them think about it more seriously!)

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  14. Denise on October 31, 2011

    Love your stuff Alison. But gay marriage isn’t cool. it’s confusion. life is confusing enough. why can’t we just call them unions, legal unions. like a corporation or something. not a hater, just tired of people forcing their opinions when it is only affecting 1% of our pop. Legal union, not marriage is an option.

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  15. Catherine on October 31, 2011

    Wow! What an amazing shoot, love it. Weirdly, I think I like the cake best. And the ‘rant’? Right there with you.

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  16. Sara on October 31, 2011

    Oh darling I couldn’t agree more. As a wedding planner myself I totally feel that Kim’s wedding was such a slap in the face for weddings and proves that it was purely for PR and money. So sad. On the other hand, so sad that people who love each other can’t get married. Injustice! I wonder when people will get over themselves and realise that love is love and the most powerful thing in the world. Love will overcome hate! Thank you for writing such an open and honest post :)
    PS. Love the Halloween shoot- very chic :) xxx

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  17. Kimber on October 31, 2011

    Two things:
    1. LOVE your “rant”!
    2. That halloween subtle on the spooky, heavy on the Sexy has rocked my world!

    A top hat and rose petals?! Shut it down. right now.

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  18. Chantal on October 31, 2011

    I really like this photoshoot, especially around Halloween. I think it is sad that Kim and Kris couldn’t work it out…it doesn’t make sense to me that you can be so madly in love with someone to marry them and 2 months later file for divorce. Where is the commitment to each other and where is the “fight” to work through challenging times. It sends a horrible message to our youth that, if you don’t like your spouse anymore, you can just leave. MArriage takes constant effort every day and that’s what makes is so special and worth fighting for and getting though those difficult times makes the marriage stronger. I wish people would stop running away from problems but face them and deal with it and work through it which is what commitment is all about.

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  19. Rhiannon Nicole {Hey Gorg} on October 31, 2011

    This shoot is absolutely divine. Everything is so unique and catchy and stylish. Well done to everyone involved; I am blown away! And regarding the Kim Kardashian divorce. You know, I have a really strong dislike for Kim because I am not even really sure what she does and she just has this entitlement thing about her that sort of rubs me the wrong way. But like you, I too felt a genuine happiness for her as she walked down the aisle. And I too, thought maybe this was the real deal for her. But nope, instead it feels like it was a giant scandal to make money and like you said again, to look good in photos. It’s such a shame. Imagine all the people that could be fed, clothes, vaccinated, saved; whatever, with all that money? 72 days? So sad.

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  20. libby on October 31, 2011

    Wow to that shoot. I love the rose petals and more black veil love. And as for Kim, I’m really trying to put myself in her shoes. But I’m too poor to afford them. I’m mad that she rushed into marriage, and I’m mad that she rushed into a divorce. There’s a difference between a marriage and a wedding, and Kim just wanted a wedding.

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  21. Tara Visconti on November 1, 2011

    Love the shoot! Put together so perfectly. You know you love something when you look at it over and over.
    As for Kim…. I feel like it’s soooo boring. It is not the first fake “we need some attention” wedding and unfortunately it will not be the last. I try not to pay attention to nonsense weddings like that. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good celebrity wedding like Kaitlin Olson and Rob McElhenney’s. I am a big Sunny fan. And they seem truly in love.
    Anyway, thanks for always speaking you mind.

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  22. Adventures in Dressmaking on November 1, 2011

    Very well said. I was happy for Kim, too, even though she’s probably not a super good person or necessarily getting married for the right reasons, but I thought it would work! What a sad story and waste of enough money to feed Cambodia for a year and a half. =( Sad face.

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  23. Juicy Meester on November 1, 2011

    I love your photos about Halloween wedding( if I didn’t mess the meaning…) This morning I heard Kim’s broke up after her 72 day marriage. What should I say? How could be this? Why lovers so easily to divorce? Just because they are celebrity? What a pity for their $17.9 million wedding!

    PS: yesterday is Halloween!Happy Halloween!
    By Juicy
    1/11/2011

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  24. Kristine {In Love, Engaged} on November 1, 2011

    Hahaha, Libby almost had me spewing coffee at my computer screen. “I’m trying to put myself in her shoes but… I can’t afford them.” Nice.

    I had to comment on this post because, well, I just had to. After I heard the “news” {let’s be honest, this isn’t really NEWS}, I knew you would come through and address it. Even before this “wedding” took place, I got sick to my stomach thinking about the Kardashian clan. People shouldn’t be famous for acting dumb on tv or making sex videos or dressing scandalously. People should be famous for doing good, for helping the world, and for having a true, outstanding talent.

    And THEN. THEN she goes and makes a mockery out of marriage?! Nuh uh, girl. Those are VOWS. They’ve been passed down generation after generation, they bond people not just legally but also spiritually, and they are SACRED. They are not meant to gain you additional popularity, earn you millions of dollars, or provide you an opportunity for more pictures of yourself. It’s sickening, really. And everyone involved should be ashamed.

    And, I’m sorry, vows are sacred no matter WHO is saying them as long as the people who recite them are serious, in love, and committed to fulfilling them. THAT should be the standard for marriage.

    OK, rant done. Oh, wait. Are those pictures up there? Omg, those are HOT. I gotta go take another look…

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  25. Ilana on November 1, 2011

    Well said, Libby. There is a HUGE difference between a wedding and a marriage, and our society is can’t get enough of scandals and inappropriate spending (see politics?). We need a big fat dose of honesty, integrity, and self control. Marriage is not about spending money on a wedding, and these short-lived wedding-aftermath disasters (because that was *NOT* a marriage) are an insulting, slap-in-the-face mockery of any true commitment between two people in love. I’m pretty sure some of these celebrities need “NC-17″ plastered across their forehead because no child should be exposed to some of the values the entertainment industry totes as acceptable. Take a look, honestly, at the meaning of the core values of our society – respectfulness, honesty, integrity, love, hope – and the media makes a mockery by shoving deceit, greed, lust, and gluttony in our faces as though those are things to aspire to. Such a travesty. Now I’m pissed. BUT, I did love the rant, and it makes me feel good to get all uppity about something!

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  26. Nicole on November 1, 2011

    i love that you called it the boo-duoir, haha it’s spooky and sexy all at the same time!
    and also i had a bird mask like that on ein this shoot and i cut off the long beak, painted it, glued lots of feathers on it and made it into a parrot :)

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  27. Jenna Lee on November 1, 2011

    I think that there is a simple solution to this whole celeb micro-marriage thing, stop paying attention to these people!! Don’t watch Keeping Up With the blah, blah. Don’t buy their products. Don’t pay their salaries from your pocket! I have never watched her show or endorsed her lifestyle in the slightest and I am proud of that. Her career started with a SEX TAPE!! Make the choice to turn away from the things that make you feel so infuriated and use that energy to fight for gay marriage. From now on, any time you see her image, think about what you can do to make equal marriage rights a reality and support positive role models. That is how we change the future so that this doesn’t have to happen anymore. (Hi Claire Martine!)

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  28. Claire Martine on November 1, 2011

    I agree completely! I think we spend so much time complaining about celebrities when we could really make a dent in the marriage issue. I was simply really liking to point that Kris Humphries was not a celebrity and I think part of his ridiculous naive yet sweet ignorance really wanted his marriage to work regardless of Kim K.

    But really, first and foremost can we drop the “Gay” from gay marriage? If you’re on Pinterest i KNOW you’ve seen the lovely graphic about gay marriage: “The issue of gay marriage. Or as I like to call it: MARRIAGE. You know, because I had lunch this afternoon, not gay lunch. I parked my car, I didn’t gay park it. ” -Liz Feldman.

    That might make a dent in the process. It’s called marriage and it’s a sanctity that any two individuals should be welcome to join in if they so please. We don’t govern our country by the bible so we shouldn’t govern our people by it either.

    (Jenna, can I get a Ch-allah?)

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  29. Fani on November 2, 2011

    So I just got the chance to comment right now… sigh rant = my thoughts exactly! I wish other people and not just government could see it this way too. It hurts my soul to know that this is ACCEPTED and the way “G-D wants it to be,” but that when a gay couple truly loves each other and wants to wed, they can’t. =(

    Halloween spooky boudoir = amaze balls. About to share the link. =D

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  30. Nora Rose on November 3, 2011

    Hah to the commenter who posted that it’s not marriage for gays. Legal unions don’t have all the same rights in every state. I think “sanctity” is just a word for exclusion! Legalize gay! <3

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  31. LunaBella Make-up Art on November 4, 2011

    We’re so thrilled to have worked on this Parisian-BOOdoir shoot. It was so much fun! Thank you Nico for including us on this project and thank you Alison for featuring our work! Xoxo -Christin & Ashley, LunaBella

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  32. Nina on November 4, 2011

    While my union to my girl isn’t going to be a gay marriage partially because I don’t identify as homosexual, I do find it infuriating that somehow it is a mockery towards the sanctity of marriage (as a former-Lutheran-no-more-professing-any-religion this is ridiculous to me as marriage is not a holy sacrament in many protestant churches and a legal matter, not a religious one) I suppose you could take it as sacred in a different way, which I get, marriage is totally sacred to me in a non-religious way.
    Yet I am denied the right to marry. We’ve been together for seven years and somehow our union would ridicule marriage more than that of Kim K, or Britney S, Anna-Nicole S or any other random married-divorced for money/attention celebrity.

    RANT OVER. Those are very lovely boo-doir shots right there, have to love the atmosphere.

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  33. carla on December 10, 2011

    Okay so..Minus the wearing the lingerie, this is my ideal wedding setup! I am going to have a Halloween wedding on next halloween, and I couldn’t have dreamed of better decor, invitations, and setting!
    And I’d wear that lingerie after the wedding on my honeymoon.
    I want it !!!

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  34. New York City Headshots on January 11, 2012

    I love the props, the location, the cake, the desserts, the skeleton and the atmosphere but I don’t think I would like the idea of wearing a lingerie in the wedding. It is not for me but I love how it turns out to be an art and not a porn image.

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  35. SocialBuzz on February 19, 2012

    Nico Cervantes is amazing! I just found him on Twitter too @nico_cervantes

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  36. Louise on September 9, 2012

    A great looking photo shoot. Not my personal taste, but still very effective.

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