just to be clear ↑ these are the saved memories, thanks to the incredibly kind and talented Diana Rush. The photographer who committed the wedding fail in today’s story? Will not be named. Homey don’t play like that. (I’m homey, if you were unsure.)
Happiest of afternoons to you, my darlings. How’s your day going? How’s your face? How’s your complexion – is it to your standards, or is Shark Week unleasing its nastiness on your pores? I certainly hope not, that s*** is insufferable. It’s enough to get me to choose the date for my wedding based entirely upon my menstrual cycle. And maybe on the availability of my immediate and extended family. But menstruation is going to trump second cousin availability, for sure.
But I digress.
Here, get a cup of tea, grab your Snuggie or whatever accoutrements to which you’re accustomed when spending some free time with me on this blog, sit down on a comfortable chair (or if you’re at the office, a ‘chair’ since only the fancy higherups get the fancy ergonomic ones which is so unfair) and have a listen. Because things just took a turn into Seriousville. You see, sometimes… something terrible happens on your wedding day. But guess what? There’s something you can do to make the memories 1000% better than they had to turn out. And I feel slightly uncomfortable talking about this, because it talks about the unfortunate negative side of how things can go, but that just pretty much means I HAVE to blog it now, right? What the hell am I doing blogging if I’m not telling you things can go wrong. So here we go. Well, naturally, we begin with me being a ridiculous. THEN, the story.
When I sit down to blog I like a thick, aggressive mix of puppy poopsies and truck exhaust in my midst. It’s the only way I’ll do it. You can understand why I live in NYC, then, I’m sure. Something about that concoction gets the juices flowing. Probably mostly cancerous juices but ‘the juices,’ nonetheless. And you know it’s the right potency when you have trouble seeing and struggle to craft meaningful prose. But here’s the thing… these specific types of fumes make for some of my best, most worthwhile reads. By best and worthwhile I of course mean hardest fought, least legible and most insufferable to mold into anything trying to work its way into a cohesive arrangement of ideas and sentences on my blog. This is upsetting to me because I’m trying really hard to word this post properly, as it addresses a very serious issue that happens probably a lot more than one might suspect, but all I can smell is puppy farts as I type – bad ones, the really bad kind that make you ask yourself, “is it ok that I’m inhaling this? Is this going to negatively impact my health, like down the road?” – and they’re making me loopy and the opposite of discerning and seriousfaced. Come on Alison, put on your seriousfacicle! Seriousface is going to require gasmaskedface or immediate-handling-of-puppy-butt-proximity. I really love having Bam close to me but alas all my gasmasks are in storage so I’m going to have to move this buttblaster.
Ok. Now. You guys know how I feel about the First Look on your wedding day, right? If not, you can brush up on it by clicking here, or you can just let me tell you right here right now – I’m am FOR the first look. For so many reasons, all of which I identify in that post.
HOWEVERISTAN. Just because I’m for it, doesn’t mean you have to be. This is what we in the business call human rights. You get to choose if you wanna see one another before your ceremony, or if you wanna wait for the walk down the aisle. Totes your call. It’s a beautiful thing, choice. Isn’t it?
Unfortunately, before Megan and Adam met Diana, of Diana Rush Photography, they faced a situation involving a different photographer, and it wudn’t pretty. Here, is their disturbing (and then all of sudden uplifting THANK GOODNESS) story, as told by Diana herself:
I originally met Megan at a wedding where I was the photographer & she was doing the bride’s make-up… I ended up hiring her myself later to do my hair & make-up for my brother’s wedding. While she did my hair & make up she began to share with me about her own wedding experience & how her photographer had ruined her wedding day. As a photographer, this is something that you never want to hear, but it was also a good dose of reality about how (as a wedding photographer) you can really set the mood for the day. Megan had shared that the week before her wedding, the photographer had contacted her & started pushing the First Look, because she didn’t think the lighting would be good enough after the wedding. Megan & Adam are both very traditional and wanted to wait till the ceremony to see each other, because of this, they ended up getting into an argument with the photographer who told them that their photos wouldn’t turn out good because they had chosen to not do a first look. As a result, when the wedding day arrived, the tension between the photographer & Megan was pretty high… as any bride knows, you spend your entire day with your photographer, so being stuck with a person you are angry with for 8 hours straight might be rough & from Megan’s account it was. She felt that she wasn’t pretty when looking back through her photos, and as a result didn’t have an album or pictures printed from her day. As we continued talking I shared with Megan that she could always do an after session or Trash the Dress to get some of those moments back, and the next thing I knew, we were planning just that!
Although I am a BIG fan of the first look & letting a couple have those special moments together before the ceremony, I also know that it’s just not right for every couple & would never want a couple to feel pressured into it or get upset with me for pushing to do something they weren’t comfortable with…. hence the creation of the after session. For Adam & Megan, an after session was the perfect choice, and in planning it we wanted to make it around them & the things they are into. For these two, hiking, camping, off road biking & all things outdoors are what they love, so when I searched for a location I knew it needed to be something off the beaten path & something pretty rugged! The session was literally a dream as Adam & Megan are gorgeous & so much fun to be with.
A few months after the session, Megan shared with me that she felt that their after session was like getting married all over again & how special the experience was to both of them.
Here is what Megan had to say:
Adam and I wanted to do something special with our after shoot for many reasons. We were a little disappointed with out wedding photos and when we found Diana Rush Photography we knew that she was the one that would deliver something amazing. After being married a year we wanted to revisit our wedding day and celebrate our marriage in a unique way, it was so incredible to slip back into that dress and celebrate our marriage. As a hair stylist and makeup artist, I wanted to do something edgy and editorial, something I would see in a magazine. Now we are blessed with the most creative and beautiful photos we have ever taken. It was such an amazing experience. My husband said he actually had fun! You know men: they don’t like being in front of any camera. He had an amazing time! I love getting to gaze into his eyes and pose with him. It’s any girls dream. Diana worked so well with us to capture our lifestyle and personalities on film. We are outdoorsy, adventurous, and playful and we had a blast on site.
They look AMAZING. I would be elated to look back upon these photos. Clearly so worth it!
So, my friends… zee questions, zey begin. I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts, on one (or two or three or all if you wanna go FULL TILT) of the below, or just what’s going on inside your brain right now.
1) How do you feel about the First Look?
2) Have you ever worried that your wedding photos wouldn’t come out the way you’ve been hoping? Worse, did this happen to you, in your own personal way?
3) Have you had trouble choosing your perfect wedding photographer, in part, because you have a little concern about possibly being disappointed when the proofs come in after your big day?
4) Would you consider an after wedding session?
Excited to hear what you have to say!
xoxo! – Alison