PERSONAL POST | I’ve been avoiding thinking about my wedding. Plus, my personal wedding dress inspiration file.

Happy Thursday, you guys.  This is happening, I’m blogging this.  I can’t help myself.

Very recently, I’ve been avoiding thinking about my wedding.

It’s not to say I don’t want anything to do with it.  Or that I’m questioning my relationship.

I can thankfully count neither of those as being what’s at issue for me.  It’s wedding planning decision-making that’s giving me my trouble.  I’ve recently entered a (so far, brief) stage of *if I ignore the decision I have to make, then I can freeze time and the date won’t just creep up on me.*  Like hitting the pause button on planning for few seconds.

Unfortunately, that’s rubbish.  I’m not British so actually I don’t know what that means or if it’s conveying my message.  What I’m saying is you can’t do that–you can’t press pause when you’ve started as much as we have.  But anyway, I’m discovering that it’s a sort of stagnant comfort zone that I’m trying to claw my way out of right now.  I’m just feeling a pressure, probably self-imposed, to make decisions about my wedding, and to make them now.  So if you thought that wedding bloggers are the best equipped to put on their own weddings, I’d offer that we may have the industry relationships but we also have no shortage of inspiration from which to draw, plus the (also probably self-imposed, but at least also partially real) pressure of having a *good one* given the career we – the career I – have chosen.  Please understand that I’m not trying to complain, I’m not trying to come off that way, at all.  I’m sort of just venting off steam that I’ve been hesitant all along to mention publicly, on the blog.  Which meant, naturally, that I had to mention it on the blog.

No matter who you are, the process of planning a wedding, especially when you work full-time, is overwhelming, mentally.

Do any of you have trouble making decisions, and having them stick?

In other more positive news, since I don’t want to be a Debbie Downer 100% of the way through…

I’m also pretty happy right now because Monday thru Tuesday of next week, Trump SoHo ‘SoHi’ Hotel is putting me up gangsta style for a blogger event that’s kind of the best possible experience ever if you’re a girl.  And while I usually have a rule about not showing people my vagina until at least the second time we’ve hung out or done business, I’ve taken exception this time around; in fact I’ve signed up in advance for the privilege of showing them my wahoo.

Let me explain, the reason for this is I’m taking advantage of the various amazing spa treatments they offer, which include bikini sugar waxing (yay! but also yikes!), an organic spray tan (my first EVER spray tan, of which I’m frightened), a massage, and various other stuff with a common denominator of head-to-toe nudity.  You only live once, right?  Career-ending nude photos released, schmameer-schmending schmude schmotos shmeshmeased.  AMIRITE, people?

I feel like one of those bachelorette girls during her Fantasy Suite Card date, and how they feel like they have to act all “I don’t normally get naked on the first date, but anyway here’s my hoohaa.”

So in an effort to avoid having to PLAN ANYTHING ELSE WEDDING RELATED for a second, I was dreaming a little bit about that, and about how there’s this dress-picking-out factor I’m going to tell you guys about later on… and it got me thinking.  It has to do with my wedding dress.  I got to thinking about how I’ve been obsessing over a certain couture collection recently, so much so, that it’s my entire wedding dress inspiration folder.

So this is sort of a, “WHY HAVEN’T I SHARED A POST ABOUT MY WEDDING DRESS BEFORE NOW”  kinda deal.  Because given my overwhelmed state of mind about the wedding and all, I am so intrigued to hear your feedback about the dress styles I’ve got my eye on, and whether you think I’m on a good path.

It’s Valentino 2012, by the way.  That’s taken over my dress folder.  Formerly *Top Secret* personal dress folder.  But heck, what’s the point of keeping inspiration to yourself?

So, thumbs up on my direction with what I’m hoping to find in my wedding dress?

Also, do you/did you have a little collection of dress inspiration for your wedding?  Or, how’s the dress search coming along?  And all the other little details, for that matter?

xoxo  - Alison

images via voguefashionologie / deluxionist (shoes) / vancouver sun/ fashion gone rogue / images courtesy of Valentino + Alexander Klein, AFP/Getty Images

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28 comments

  1. chandra ~ Oh Lovely Day on March 21, 2012

    love your dress inspiration (so I guess that girl from the Decendants wore a wedding gown to the Oscars?) and sooooo wish I was going to the Trump SoHo spa with you! not to see your wahoo but just to have a gal pal reunion and that spa fun we didn’t do in Vegas! I’m a bit jelly. momma sure could use a wax, tan, and massage :)

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  2. Megan on March 21, 2012

    I have gotten to go wedding dress shopping with several of my lady friends and this is the advice I always give them…

    When looking at a dress, what words describe the style? In your case, 70′s, floral, bohemian, and flowy are some of the main themes in the photos you chose. Now look at your closet. Do these same words describe some of your favorite outfits?

    I think it is super important to feel like yourself but *special* on your wedding day, so if the dresses you are gravitating towards are a *special* version of what you already have in your closet, then you are on the right track to feeling like the most fabulous you.

    And yes, thumbs up!!

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  3. Loe on March 22, 2012

    Your dress direction is so gorgeous!! And most importantly, if you dig it, it’s totally the right direction.

    I don’t have much of a dress budget so I got a really pretty base, and with the help of two family members who are far more skilled in sewing than I am, are goin to add to and alter it. As for other details, holy crap. Picking out the right paper for invites/etc has been the hardest choice! :P

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  4. I really like weddings on March 22, 2012

    Even though I’m not engaged and far from that stage in my life, the thought of my own wedding actually scares the —- out of me.
    1) The public display of emotions just hangin’ out there…scary man.
    2) Having to make decisions. I mean HOW CAN YOU DECIDE? “But what about this…or that…” Then second guessing.

    But my daily anxiety usually gets the best of me so decision making isn’t my forte. Regardless, I still have my “secret” wedding folder.

    I just remember going prom dress shopping. For my junior prom I thought I knew what I wanted and didn’t want, but in the end I fell in love with a dress I thought I didn’t want. Senior prom I found a dress online (did tons of research) tried it on and bought it. That was the only dress I tried on.

    So I guess the moral of my long rant here is that you never know what you’ll like or won’t like.

    Sometimes I need to remind myself to take a step back from everything and take a breather.

    What ever you choose I’m sure you will look ferosh on your big day and your wedding will be off the hizznook

    xoxo

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  5. The Bitchy Bride on March 22, 2012

    I’m in that procrastination stage too! Instead of ringing people about wedding insurance and making decisions on veggie options, I just retreat to my craft room and make paper flowers. It’s kind of useful, but not exactly a priority.

    I love your dress inspirations and wish I had the figure for these styles. They’re all so elegant. I also wish I had your life – I want spa treatments and spray tans (let us know how that goes, I’ve never had one and they terrify me).

    Good luck with getting back into it xxx

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  6. Katie on March 22, 2012

    Oh Alison, I so hear you on the not wanting to make decisions! I was in the stage for quite a while and I still go back to it often for short periods ( a few days) usually to recover from a big decision I just made! Most recently I decided AND finalized our invitations! From Minted, woohoo!
    I don’t know why I let the pressure get the best of me! Planning a wedding doesn’t top my list of “Most difficult things I’ve ever done” but sometimes it feels that way! Now that time is no longer on my side (4 months to go!) I just take it one step at a time, and try not to worry about the next step until the first one is finished.
    AS FOR THE DRESS, this is one area that I’ve decided I won’t half-ass (not that I’m half-ass-ing things, but just trying not to obsessed with perfection), because seeing a beautiful bride in her AMAZING dress is what makes the wedding for me personally. So it’s got to be a show-stopper! The hunt is still on and last shopping day was a little disappointing but I’m going to stay positive because I know the dress for me is out there! The problem is definitely that I love them all but haven’t been able to picture myself getting married in any of them. And I thought this was going to be the easy part!
    Oh and yes, I love the direction you are going with the dress ideas! Good luck and keep us in the loop!

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  7. Tifanilyn on March 22, 2012

    I second guess every decision I make! Luckily i have a made of honor that stands there and tells me that I’m crazy and that it looks great lol.
    For the dress, I was hoping to find something around $1500 and I loved lace, once I tried it on I hated it! I couldn’t seem to find anything that didnt feel like I was wearing a giant trash bag lol. I went to so many bridal shops and finally went out of my own and found MY dress, completely NOT what I pictured but it felt like the one when I put it on :) and it was only $1000 so I couldn’t have been happier!

    Find that one person that knows your style and make them tell you that you made the right decision when you second guess them!

    Cheers,
    Tifani lyn

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  8. Stephanie Marie on March 22, 2012

    I totally feel you on the decision-making process. My fiance and I made a ton of decisions really quickly and I know we’re doing okay, time-wise, but… it just feels like there is SO much to do and SO many little things to worry over, and that’s exactly what I’m doing. It’s like I get into a panic every few days about the tiniest things and make a bunch of to-do lists and send emails and then stop and get distracted by my real life and then the cycle starts all over. Are you using a wedding planner? Just knowing I have someone behind the scenes, even if she’s not working on anything specific, makes me feel so much better about procrastinating!

    Dress-wise: I’ve seen so much, it’s hard not to want everything. Luckily, I hooked up with a fabulous young designer who custom-designed me something fabulous and unique– I just didn’t want to wear the same dresses hundreds of other brides with access to Kleinfelds has worn! I can truly feel that this dress is “me.”

    good luck! xox

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  9. Catherine on March 22, 2012

    Alison, I see a lot of similarity between these dresses and some of the ones you’ve gushed the most over when commenting on the real weddings you post, so that’s a pretty consistent style marker. I also agree with what Megan said. But it seems like you’re on the right track with what will work for you.

    Oh, and Chloe wags ‘hello’ to Bambino!

    Catherine

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  10. Kirsten on March 22, 2012

    I did a lot of research on dresses and then went to the one shop I loved the best. I tried on five dresses and bought the right one that day. Then I went to Nordstrom and lucked out and find the perfect shoes. The necklace was the first one that jumped out at me that worked. All that to say, it’s not that I didn’t care…. I did. But MANY choices will be “right” and I didn’t want to get hung up on “is there something better?” I chose what I loved and moved on. You’ll go crazy if you don’t just trust yourself to choose what is best for you (not your mom, friends or us your fans).

    Good luck! Research, decide, move on!

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  11. Kelli Ahern on March 22, 2012

    These dresses are extraordinary!!!! I love the new look of wedding dresses being printed or colors. WHY NOT? It’s your day and it can be anything you want it to be.

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  12. Lena on March 22, 2012

    BIG EFFING THUMBS UP on the dress. And to having obsessive folders full of dress inspiration. As a side note, mine are not labeled by season/year and include name/style number. Nope, they’re not.

    I’m a teensy bit relieved that I’m not the only one avoiding (and I am, big time. I keep telling everyone we’re getting married in 2014, and then my future mother in law gets concerned/upset and it’s AWESOME) wedding planning. There was a time in my life when I would use wedding fantasies to induce sleep–now they are nightmare-causative. Instead I dream about honeymoons.

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  13. Koru Kate {Koru Wedding} on March 22, 2012

    I adore gushing over wedding dresses & WOW, I love your little collection here. Very romantic & dreamy. It will be so fun when you can reveal your choice!

    Ah, wedding planning decisions. Such fun. I found it got easier once we started making decisions because one decision influenced the next decision which dictated the next decision, etc. Our vision & style became more & more defined & the decisions *almost* started to make themselves. Best wishes with all your wedding planning decisions~

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  14. Audrey on March 22, 2012

    I totally get where you’re coming from. It’s counting down now where we need to make important decisions and sometimes I just want everything to go away. I just want to drop everything, take my fiance and run like the wind somewhere quiet to get married in the woods/on the beach/in space. We all know that’s hardly practical, but sometimes the options and the decisions and people saying BUT WHY HAVEN’T YOU DONE THIS YET?? get waaayy too much.

    You’re doing great so far though, I commend you. Also, the dresses are to die for, and I’ve loved those loafers ever since they popped their adorable heads out of that collection. xx

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  15. isabelle on March 23, 2012

    I’m in love with this collection… I wish I was getting married again just so I could wear one of those short dresses at the beginning. So lovely… good pick.

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  16. Keri on March 23, 2012

    Oh. My. God. YES! I know exactly what you mean. My friends think I’m CrrrrrrrAzzzzy because I take so long to make every little decision and detail. Part of me wants everything to be perfect, since I am in the wedding industry I feel like I have to meet a certain standard, but also, I guess I feel like I don’t want it to be over. But then there are some days when all I want is for it to be over and us to be married and living happily ever after. I’m glad its not just me.

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  17. Estefy on March 23, 2012

    The dresses are soooo beautiful! Are you having it custom made?

    I put off decisions about life all the time and then abruptly make them. I feel like I always make the right one, or at least I hope, but I def lag it.

    I bet there will be days where the planning will be fun stuff! Especially since you already have an idea of what you want, just gotta put it into fruition. <3

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  18. Rachel on March 23, 2012

    Okay, love love love the dresses! I lovehehe art deco type ones and the floral print and now find myself thinking, WTH, I want a floral print wedding dress! I wish valentino was in my dress inspiration folder! Whenever I fall in love with a dress it ALWAYS ends up being a Monique Lhullier, and unfortunately for me, a 7-10,000 dollar dress is not in my budget. WHY ME?!! I’m so with you on the it’s easier to not think about instead of having to make actual decisions. But I actually suck really bad at making decisions– it took me 45 minutes the other day to choose between panera and chipotle! (I chose chipotle in case you were wondering!) So clearly, I don’t make decisions easily…let alone ones that actually matter! I got engaged on November 20 and just finally booked my venue yesterday. I feel like last night was the first night I actually slept since the engagement since I didn’t have to lay awake in bed googling wedding venues and trying to find that something different. HOWEVER, as good as it feels to have finally made this decision, I am freaking out about it. Is it the right place? Is everyone going to love it?? Is this what I’ve always envisioned? When I think about it, like right now, I feel like I could ralph. I have been buying and looking at wedding mags since I was 14 so I have NO clue how I’m ever going to choose a dress…I love them all- A-line, princess, fit and flare, lace, taffeta, organza..I love it all! I’m doomed.

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  19. Sarah on March 25, 2012

    Oh boy. These dresses are amazing! Where were they when I got married only 7 months ago?! I loved my lace dress but I think I would have killed for one of the flower printed ones. Or flower printed and lace like the second to last one. I think I love it the most. But it’s hard to choose. I can totally get married again right? Or just get one of these to wear around the house?

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  20. Ilana on March 26, 2012

    Wow. I’m in love with the strapless dress – roughly 1/3 of the way down the list – with the full skirt that looks like an antique quilt (in a really sexy, modern, vintage way). Loving it!

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  21. Allie on March 28, 2012

    Allison! You rock- i love your dress inspiration….so gorgeous and so you (well, from what I know of TKB). I am also a huge fan on the strapless! Can’t wait to see what you get! :)
    And I can totally relate to this business about avoiding-all-things-related-to-my-wedding-disease…i have it. and i get married in one month, yes i said ONE month. Better get over this disease and jump on the darn wedding-planning-band-wagon ASAP! not kidding. :)

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  22. Samira on June 8, 2012

    I love the dress in the second picture! All the others are also great for inspiration of course!

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  23. 4utea on July 5, 2012

    WOw!Beautiful wedding dresses!

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  24. promstreet on July 5, 2012

    Wonderful!!I like lace dresses.

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  25. John on August 15, 2012

    I’m impressed how the Little House on the Prairie style floral design patterns that are making a come back (to go along with your Tretorns) have extended all the way over to wedding dresses – yee-haw!

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  28. www.engaust.com.au on April 21, 2013

    Aw, this was a really nice post. In thought I would like to put in writing like this moreover – taking time and actual effort to make a very good article but what can I say I procrastinate alot and on no account seem to get something done.

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