PERSONAL POST + SOFT GLAM WEDDING | “Why follow others’ rules when you can make your own.” Vanessa Joy Photography & Rob Adams Films

Happy Tuesday afternoon/evening, faces.  Here’s me sharing something way too personal with you.  Crossing my fingers it’s not totally awkward for everyone involved.

I was sitting in my doctor’s waiting room yesterday, and if it was two hours it felt like two days.  I had asked my Mom to come with me.  She was off yesterday and this was the kind of appointment you want a loved one around for.  Mainly for when you have to walk back out into the waiting room armed with some news, and the only thing that’s different about you is absolutely everything.

If you follow me on Twitter you probably saw me tweeting some lighthearted jokes about what I was doing.  That’s how I deal with uncomfortable, scary situations.  I try to enjoy myself.  What else am I gonna do?

I’ve been debating since yesterday whether or not I should blog about the reason I had to see my gynecologist.  I’ve been back and forth between “nobody wants to hear about this” and “this is an important aspect of your life, talk about it” but always back to “no one wants to read about this, Alison.  Write something fun and introduce the wedding.”  As I write this I’m still unsure of whether or not I should even be sharing it, because I’m all concerned about your reaction.  I’m allergic to situations where it’s possible that people might think I’m seeking their attention or pity.  I hate the idea of people feeling sorry for me on the blog so I stay away from talking about the really heavy things here.  To be honest.  But at this point it’s like whatever, because the more I try not to tell you guys about it, the more consuming of my thoughts it becomes.  So here goes nothing.

So.  The reason I saw my gynecologist yesterday is because they found pre-cancerous cells on my cervix five years ago.  Since then my body has been in a constant state of trying to fight them off, though not without help of course.  There were the Gardasil shots.  And the scrapings.  And then there was yesterday, the culmination of a f**kload of appointments I’ve had over the last five years to deal with this situation.  And I walked into that appointment the way I’ve been walking around for the last five years, which is with two distinct fears: the possibility that I might have The C Word, and the fact that I might not be able to bear children.

And I’m in tears as I write this because of what is now the best sentence ever uttered to me in all of my *cough-cough* years.  ”Alison!  Your cervix looks BEAUTIFUL.”

I am flying, you guys.  I can’t put into words how worried I’ve been, and how anxious I’ve been about going back for that last check-up.  However I suspect that some of you may understand what this feels like, especially since my situation is becoming more and more prevalent among women.  So all I’d like to say before I get to today’s beautiful wedding by Vanessa Joy and Rob Adams is: LADIES, I HOPE YOU’RE SEEING YOUR GYNECOLOGIST REGULARLY.  And if not, I’m currently trying to kick your ass into doing it.  Because these kinds of things don’t start off with symptoms.  They have to be discovered on a pap smear.  So please, get checked if you haven’t?  I have a vested interest in you staying alive so that you can keep reading the The Knotty Bride.  Do you understand me?  Readers translate to profits.  And ok maybe part of it is that I care about you and want you to be healthy.

Aright, MOVING. ON.  Apologies to Michelle and Chris for talking about my lady parts for at LEAST several minutes in their feature.  Sorry Michelle and Chris!  It’s just that I got this “they’re cool” vibe from you guys so I went for it.  … Bygones?

Ok listen up, here’s the rundown from that gorgeous girl, Michelle!

My husband Chris and I are not traditional. When planning our wedding, we both agreed to make it a fun and lively experience. We wanted our wedding to stand out from most by doing things different from tradition styles. As a couple we wanted the best of the best while being different, which is why we had Vanessa Joy and her husband Rob Adams bring our wedding day to life through the artistic style of photography and cinematography. Due to their amazing work our day will always be remembered and viewed by family and friends through their fabulous non-traditional pictures/slide show and movie trailer. Chris and I decided to have a pre-view prior to our church ceremony and meet in an intimate setting with just him, myself and our bridal party. Many people may not agree to us doing a “First Look Pre-view” but as a bride I say to other future brides “why follow others’ traditional rules when you can make your own…..it’s your wedding do what you want”.

Our wedding color scheme was plum purple bridal dresses with bright lavender, ivory and yellow crème de la crème flowers. The Groom and Ushers attire was black tuxedos and silver vests….none of that matching the bridesmaids’ dresses…I think that’s tacky. I’m not your typical bride who loves flowers at weddings and so I found it difficult at first to figure out center pieces. However being that I like to be different I came up with the idea of having something that may have some flowers but is not all flowers. I decided to have manzenita trees and crystal trio candle sticks on every other table. The guests at my wedding were amazed at the center pieces and talked about them even long after the wedding. My advice to future brides would be “don’t be afraid to stand out and be different, be creative and allow loved ones around you embrace what you and your fiancée represent”. There are going to be things you want for your wedding that may or may not be available due to your budget. Know your budget prior to planning and use it towards the things that mean the most to you on your day. The most emotional part of my wedding experience was my “In memory “bouquet charm. I had it custom ordered in memory of my grandparents who passed away not long before my engagement. They have been in my life through all the good and the bad with open arms. It was devastating to not have them be a part of my wedding day in person but with that bouquet charm, which had their picture on it; they were there with me in spirit. For all who couldn’t be with us on that day we decided to have a memorial table next to our dais, which had pictures of loved ones who passed and a light candle in their memory. Our wedding was more then we could have ever imagined and we wouldn’t want to change a thing.

^ STRONG evidence in favor of uplighting ^

You guys, Rob did a same day edit for Michelle and Chris’ wedding; check it out below!

Oo, did I mention they made them a hella rad movie poster, too?  Because they DID:

 Congratulations Michelle and Chris!  Your wedding day was absolutely lovely!

Ok so.  Couple of questions, if you don’t mind…

1) How darling are Michelle and Chris?!

2) Can you believe I talked about my vagibbitty doodaa in this post?  I think the only remaining territories I have yet to explore on the blog are diarrhea and masturbation.  After that I think I’ve hit every possible embarassing and/or wholly inappropriate topic out there.  Go, that..?

kisses and cuddles and good health to you.

xoxo  - Alison

Photography: Vanessa Joy / Cinematography: Rob Adams / Submitted via Two Bright Lights / Wedding gown: Kleinfield / Hair & make up: Visage / Church: St. Clare / Reception hall: Addison Park / Centerpieces: Floral Sentiments / Bridal party flowers: Flowers by Bernard /parents flowers / Bridal party dresses: Hearts for you / Groom and ushers tuxedos: Men’s warehouse / Elite Beats Productions (website in process)

Vanessa Joy Photography and Rob Adams Films are both members of Vendor Love, TKB’s preferred vendors collective.  You can explore more of Vanessa Joy Photography and Rob Adams Films in our guide.

Label(s): Color, Popular *New*, Purple, Real Life Issues, {Real Weddings}

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33 comments

  1. Casey on June 12, 2012

    CONGRATS that is great news!!!!! What a relief for you! I can only hope that every lady gets to hear that her cervix is beautiful. Hooray!!

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  2. chandra ~ Oh Lovely Day on June 12, 2012

    oh sweetie, I’m so sorry you were going through that and so anxious about it. I totally know how that feels (for different medical reasons) and I couldn’t be happier that you have a beautiful cervix! yay :)

    beautiful wedding too :)

    must go, kiddo is throwing legos at my face and then giving me kisses for the booboos he is inflicting!

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  3. Hey Alison,

    I am so glad that everything is okay. That is such a scary situation. The C word is the worst in the world. I have never faced it myself but have with family and I know how bad it can be.

    I think it is great that you shared it with everyone. Not the easiest thing to do.

    Okay, now that everything is okay, all I can say is go forth and multiply (if that is what you want to do).

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  4. Jackie on June 12, 2012

    Congrats! I went through the EXACT same thing for four years and the 6 month visits are not fun at all. It will be a year in October that mine has been regular!

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  5. Emily Hansel on June 12, 2012

    Yay! That is wonderful news. A beautiful cervix is worth celebrating!

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  6. Brittany - the Home Ground on June 12, 2012

    I had an abnormal pap result last year and had to have a biopsy. It was the scariest medical moment of my life. Much scarier than thinking I need blood transfusions. Thankfully, I’ve had two follow-ups and have been fine since then, they weren’t pre-cancerous. But just the inkling of the possibility was so hard to deal with for the month or two b/w my pap and my biopsy. I can’t imagine living with the possibility, and ongoing issues, for five years. I’m so thankful you’re in the clear.

    You’re darn brave for sharing that, I never really spoke much about my run-in. Lovely post :)

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  7. Sarah {EventsbySE} on June 12, 2012

    Love a girl who can say vagina in public!! Thank you for sharing your story, it’s important for women to share these things and help others be aware! Gorg wedding as well…love the shoes!!

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  8. Maire on June 12, 2012

    I know exactly how it feels to have that uncertainly hanging over your head. I am so happy to hear that your cervix is beautiful and that you are healthy. But then again, how could you not be? With all the glorious wisdom and anecdotal humor you pour forth into your blog, the universe couldn’t possibly deprive you of motherhood. You sound perfect for the job.

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  9. Keri on June 13, 2012

    Thank you for sharing something so personal- You will help more people than you know! btw- we <3 Vanessa Joy!!

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  10. Sandy on June 13, 2012

    Sending you *hugs* of relief! So glad you’re okay!

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  11. Vanessa Joy on June 13, 2012

    I ADORE how you laid out this post!! Thank you so much for doing such beautiful work!

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  12. gigi on June 13, 2012

    ECSTATIC that you are healthy!!! so you can continue to write this heartwarming, humorous, and beautiful blog. BTW, gorgeous wedding and gorgeous photography.

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  13. Ariana on June 13, 2012

    It’s great that you shared with us Alison. There are TONS of wedding blogs around and I assume the reason most of us stick with yours is YOU. I’m really glad your results were good. I’m sure that’s a huge weight lifted from your shoulders! Now you can go back to worrying about other things…like centerpieces… :p

    Lovely wedding on the blog, as usual!

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  14. Lena on June 13, 2012

    This made me tear up–knowing that we’ve both been going through this difficult, painful (literally and figuratively), terrifying experience reminds me that I’m not alone when I schedule a colposcopy every 6 months, when I wait for a phone call. I could not be happier to hear about your beautiful cervix!

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    • Alison on June 13, 2012

      Aahh! Lena! we keep having random huge things in common it’s freaking me out! xx

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  15. Natthawat Wongrat on June 13, 2012

    Very lovely…nicely done.

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  16. Kristine {In Love, Engaged} on June 13, 2012

    I went through this myself a couple of years ago. Right about the time I started dating my now husband (cue awkward conversation). I can still clearly remember that first phone call from my doctor. I was completely shocked and overwhelmed and didn’t know what to do and, I’ll be honest, a little ashamed. But I did the best I could to boost my immunity, drank A LOT of green tea and took my prenatals, went to my 6 mon checkups on time and then received the same beautiful news that all was OK. It’s amazing how many people go through this, isn’t it? And it’s also amazing what early detection can do for you. I’m a huge proponent of taking care of your lady parts. I mean, hello?! They are your LADY PARTS. So glad to hear everything is back to normal for you, Alison. And thanks for having the courage to say something about it. xo

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  17. Libby on June 13, 2012

    Great news, Alison! You may struggle with these personal posts, but they are much appreciated.
    Love the wedding, too. Those shoes are amazing!

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  18. C.René on June 14, 2012

    Those shoes are gorgeous. I’m loving the hair – the veil the crystal headband, the highlights and those trees wrapped in light – STUNNING.

    Ok, I just thought the wedding should have a shout-out, but HOOORAY for beautiful cervixes! What a huge weight that has been lifted! There is so much tied to this issue and I’m so thrilled that your story has a happy ending! Completely approve of posting about this – more women need to get tested!

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  19. Mindy on June 14, 2012

    I had to have the “scraping” done twice and every year I’m a little nervous following my pap until I get the all-clear letter from my doc. I’ve been all-clear for 7 years. I’m super duper glad you are okay!

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  20. Tim Duncan on June 15, 2012

    The shoes = STUNNING!!

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  21. Abbie Keleher on June 19, 2012

    So glad everything is okay!

    Now about those shoes…do you know where she got them? I need fabulous wedding shoes that won’t kill my feet! Any suggestions on where to look? Dillards, Nordstroms, and even DSW have failed me.

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  22. Erin M. on June 20, 2012

    Wow those necklaces your bridesmaids were wearing looked stunning, and I absolutely adore your tiara and shoes

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  23. Katarina I. on June 21, 2012

    Well first I would like to address the “talking part” before I move on to this beautiful wedding. I am a blog writer for weddings as well and I understand your worries about personal, serious topics that we sometimes tend to have in our heads. As writers it is very difficult sometimes to figure out if the readers are even interested in that topic but I am very, very glad you brought it up because your blog as well as many other ones mostly focus on women and it is important to bring attention to serious problems. I have my own experience with my mother who had a tumor on her ovaries and had to take one of them out after having me. I still have a fear that some cells could have been transferred to me, so I make sure to do routines and check-ups regularly. I am glad to hear that you are all clear and that is not a sad topic, instead it is a very happy one with a happy ending=).
    Now to move on ….
    First Congrats Michelle and Chris! Second this “make your own rules” wedding is amazing. I am all for tradition but I completely agree with this bride and her view on creating your own style. Every wedding should have a little bit of creativity and individuality to it. That’s what makes it yours. I absolutely love her choice of colors. The theme colors are very unique. Even though the groomsman weren’t matchy-matchy with the bridesmaids the colors of the attire still complemented the bridesmaid dresses. When it comes to the brides look I think she looked amazing. The style of the dress really suited her figure and the blinged out shoes were a cherry on top. I am very family oriented so the bouquet charm really hit the soft spot. It is a very exceptional idea and a great way to show respect and love that she had towards them. Unlike the bride I am a flower person but the Manzenita Trees could easily change my mind. What a beautiful, simple and elegant idea. The candles hanging from the trees are a great addition and add a little romance to each table. Overall the wedding reception looked stunning and to me it even looked budget-friendly. It had little detail but big effect which is the most important thing when you are working on a tight budget.
    In conclusion, this amazing wedding, its great venues, and the beautiful couple, made this one of my favorite “make your own rules” wedding.
    P.S. The film and the photos are outstanding!

    Katarina I
    Weddingful – Plan a Fabulous Wedding

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  24. Alyx on July 3, 2012

    her shoes are gorgeous !!! congrats for this beautiful wedding

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  25. My Love Wedding Ring on July 4, 2012

    Glad to hear that all is okay – it must be a relief, you often don;t realise how much something is weighing on you until you are relieved of it. As for the wedding – a stunner! Love it :)

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  26. littlehamptons on July 14, 2012

    Hi, I loved your wedding party. The shoes was so cute. I will recommend it to a friend of mine who is getting marry. loved the idea and the color. Congratulations.

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  27. Ashley Stern on July 17, 2012

    I lovelovelove those shoes! I’ve had my eyes on these, they’re the same as Carrie Bradshaw wore in SATC movie but Tiffany Blue: http://perfectdetails.com/Goodie-Sky-Blue.htm

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  28. www.sorrentoweddings.com.au on August 11, 2012

    The flowers look amazing ! Soo beautiful :)

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  29. Bethany on September 17, 2012

    Great photographs here, love the colours and tones used.

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  30. Malaya on May 3, 2013

    First of all, how precious are they!? So in love & so happy.

    Absolutely STUNNING! It’s styled to perfection, the bling is fantastic, everyone looks beautiful, LOVE IT ALL!

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  31. Ana on May 23, 2013

    Im getting married soon.. I don’t like any bridal shoes that I have seen, but these are stunning!!! Where can I find them??

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  32. kyndal on June 20, 2014

    I know this is an old post but is there any way to find out where these shoes are from?

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