Ok. If you’ve ever wondered about how marriage and the having of children impact a couple’s sex life — or if you’re there right now and you’re feeling desperate for some real world advice — consider today’s post required reading.
I am not kidding around. If you read only five posts on this blog, let this be one of them. Here’s another. There are more but let’s try to focus.
A married friend of mine recently told me that she and her husband aren’t having as much sex as they used to, and that she’s at a loss for what to do. She said he gets defensive when she brings it up and shuts down the conversation. So at this point they’re not really talking about it, which definitely doesn’t seem like a good road to go down.
I feel really bad for her and want to help but all I could think to do was reassure her that everything will be ok, which I don’t even know if that’s case. I mean what do you do when a friend tells you this?
I’ve always assumed that if you love each other, and have a good connection, then everything will be fine. But I’m starting to feel like I’m just being naive?
One more thing… please tell me it’s possible to still have a great sex life while there’s a dependent zero year old around 24/7. Please.
Thank you in advance for any help you can provide, I truly appreciate it.
I really love TED Talks. Have you heard of them? I find I learn so much from them, above any other source. They have talks from knowledgeable people on topics like humanity, technology, business, sex, relationships-you name it, they talk about it. And in incredibly clear detail. I highly recommend them.
The talk delivered by Esther Perel in the video below is probably my favorite. It speaks to everything I’ve personally ever wondered about the impact that marriage and new parenthood have on our existing sex lives. The best thing you can say to your friend is that she’s not alone. This is normal stuff. It’s about how you deal with it as a couple that makes all the difference.
Now sit back and watch an audience uncomfortable-laugh their way through a sex talk that finally resonates with their real life experiences.
It’s about 20 minutes long and it will explain EVERYTHING.
Do you guys have insight, or advice, for Miss C and her friend?
As always, no information is too much information for this blog, even when it comes to sex. Especially then. So feel free to keep it real ladies and gents.
P.S. – Do you have any questions you’d like to submit to the Dear TKB advice column? Send a question to alison(@)theknottybride.com and I might answer it on the blog! Of course, your privacy is my priority. Names are never revealed.
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