“Dear TKB: Help! My sister is about to marry a man she’s never kissed!” | Plus: OMFG, THESE DRESSES.

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So the concerned half-sister of a virgin bride wrote in recently for advice, and I’ve made her question the focus of today’s post.  It prompts the broader question for today:  Do you think it’s important to have sex with your partner before marrying that partner? 

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WANT TO WRITE FOR TKB? + 13 Songs You NEED to Start *Doing It* To! + “Dear TKB: Our Relationship Is Falling Apart As We Plan Our Wedding… Help!” {NSFW}

>> Quick update on this: we’ve been sitting here in we’re-not-worthy mode ever since your emails started streaming in last week, and we first want to say a huge thanks.  ¡Thanks!   It’s been so thrilling to see how many interesting people out there – who can also write and/or make cool things – want to write and/or make those things right here on our blog!  *cries*  We’re so happy in fact with your responses so far that we’re putting an end date on this thing, sorry :(  So just a heads up, we won’t be accepting any emails after Monday May 20th at 11:59pm EST.  No presh!   

(drinks entire cup of coffee in one gulp)

LET’S DO THIS!!!!!!!!!111111

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GIRL TALK: The Single Most Essential Behavior to a Lasting Relationship. Do You Do It? PLUS: A DIY Rustic Vintage Teacup Wedding by Honey Honey, & LOL News Fit to Blog.

OMFGYOUGUYSTHISWEDDING.  <== no seriously this time.

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THIS JUST IN: Most Women Are Still Lying to Men. About Everything From Interest to Orgasms. But Why?

Happy Saturday morning, you guys.  Weekend post comin’ atcha FACE.  High kick, woot!

But first, a light warning…

This post centers around an adult-only topic, so I need you to pull out your Serious Helmet and slide it onto your Noodle whoa whoa whoa WHOA.  …Did that just sound like I was talking about penises, or did that just sound like I was talking about penises.  Wait a second, is it ‘penises?’  Seems weird but I’m coming off of 5 hours sleep— penes, maybe?  Peonies.  Okay……. you know what, I’m sorry.  I’m sorry.

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DEAR TKB | “What do you do when someone you love loses control?” I was extremely hesitant to publish this post. But my hesitation just confirmed that I had to do it.

Let’s start light, on this lovely Wednesday evening.  With a fact…

Whenever Honey says “You know what’s funny?” I go “YA FACE.”  It’s a knee-jerk reaction but I think I’m gonna stop doing that.

You know why?  Because when I’m sick like right now he goes and he does this:

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PERSONAL POST | If you’re my Honey, DO NOT READ | One perfect way to turn something sad into something happy, in your daily life and on your wedding day.

I don’t really know how to start off this post.  It’s about 6:45pm east coast time on Tuesday, and here I am, slightly in shock.  And it’s not for the reason you may be thinking.  It’s not because we just lost Honey’s grandma – whose funeral was, as many of you know, yesterday.  (By the way, thank you so much for your understanding in my decision to keep the blog silent yesterday.)  It’s not the fact that Grandma Henny’s death has brought to the surface how much I deeply miss my {Continue reading…}

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SUPER PERSONAL | Sometimes, life kicks your face. But it also reminds you that there are only two things that truly matter in love, weddings and marriage.

Happiest of evenings, pretty faces.  It’s a little after 9pm in the evening here in NYC, and I’ve got some heavy stuff to share that isn’t at all what I ever wanted to share today.

First, let me say that I hope your day has gone well, complete with a delicious lunch, lots of emails answered and little to no drama/back-stabbing going on within the common areas or washrooms of your respective offices.  Yes?  I do hope so.  Because nobody likes office drama.  Totally messes with efficiency.  Anyway this post is kinda heavy on the personal, emotional side.  And quite low on the helpful-use-of-transitional-phrases side, as you just experienced when I jumped from workplace efficiency to Alison’s EMOTIONS.  So, just a warning, if this kind of thing isn’t for you today.  I’m pretty sure you guys won’t mind, but heck, you never know.   {Continue reading…}

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DEAR TKB: “He Wants to Invite His Ex-Girlfriend to Our Wedding.” | Plus, three of my FAVE things to use in a shoot.

two of my fave things are in these photos, but can you guess what the third is?  it’s not revealed up there…

Hey lovies!  Three – count ‘em, three! – photographer friends recently asked me to make sure I include some Bambino in their features, so I’m telling you, if you’ve been suffering without your Bam fix a bit, relax, he’s back.  I do want to warn you, though, that Bambino is en fuego today in aisle 4 of the Adorable Department.  He’s not performing as well in the {Continue reading…}

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RUSTIC DIY LOVE + Editor’s Notes on Relationships | Mason Jars Shall Live Forever + Could You *Imagine* Leaving Your Beloved Over Money? + Bambo’s Back.

Because “I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant: Baby in My Sweatpants” seemed like a show unbefitting of dinnertime programming, we watched the only other option our trusty little Tivo suggestions folder offered us, which turned out to be a couple of episodes from MTV’s “True Life” series.  The series happens to be a tried and true favorite of mine, because it’s one of the few the only show on MTV that has real life relevance and teaches lessons.

So that said… today we’ve got a bit of a Smörgåsbord post for your faces.  Woot, go Friday afternoon posts!  Ok, first up, {Continue reading…}

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LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS | They are entirely what *you* make of them… and all you need is 5 minutes.

Happy day, darlings!  Ok, it’s weird that I just started out this post like that, because I have some unfortunate news, my friends.  It seems… well it seems it’s happened again.

Remember that time when I told you about that couple fighting outside at around 3am, right under our window, and how it kept the neighborhood up?  Well, 21 Break-up Street struck again.  For what is now the second time, a man and a woman collided verbally ‘neath our window sill last night and commenced break-up-fighting of the *slapping hands together in opponents face* and *screaming angrily without listening to the other party* variety.  {Continue reading…}

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RUFFLES, SPARKLE, LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS | Lessons from The Bachelor | On the importance of finding your ‘best fit’ … both in love, and in your wedding dress.

↑ Barf.

Happy Tuesday, honeys!  Ok, let’s get to it.  This is so not what I wanted to start off with today, but life throws you curveballs… {Continue reading…}

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VENDOR LOVE COUNTDOWN + WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY GIVEAWAY! | Ladies and gentlemen, the competition is about to begin…

It’s official, everyone.  It’s happening.  Vendor Love™, The Knotty Bride’s Preferred Vendor Guide launches NEXT WEEK… and we’re having excitement induced conniptions.  And to celebrate, we’re launching our first amazeballs photography giveaway TOMORROW!

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On Self-Love.

This about says it.

via Mayra Tinoco

Just had to add this post today.  It’s too pretty and too true not to, right?

xoxo!  – Alison

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“THE NEW MONOGAMY” | Wonder What Your Partner Is Thinking? | Also, “The New Wedding Cake!”

Update from the Editor (that’s me!)…

This post has garnered a lot of attention, as one might expect.  It’s quite a digression from what I typically post (well, save for the cuppie-cake aspect).  However, as we plan one of the most exciting and personal days of our lives, we can’t allow ourselves to ignore one very important thing.  How do we – as a couple – define our relationship?  It’s likely the most critical conversation to have with your significant other… whether or not you think you know how s/he feels.

The concept of monogamy is one that affects each and every one of us on a highly personal level, and the very thought that its traditional definition is being threatened can shake us to our cores.  Your comments on the topic have been so deeply thought out and so incredibly serious that I decided to give this post another day of life above the fold.  Let’s keep the conversation going…

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Ok, so yesterday I randomly came upon quite the blog-worthy item.  It has little to do with wedding planning, but it has everything to do with love and relationships, which is of equal importance… some might even say greater importance.  Let’s begin.

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RENEGADE CRAFT FAIR + LOVE LESSONS | birch bark centerpiece idea + a note on what we seek in our mates…

I’m really excited today because I get to share with you guys what I think is a seriously fab idea for your wedding centerpieces.

But I’d also like to tell a story today about computer love and how opposites attract, so let’s begin with story time, and then jump right back into today’s feature.  Ok, here we go… hope you enjoy!

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As many of you know, I own an iMac, and I make love to it on a daily basis, for upwards of ten hours.  It’s a steamy love affair; I seem to know just the right buttons to push.  And though sometimes I worry I’m maxing out his resources, all it really takes is a quick shutdown and restart for him to feel completely recharged and ready to take me on for another go.  Of course, we have our moments but, all in all, I love my iMac and, though he doesn’t talk much (save for a thunderous roar every time I turn him on), I’m pretty certain my iMac loves me.

But my iMac is a desktop.  He keeps me chained to my desk, and I don’t appreciate it.  In fact, I’ve grown to resent it.  I need to roam free, where the grass grows and the inspiration flows.  And I want to have the option to take him along with me, should the mood strike to write a post while I’m out and about.  So recently I’ve been pondering what it would be like to have a MacBook Pro.  I have a MacBook already, but he’s from my college years and way too overworked and immature to handle my needs these days.  Plus, his battery life is crap.  He’s a three minute man.

It has taken me months to get comfortable with the idea of taking on another Mac, but, in weighing my options and my needs, I’ve determined that for me and my projects to be able to grow, I must be free to move about the cabin of life.  … and blog from there.  (–Ohhh how cool am I.)

Ok, now here’s where my significant other comes into the story (and please note ~ for today, I will refer to my significant other as “Fancy Pants McGee”  or “Fancy P. McGee” – and quite possibly F.P. McGee or FPM if I get tired – from here on out, as I see fit):

So, I told Fancy P. McGee that I’d finally broken down and decided that I do need a laptop.  I had done some research (aka, clicked one button) and found that a student discount would shave MAX $150 off the retail price of the MacBook Pro I was eyeing.  Our conversation went as follows:

FPM: That’s great! What do Anthropologie dresses cost these days?  You could probably get two for $150 – you should do that with the money!

ME: First of all, no I couldn’t.  $150 would buy me ahh dress, not two, or maybe a pair of jeans at Anthro.  But as far as the comp goes, it’s gonna cost between $1k and $2K, and a student discount will save me around $150, but I’ll still be in the hole $1500.  Not coming out on top here.  No net profit.

FPM: Yeah, no I get it, babe.  What I’m saying is you’ll have saved $150, so you should treat yourself to that much in fashions (Ok, he didn’t call them fashions, I only wish he had.  Dwight from Real Housewives of ATL has been repeating “fashion show with no fashions” all day in my head, so that’s where that came from.)

ME: I should spend the saved money?  I don’t understand.  I’ll be out $1500.

FPM: You save $150 with the discount, so you’ll have $150 left over that you wouldn’t have had without the discount.

ME: OMG.  I get it now.  This is found money to you!

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This is one way in which Fancy P. and I could not be more dissimilar.  Could not.  But here’s the moral of the story: we often seek out mates with traits we wish we had more of in ourselves.  I’m a saver-to-the-max, and wish I felt comfortable parting with a little discretionary income every so often.  Kidding, I don’t have “discretionary income.”  That’s a term that entitled folk invented to feel better about buying gilded furniture and designing themed rooms in their homes instead of helping others.

But yeah, I do wish I felt a little more comfortable spending on myself every once in a while.  And that’s where Fancy Pants comes in.  I’ve tamed his ways considerably, but he’s still got that itch to spend coursing through his veins.  And sometimes, it’s not such a bad thing to let it run wild.  But only sometimes.  … like with bed purchases.  (Most of you guys know what I’m talking about; more on that in the future!)

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Ok, back to the centerpieces!

Bettula is one of the many amazing vendors I encountered at Renegade this past weekend.  With Bettula, Heather Fagan has created a line of vases (not to mention other home decor, art and even jewelry) all made from repurposed birch bark.  How cool is she and how rad is that?  And how fab does it all look?

I think these vases would work so well as centerpieces.  Place flowers or plants of your choice in vases of varying heights, and you’ve got some serious eye candy for your guests to ogle while they eat.  I adore the natural ones, but those gold numbers are incredibly flashtastic if you ask me.  Of course, you’ll want to go with what works for your color scheme.

(This girl was really into the display – like, really – so I chose not to disturb her.  It’s only when I see the photos in their full glory that I realize asking her to step away for a moment would have been the wisest choice of all.  I will remember this lesson for next time.)

Like Heather’s work?  Think you might fancy the idea of using her vases for some centerpiece action?  Go ahead and check out her Etsy shop!

So, what do you guys think?  Would you throw some flowers/candles/succulents into these babies, delicately place them on your tables and call it a day?  Are they wedding worthy in your book?  Tell me the truth; I’m really curious what you think!

xoxo!  -Alison

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